in texas do have to go through the court with child support and custody?

Question

me and my ex just split. we have 2 lil boys together. we have decided that we dont want to get the courts and lawyers involved w/ child support and custody. we both agreed with me having our sons , he will give me child support.we have agreed when he see his kids. but for the best interst for my sons . is this really the best way to go to not get courts and ect involved? im just dont know what to do?
oh and we were never married so i dont know how that plays out too?

Answer 1

Your being married has nothing to do with the welfare of your children. You are both the parents and that's what matters. I think it would be wise that you get a child support order in place. It's easy to flake out and not pay, but if it's court ordered it will be required!!! Remember, it's not about you and him, it's about the kids and their security...

Answer 2

I can tell you right now how this will play out if you go this route. He's going to find someone new, have another family and then all of a sudden your support checks stop coming on a regular basis, visitations are broken and all these nice little agreements you have now, are going to turn into a full blown out war in a courtroom about five years from now. How can I say this without knowing either of you? It's easy. His request to keep this out of court is a very selfish one. It protects him from wage garnishments, insurance and keeping his promises. Think about this....say what I said will happen actually does....then where are you? Save yourself the headache honey. Go to court.

It doesn't have to be long, scarey, drawn out process either. And it's relatively cheap. All you have to do is go to your states' website, click on the county icon in which you reside. then click on the circuit court icon. They have the forms on there that you can download for free. You will be looking to download "Order to Show Cause", "notice of order to show cause", and "motion". Fill them out using your agreement now, get them notarized, make three copies and then go to the courthouse and file them. They'll take one, date stamp it, They'll give you a courtdate, then you give a set to the ex, you keep one and then you appear, the judge looks over your agreement and signs it into an order. By doing this, no matter what course his life leads him, he will still have to uphold his obligation to his sons first. And if he doesn't, then you have some ground to stand on if you have to file Contempt for non-payment.

I know you'll get alot of responses to say get it in writing, but truth be told hon, that won't work. It's gotta be notarized and presided over by a judge before it becomes a legally binding document.

I've seen too many cases go wrong like this and too many cases have shocking outcomes when something is just written down between the parties.

Filing is easy, and if you want to maintain that relationship you have with the ex, explain to him that you aren't seeking anything additional other than what the agreement now is, but that because you don't know what the future holds for either of you, you really need to get that agreement into court records...as a safety measure for both of you and for the sake of your children.

Good luck sweetie

Answer 3

IN the State of Texas, when a couple live together for more than six mos. they are considered common law husband and wife, Meaning that you are entitled to whatever monetary value he has. You also are asking that you and your ex. have decided that he will give you child support for your kids, and he will be able to see them when it is convenient for him. If it were me, I would go through the court to have it on file that your ex. is going to give you such amount of child support for the children and that way they will be able to have medicaid because you might never know when they might need to go to the Doctor or to the emergency room. What if, I am not saying that your ex. is not going to give you support for the kids, but if he doesn't then the Attorney General is there for the best interest of the kids, and will see to it that he will pay child support for them. If in doubt call the Attorney General of Texas and they will be able to explain it for you.

Answer 4

it variety of feels to be a truism that interior the U.S. justice gadget, there is no criminal difficulty that cannot be conquer with sufficient money--that's as a results of fact that's the attorneys that make the regulations. on your case, it relies upon upon how archaic the regulations are in Texas, how aggressive an criminal expert he has, and how prepared to cooperate the mummy is. regrettably, the criminal custom in this u . s . a . has tended to choose the mummy no remember what, yet it fairly is extremely slowly changing--if he has a solid criminal expert he could have the means to get extra effective words, extraordinarily if the mummy is prepared to correctly known that beneficiant custody words for the two mothers and dads is interior the youngster's suitable pastime. with connection with newborn help, if Texas is like countless states, they use a formulation for calculating newborn help, in keeping with a million) the relative amts of time the youngster is interior the actual custody of each and every make sure, and a pair of) the disparity in earnings between the two mothers and dads. there is two factors to newborn custody--criminal custody--wherein the mothers and dads share in all criminal judgements--i.e. what wellbeing care provider sees the youngster, the place she is going to college, popularity of scientific scientific care, etc. and actual custody--i.e. who would be doing the day by day raising of the youngster, and the place the youngster's respected place of abode--i.e. mailing handle--would be. If he can gain joint custody, then there may be a shrink interior the youngster help he will owe. the actuality which you at the instant are going to be residing interior the comparable college district as a results of fact the mummy is going to be a plus as regards his bid for attempting to get joint custody.

Answer 5

That's the way my 1st husband & I did it in Dallas County, but we were married. We just decided to keep the money for our son rather than waste it on lawyers. Worked fine for us.We even put in a cost of living adjustment for child support & never sent it through the child support thing-he paid directly to me. It wouldn't hurt to get something in writing, in case something bad happens to him before they are grown!

Answer 6

well, for one thing, if you dont have a court order stating custody, you have no protection. he can just keep the kids anytime he gets angry at you (and yes, it will happen). he can snatch them when they get off the bus or anything he wants.

my ex did.

as for the child support, of course he doesnt want you to go through the courts, he doesnt want to pay what he's supposed to.

look for yourself; just click on your state and fill it in. THATS what he should be paying (ball park amount, not including daycare, medical insurance, etc).

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

CHILD SUPPORT LAWS
http://www.lectlaw.com/files/fam11.htm

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp