why shouldnt i commit suicide?

Question

There is no point to life but love. My skin is very thin and so i get strectchmarks easily, i just found them on my face. Since everything else in my life has gone wrong, and now I am disfigured why shouldnt i commit suicide ? And dont say because its a sin, because there is no god, and dont tell me to find god either. Don't say because its selfish, because its my life and its selfish for others to keep me around for themselves

Answer 1

plenty many people who're not well endowed

helen keller outshone most people with better assets
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Helen_Keller

on-date millions of people who get to eat one loaf of bread once every few days

... get on in life, get out of u'r pity pot

search for solutions ... u sure to surmount u'r problems

god helps those who help themselves !

Answer 2

A disfigurement such as thin skin can be easily worked around with cover-up, or cosmetic surgery. I have contemplated suicide in the past, but of all the reasons which I gave myself (some of them were understandable but some are embarrassingly overly dramatic looking back), the fact that I am disfigured never entered my mind as a reason to not live. One of my breasts never grew. You may not understand how horrible that would be, but it destroyed my already fragile self-esteem. I couldn't go swimming any more, couldn't wear tank tops, anything even remotely low cut or thin, or low in the back. I wore sweaters and a trench coat all year round. I was too ashamed to have intimate relationships. I went through 4 surgeries with some seriously disfiguring complications, and I still don't like how I look.

...But with time I grew to accept it enough to no longer obsess. I realize now that I care about it more than anyone else does. What could people possibly think of you for having thin skin that is so bad that it could factor into your justifications for killing yourself? If it's your self-esteem that you're worried about, you will recover.

As for selfishness? I once came to the same conclusion as you. The problem is that I was SO serious about committing suicide I wanted to make sure that I had tied together all loose ends, and that I had the perfect plan. The problem was that by the time that I had officially gathered all of the items I had spend many hours philosophizing.

...Is it possible that there is an afterlife? What if the act of killing myself actually does determine if something horrible will be waiting for me? What if I have to live through the horrible experiences in my life again until I get it right the next time? What will people think of me when I'm gone? How will it affect others? If I live, how many people could I help even though I'm hurting? How will everyone react? Will I ever fully remember my past? What could I do with my life if I lived? Would I find love?

...So I waited. Just for a little while.

And in that time a close friend with severe bipolar disorder killed himself -a friend who I knew was intensely depressed, but I had neglected because I was too wrapped up in my own pain.

The ripple effect of his suicide had a huge impact on everyone who knew him. For me it was the last straw. I had a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized, spent many years in therapy and on drugs. It was, however, the event in my life which forced me to confront the truth which I was so afraid to admit to. The truth was that if I had commit suicide, there would be a chance that I would be inflicting the same horrific pain and guilt which was capable of pushing me into an even darker depression onto others.

That possibility terrified me, and I vowed to never kill myself from that point on.

Take from this whatever you will, but that was 10 years ago for me now and I am happy, I am in love, and I have a great future ahead of me.

So do you. You just don't know it yet. It can always get easier. You just have to do something about it.

Talk to a friend, get some help. You can e-mail me if you need someone else to talk to.

You'll get through this.

Answer 3

You need some professional help to have a good person to talk to, a good friend, and someone who knows you from the inside. Suicide is not the answer. We must live for hope, and never give up on your dreams. My good friend always reminds me, most people have hopes and dreams, but very few ever get them. So just do your best each day, look for the small things and short moments to be grateful for what you have and experience, and try to enjoy the journey along the way. You never know what positive experience you might have on someone, and the good will come back to you. Others would not be around you, if you didn't have some special qualities, so focus on what you have in common, and try not to judge their motives. One day at a time.
May you find some peace and smiles.

Answer 4

Hmm... I think it is entirely up to you as whether or not you commit suicide. It sounds like you were handed a difficult hand of cards to play with. I don't think that committing suicide is a positive thing if you are healthy enough to live in a conscious state without the use of machines. I tend to think that we are hear on this earth to learn how to love even when everything around us is a bunch of crap.

One of my favorite philosophers Chuang Tzu said, “Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness.”

I would suggest that you read this book:
http://www.religiousworlds.com/taoism/cz-text2.html

In there he talks about many things about life, even people who are disfigured. Give the link a chance, the book is there for free and I think it may help you. It has nothing to do with condemnation or self righteousness or none of that. Just a great poem about life and us humans.

Whatever path you end up taking I wish you the best and hope that you find some peace.

Answer 5

do you know how immature you sound. you were given life and that is a privleage. you will hurt your family and anyone else you love. if you say there is no point in life but love, then why are you going to kill yourself if you love your family and friends. this is just a lie and it seems to me you just want attention.think of people who want to live but have cancer or cannot walk. it is selfish because it may be your life, but you are only thinking of yourself and not how it will effect the people around you. if you kill yourself, it will effect people for years to come, and it may effect people you don't even know yet. don't be a dumba$$, don't be immature just because you have a skin problem. would you rather trade places with someone who has brittle bones that break easily? think about it!

Answer 6

You shouldn't commit suicide because there is a homeless dog at the animal shelter that only wants to be loved and doesn't care what you look like. If you take care of that dog, you would represent the world to that animal. There is always someone who cares.

by the way - many people who are disfigured are loved by others - if you think that is reason to commit suicide then you are as superficial as you see the world.

Answer 7

Well, I don't know the meaning of life...so I don't know what the point of living is....

my perspective is, in life u got good and bad times...you're going to die anyways, might as well just find whatever diversions in life u can until u die...why do you need to die now?

If it's because of looks, I see many ugly *** women (at least I think they are ugly) being supermodels - dif dudes got dif taste in women, and I can promise u that I have yet to meet a guy that gives a fvck about stretch marks on a woman....right now I think life is pretty freekin lame, but my strategy is going to school to be a doctor so I can make mad money and not work for anyone else...just pick a strategy to make things lil bit interesting and work it like that

If life aint interesting, then make it interesting

Answer 8

What a question to ask here?

But, I personally feel that I have written a book which is available on www.lulu.com/content/231873
The same thing can be accessed by joining India yahoo-groups for free.
I do not want to sell book to my dying friend who have many reasons to do it but I have another selfish reasons.
The reasons are simple. Because God has sent you for my research work. If you take little pain before you die and submit some critical view, it will be helpful to me and many others.
If you have decided that life is useless, I think no amount of word can help but I will love to put your details in my book for the world to know.
Can I request you to send me your reasons for dying to my e-mail address [e-mail]
I find that every creatures is just a part of the big events in a galaxy. Even if you have pain, frustration, failure, neglect... It is life. When Osama can live in Jungle for his selfish motives amidst all pain and scarcity, you must think twice your worth.
We are we.... we are spirit... it comes.. it goes.. let it happens...

Answer 9

Think about those who have it a whole lot worse than you do.

They may be born with severe handicaps, or involved in auto accidents, or born in very poor countries.

Think of how they find the strength to go on and live and draw strenght from that.

Then you will realize you could be a lot worse off and what you suffer from is trivial compared to what they have to go through.

Look at the blessings you may have. Realize the good that you have in your life or how you can make a difference in someone else's.

Answer 10

you have no right to take your life,because you do not own it,God is the one who gives it to you and He is the only one who can get it back,so as long as you are still alive it means God wants you to be a part of a wonderful plan He intend you to discover,that soul of yours has a purpose,you are loved so you have to share that love and your life,if not with someone maybe the one who gives that life of yours needs also that love of yours,so dont waste it,many outhere are looking for answers and cannot find it, hey,if you have committed suicide maybe i was not able to answer you,because there will be no chance m to be asking me this,one thing,you said there is no God,,if you dont believe that there is the One God with us then ask yourself,in a coin theres always two sides,if the good side you dont believe and it is on God side,then the remaining side is what. HAVE A NICE LIFE.you are wonderful in Gods sight,just believe okay,love you with the Love of God.May He bless you to give you a wonderful eyesight looking towards a wonderful you.

Answer 11

well it seems you have all the answers. first off, get over yourself. if you just excuse away anything everyone says then you'll never get a 'good' answer. life may be hard but it doesn't mean it's not worth living, it just means you haven't found what makes it worth living [you have to go find it]. i've been there so don't think i'm just talking theoretically. good luck