why reality is so painful?

Answer 1

we don't want to face the reality we are always trying to go away from reality

Answer 2

-Because most people's everyday lives are sordid, manotonous, and boring. I think the more intelligent a person is or the more a person knows lends to a more interesting everyday existance. For instance I would love to be Dean Koontz, sitting in my California mansion, probably by the ocean, writing fantasy thriller fiction.

Answer 3

One of the reasons is that we need to face it, we can't escape from such reality therefore we have to learn how to endure painful moments or thoughts.

Answer 4

because we don't want to accept it or confront it...we get swayed by it's harshness. If we accept it the way it is then there is then it's easy for us to get rid of the pain. If we keep doing our duty and leave the rest in the hands of god.....

Answer 5

A very deep question though you may have just asked out of some bitter personal experience or out of deep observation... We are all dreamers, expecting every good thing to happen to us... For whatever little effort or contribution we have made - in the home, school, church, club, sorts... But even if the efforts were so genuine and specially worthy, results are not sure to be always rewarding.. at least to the extent one hopes to reap... In the absence of a proper reciprocation one does feel bad... But this is no random behaviour or chance occurence.. Ancient thinkers have found great wisdom in studying this familiar phenomenon deeply..

It is often the ones that do not expect any thing in return for their good efforts / relations, that are most happy.. But it simply is very rare quality among most of us.. Hence the reality - the utter indifference or even envious criticism by picking holes in the good work / words or even undeserved hostility attributing evil motives in the good thing or any such negative after math to our acts - shatters most of us to bitter pieces, leaving us disillusioned and condemning ourselves...

In Hindu philosophy, one of the important advice to the aspirant for liberation from the illusory world process (essentially enticing, cheating and depressing) is to detach oneself from the consequences of his actions (karma) after doing one's duty, expecting nothing whatever... taking whatever comes to him, good or bad... in a sense of equanimity... that would usher him into the world of Divine Peace... this philosophy is the secret wisdom of the ancient sages... it says.

Reality is often painful and it is good in the sense one loses interest in expecting something for every one of our acts by and by... Good consequences may please us, but essentially they are meant to delude us (by nature - read as cosmic illusion or as Satan phenomenon in your religious parlance) into expecting more and more good and fail in the long run...

Thus in either case one fails in different dimensions - fail in the wordly sense and gain spiritually, or win in the worldly sense and lose your head (true wisdom) for good, till you gain it again by the play of failure games!

Even in our mixed acts (of good done with selfish or evil motive) we expect good returns albeit the taint of selfishness / evil hidden therein! The illusion is thus not only outside but very much in our own minds as well..! The wise find the solution to each problem embedded in the problem itself and so it is with the "reality" or consequence formula too..!

IF you take it in this sense - and you will find real life stories in abundance in the history of individuals and nations to vindicate this ultimacy of true wisdom revealed to us (if one would apply a dispassionate appraisal of the events read) - then life shall no more be a burden spent in anxious expectation of something or other that shall ever evade us..! Reality shall cease to be painful.

Answer 6

evey reality is not painful!

Answer 7

Because it is real.