I am living with a bf. I just recently moved in from another state. I have no family, friends of my own to hang out with besides him. Things have been really rocky, hot&cold since I moved in. I used to think it was just because we need space from each other from time to time, but I think we have no communication. When I bring up things that bother me, he ends up justifying why/how his own reasoning is far more *reasonable* than mine, although I have all of my best pals supporting my take on our issues. Also, he always sounds very blameful of me. He justifies things that most people would see as perposterous. I have no where else to go/run to in this city-what should i do? Also, he has admitted in the past that when he is in relationships, he always seems to be more caring/concerned towards friends than gf's and that his problem is that he is never in the mindset of how to think like he is in a relationship and his problem is that he "doesnt change".
2007-03-02 18:03:05 · 8 answers · asked by Noodles 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The fact that you are writing about your situation on a public forum such as this, shows that you are not able to deal with important issues directly with your bf. Thats an indication in itself. It shows that your communication with your bf sucks. If this very important aspect of your relationship has fallen apart (Or perhaps it was never there in the first place) then the rest of everything else about your relationship is just a disaster waiting to happen. So what are you waiting for?
Time to move on and write this one off as part of the experience. Another curve in the learning process.
My advise to you is this. If you are able to move out and remain in the same town on your own, then do it. If you are unable to handle this then move back home to your parents until you are able to get back on your own again. But, no matter what, you need to get out of this and RIGHT NOW. This relationship is going nowhere so you should not even think for one moment that things might change, and then one day he will fall madly in love with you, and, and and and.....and so on....Remember that a leopard never changes it's spots.
And if you don't believe me then go back and read every word of your question that you submitted here. And ask yourself this qusestion. Would you be talking about your problem on The Yahoo Answers, if you could have talked it out with your BF on your own?
So get out of his silly situation. Now! Your sanity may depend on it.
2007-03-02 19:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Chandru M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living the life I onced lived.
I was afraid to go back home and admit that it was a bad move on my part. And I lost 4 years of my life fighting and being depressed.
It is hard to leave but do it. Every day i am thankful for moving back home. You need people around you to emotionally support you. If you cant get that now you might as well go. It is very hard to leave especially if you love someone dearly.
If you have doubts NOW about your relationship then 99% chance you arent meant to be together.
I am sure you have heard the pharse " I knew he/she was the one" and its true. SOmetimes you have to wait a long time but you will find that person.
Dont let your PRIDE leave you in a bad situation
Good Luck
2007-03-03 02:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by dirtdiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think about what you are getting yourself in to. Not all relationships are good one and maybe this is one of them. If he cant understand how you feel then you need to move one to some thing new, even if that means move back home with mommy and daddy. What you could do is try to talk to him and let him know that you are serious but if that dose not work then do what is best. Let him know that you and you relationship comes before his friends. If he cant deal then move on.
2007-03-03 02:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by brenda72804@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've made some very bad decisions in life and I'm sure you already know that. The factthat you have no friends or family to turn to tells me that you have burned many bridges and you are probably very stubborn and hard-headed...I'm sure you've heard that before as well.
So now you're with this loser, because he's the only thing around but obviously you can't stand his guts already but you can't leave him because you need his money, house, etc tec.
Honey... stop making bad decisions and your life will turn around...keep thinking you know everything in the world and making bad decisions and one of these bums you're latching onto is going to hurt you someday.
2007-03-03 02:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away maybe but time apart defiantly! You would be surprised how one can think better when not down one another's throat.
Or could be your relationship need a little boost to keep the candle burning?
Good luck, hope it works it's self out.
2007-03-03 02:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are millions of fish in the ocean,now check it out and don't waste your time. coz time is running out on yon,good luck.
2007-03-03 03:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, don't waste your time with him.
2007-03-03 06:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by helehelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run, run as fast as you can
2007-03-03 02:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by heatherhedyjon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋