my bfs mom wanted to take the baby on a thirty minute drive to visit a realitve when she was keeping her once. the baby is 2 and a half months old. me and my bf let my mom drive the baby places when she keeps her cause my moms car is newer, and frankly his mom scares us both when she drives and on top of that her car is a peice (she called us one night from work and told us that she thought her whell might fall off, and if she didnt call us in an hour from her house to go down the highway and look for her) she dosent have a cell phone either. my bfs grandma thinks we are crazy for not letting his mom drive the baby. do you think we are overreacting? tomorrow she has to drive the baby somehwere that cant be avoided but its not far, and i am worried, im going to give her my cell.
2007-03-02 18:06:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
As for some of your opinons on me being married to this man, I dont know how old you think i am but i am 25 and he is 23 and i have been with him for 8 years. We dont get married because its not the right choice for us, but we are in a commited, very long term realtionship, that has lasted longer then most married couples marriages.
2007-03-02 18:44:48 · update #1
I'm a new parent as well, it's our job NOW, to protect our children no matter what, give her the cell phone, thats a smart move, just tell her that it's too far too drive next time, or offer to drive with her yourself, IT IS YOUR JOB TO PROTECT THE CHILD, this may be unpopular sometimes but, RAISE THE SWORD IF YOU MUST !
I own a really nice Hot Rod (the kids love it), A guy at work's kid really loves the car, I told him it was'nt for sale, so he wants to buy the kid the same car, he asked for my old "Stock" motor to put in the same kind of car for his, he wanted to buy all of the extra toys I have to make it go fast. I though about it, I need the extra cash (another child on the way), and I can clearly get some $ for the stuff thats all over my garage, I thought about a car load of 17 year olds spilled out all over the HWY, I had to tell the guy it was'nt for sale, he was kind of pissed at me, I said to him "Think about when you were 17 years old, do you think it's a good idea to put a 17 year old into a "High Performance" vehicle" ? ? ? He kind of shook his head "Yea, you're right", I said "You love your son, don't you" ?
2007-03-02 18:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her car is not safe to drive. Therefore, if the baby needs to be somewhere, and your mom and her car is not available, then please take a bus, or find a friend to take you and the baby to where you need to go.You are not overreacting by saying no to this bf's mom driving your baby. Apparently her driving is not that safe either. Not just her car. As the baby's mom, your first responsibility is to protect and love your baby. Regardless of who thinks what if you may be supposedly overreacting or not. Personally, I do not understand why his mom HAS TO drive your baby somewhere tomorrow-that isn't that far. She does not have to-you are letting her. Why give her your cell? Why not go with her, or just tell her no, that you will find another way to get the baby wherever the baby is supposed to be going. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-02 18:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if you are worried, then you should try to find a way where your "bfs" mom doesn't drive the baby, and one of you drives the baby. It will eliminate a lot of your fear.
I also think you and your "bf" should be married, as the number of unwed couples having children in the United States is alarming, and frankly, very sad and irresponsible.
I always wondered that when two people have a baby out of wedlock, why do they give the baby the guy's last name? After all, the people aren't married and have different last names. Something to think about.
Well, if you're 25 and he's 23, than that's old enough to realize that you should be married, right? It's not like you are 15.
2007-03-02 18:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If you are really worried it's ok to say no. Explain that it isn't her but that you worry because of that incident with her car (you don't need to mention that she is a bad driver unless that is a substance abuse issue which might need to be brought up at some point). If she reacts badly there's nothing you can do, but if you really don't want to do it don't let her guilt you into it. Realize though, that if you restrict her driving with the baby she may be less willing to babysit for you.
2007-03-02 18:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by person 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's very normal to be worried or scared. But i don't think you should be that worried because she has been a mother and experience so she would know how to handle things if a problem occurs. but just in case it is a good idea to give her your cell phone with all the important numbers and everything in it and also before she leaves tell her everything there is to know and what to do and not. but just like i said just give her your cell phone, just incase and it's very normal to worry but don't freak out too much, becasue i'm sure IF just incase anything does happen she'll know how to handle it becasue she's been a mother and had more experiance alot longer then you. =]
2007-03-02 18:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy AngelL 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's normal for you to worry. You're baby is very young, and you and your b/f both think she's a little scary. I think you should go ahead and give her your cell, make sure the car seat is strapped in right, that she knows all the numbers, and that she checks in every so often.
Or just don't let her do it.
2007-03-02 18:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by kaeh 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you agree to let her drive your baby and something tragic happens you'll feel guilty for the rest of your life. Protect your baby as its too young to speak for itself.
2007-03-02 18:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Previous answer (Jon's Mom) is right. It is your baby, your decision. If you feel uncomfortable with anything when it comes to your baby, listen to those instincts (even if it is your mother). Good luck!
2007-03-02 18:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your baby-your decision! Period. If you are uncomfortable with her driving or her car, just tell her and tell her that she isn't taking the baby.
2007-03-02 18:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jon's Mom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't comfortable with her taking it places then don't let her do it. My question is, why aren't you taking the baby to the places it needs to go?
2007-03-02 18:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Medic Jenn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋