I've lost all faith in men.. if all men cheat then why get married!
2007-03-02 17:29:50 · 17 answers · asked by miss_dutti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married 17 years and have never cheated. I've had a couple of opportunities if I had wanted but did not. I couldn't do it for several reasons.
First, I took my marriage vows seriously and I really am a "til death do us part" kind of guy.
Second,I couldn't stand the idea of hurting my wife. I love her and the look on her face to hurt and disappoint her that bad would kill me.
Third, it's just wrong. You dont' do it.
Why do people do it?
I think people are so freaking impatient. We want EVERYTHING NOW and expect marriage to be perfect at all times. I just want to scream at those people, "GET A GRIP!!!!!". It's just not realistic.
I read somewhere that most men that do cheat. do so not because of the sex with the other woman but because of the way the other woman makes the man feel about himself. So, it sounds to me that it's a situation where the other woman gives the man something mentally/emotionally that he's not getting at home.
That doesn't make it right but I can see how that would happen. If you have a woman that nags, complains, whines and criticizes all the time, I can see where a man would cheat. Not saying it's OK but I can understand it.
IMO, the bottom line, if we (men and women) would all be a little nicer, a little more considerate and a little kinder to each other, tell each other that they love them and appreciate them, it would make the incidence of cheating go WAY down.
2007-03-02 23:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there're some who does and 100% at it.
but men are men and times are changing and women do it too.
once tasted the " sweetness" of the most private and intimate moments/matters who dont want more.
seriously there're temptions and fantasy about having them. mind does wonders and do wander too . . .lol.
sometime or other . . . "cheating" depends how one classify it . . . its does happen.
minor being smses, verbal flirting in the office, cybering etc you name it and if those are considered cheating. it does happen.
depends how individual view or foresee the consequences, the temption is there.
maturity in relationships are also a considering matter being in marriage/relationships or in being intimate.
coming back to marriage as they say " is a gamble " and "a game that takes alife time to master" . . . it all depends on the sincerity, faithfullyness and strength of it.
some may err and given in to temptions and not new but common. let it be a lesson and not so easily condemned and not deserving a second chance?
bottom line is , it all depends on the commitment and how deep the realtionship has progressed to " cheat" or remain faithful.
sometimes some minor or harmless chaeating is needed to prevent committing the major . . .lol.
thats life . . . so confusing but a wonder if one look at it in another angle . . .
2007-03-02 21:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right Why get married?but pl dont blame everyone n gauge the other side of the picture also.Men cheat when they are not respected at home or they are the type u think but both sides a constructive approach is required which becomes impossible in most of the cases. Pl dont get emotional , may be things improve. i believe in adjustments n struggles for patch up if possible but again i dont dispute yr thinking. One who is sincere always faces this problem . If u hve further to ask we can discuss as friends if u believe.
2007-03-02 17:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is no! However, that doesn't mean every married man will go out an seek out sex with another woman, actually most do not but here's the kicker...THEY WANT TOO!
Women of today are so messed up when it comes to this topic. A man is not going to turn down a woman's asss if it's in his face and there for the taking and if he does once, then you better count your blessings because it's not going to happen again and again.
Just because a man has sex with another woman that has nothing to do with him loving and worshipping his wife. You marry us because we love you, and that's never going to change just like it's never going to change that we will lust after other women.
Get over it!
2007-03-02 17:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose faith. A know a few men that have stayed faithful.... but there are a lot more that give men a bad name. Just remember you got to kiss a lot of frogs to get a prince. And sometimes you kiss a few that seem like princes but aren't. Just gotta weed a bit more through the sluts.
2007-03-02 17:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I know alot of faithful, great men. I have this friend who says all men cheat but that's because she is phuckg a married man and trying to justify her actions. What goes around, comes around.
2007-03-02 17:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a pattern of dating cheaters. Sounds familiar. Here's what you need to know. If you keep doing the same thing you will keep getting the same results.
I know many women, friends and family who married happily and stayed so.I am sure you do too. For many years I dated these losers. Guess what? Not all men are like that, but you have to figure out why you are repeating these patterns and why these fools are flocking to you like moths around a candle. Until you work that out and break the pattern you will think that's all there is.
Do the work and live well.
2007-03-02 17:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tip Top 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your only problem is you haven't met an honorable man. Yes we can be faithful!
I married my wife, made her that same promise and kept it through constant sickness of 16 years until she was finally taken with cancer. I cared for her at home(by myself) for the last year, carrying her up stairs, giving her baths, feeding her, dressing her, helping her use the toilet, giving her shots, and loving her as much as I could ever love anyone I ever had in my life. I would have died in her place had God let me. Don't ever think that all of us are the same, just as all women aren't the same. I was married to an angel and was proud that she chose me for a husband. My only wish is that we could have spent the rest of my life together and died at the same time. My love for her is eternal.
2007-03-02 17:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not possible to stay faithful all through the life for either for a guy or a gal unless and until if there is a true love happening between the two partners. there are many queries like that of yours posted on the net and in many such books, by many guys n gals like the way you did now. but all that it matters is only one thing and that is true love that both the spouses hold together only then its going to work out.. trust me...
2007-03-02 17:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by lapd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men cheat...i thought they did till i met my husband.. and now after being married and getting to know his family and friends.. i can tell you there are some really great men out there.. keep the faith and remember WE teach people how to treat us!
2007-03-02 17:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by allyn h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋