I was just wondering, can a married woman be just friends with a single guy? Just friends means that they can hang out and nothing else.
2007-03-02 18:10:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am married for just under a year and I love my husband and would never cheat on him.
I am going to school, and in one of my classes there is a guy and he has been trying to talk to me, emails and instant messenger mainly.
The thing is I would like to talk to him and be friends, I believe it could work but I just wanted to see if anyone had stories of whether or not the same kind of relationship worked for them.
2007-03-02 18:13:29 · update #1
When younger, I saw nothing wrong with this type of situation, however, I see differently now (at age 55). Even though one may not have interest to go beyond a platonic relationship, it's too easy to become involved--to go beyond what was intended. Perhaps you can answer your question if you turn it around, that is, would you want your husband to be "just friends" with a single woman?
2007-03-02 19:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by EMCEE 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems your intentions are pure, but it doesn't sound the same for your guy "friend". Be careful and trust your instincts. If it seems like his motives are crooked, they probably are. What is your husbands opinion on the matter? Is he comfortable with it? While you are still an independent woman entitled to relationships outside of your marriage, you must be respectful of your husband and his feelings. How would you feel if the tables were turned? Even if the friendship is completely innocent, jealousy is part of basic human nature and can be very damaging to a relationship. If hubby is cool, i think it could possibly work, as long as everyone involved is mature and honest but the probability is it won't. Make sure you keep everything out in the open - the second you feel like you have to hide something, you have a problem. I would suggest public outings with minimal alcohol just to be safe. I wish you the best.
2007-03-03 02:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by MI Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married for 12 yrs and I have male friends but I make sure that he knows about everyone. Be leary in a guy who is looking to be more than just friends. Some guys will know that you are married and will try to woo you in to leaving your husband for himself. Although I'm sure that if you love your hubby enough you wouldnt let it happen but there are some men out there that do not care if you are married or not... You can be friends with someone but make sure that the little things like getting closer ... and having one thing lead to another and accidentally kissing or more. Dont put yourself in that situation to where it is even possible. ((deep down and only you really know this or not..)). do you have an attraction to this guy? Why is ther SOMETHING about this guy that you just have to have a s a friend... and if you become friends.... make sure that YOU ARE NOT HANGING OUT WITH HIM MORE THAN YOU DO WITH YOUR HUSBAND. You want your hubby to be comfortable with it. even invite him along sometimes. Hope it helps
2007-03-03 03:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by misspookett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask it the other way your husband loves you very much, but he made friends with a girl at work and thought she was nice, so they became friends and emailed eachother and hung out. I ask where is your loyalty to your husband, is your husband this type of person as well. what happened to your husband being your best friend and you don't need anyone else. Are you happy in your marriage to desire another mans friendship, which may get out of hand on his behalf,or are you hoping this would happen????
2007-03-03 06:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be nice to him but not too nice.There was a guy who became known in my town for zooming in on a girl that he couldn't have,then when he got her,he didn't want her anymore.There are some guys who want what they can't have and It sounds like this guy probably has more motives than just friendship.He's definitly flirting and your marriage could pay the price.If you think it's so innocent ask your husband how he feels and consider if things were the other way around,how would you feel?
2007-03-03 02:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being friends with someone of the opposite sex. My husband has had many female friends over the years, and I have had male friends. We don't try to hide the friendships from eachother and are very open in communication about the friendships, so it's never a problem. As long as you don't hide anything from your husband and always let him know he comes first, he shouldn't have a problem.
2007-03-03 02:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Missy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok! It's not good to have male friends that your husband is not friends with. Would you want your husband hanging out with female friends at the bar or going out to eat. Things can escalate into something else on either side. It happen to someone I know, on the guys end he started liking her and started making comments that was really out of line. Or you can ask your husband, if he approve of you having male friends and hanging out with them.
You don't want your good, to be evil spoken of.
2007-03-03 02:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by K_pink05 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, bring him around your husband and see if you all can get along, my husband and i get along with each others friends (male and female), and he's fine with me hanging around the guys when he's not around (i even dated one of his friends and had his friends make passes at me before i started a relationship with my now hubby) and we haven't had any issues since we've been together as long as the friend isn't trying to mess around or anything like that. Beware of false intentions. i have gotten green eyed with him though because he's had friendships with girls that were deliberately trying to seduce him openly. And he's restricted those friendships since because of the intentions
2007-03-03 02:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Susie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your husband and you have a strong relationship you can have a male friend. But if he starts sharing his penis else were then you will look at that friend differently.
2007-03-03 02:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by jenni_ajaz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not a good idea at all. You need to have respect for your husband. There are LOTS of women out there you can be friends with...
2007-03-03 08:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋