Is it realistic, in this day and age, to be married?

Question

Given the fast pace of this world, constant need for gratification, and the obvious "strict" guidelines noted in marriage vows (ie. "till death do we part" & "in sickness and in health"), is it realistic for the youth of today to make such a commitment?

Just for the record, I am happily married, but the "idea" of marriage seems a bit unrealistic to me when compared to the world we live in

Answer 1

In short no, not for the youth of today. But it's not because life is fast paced and that generation has the need for instant gratification. It's because the idea of marriage that everyone portrays is NOT at all the reality of it. Marriage takes hard work, sacrifice, and determination to make it work. Today's youth, well most of them, don't have that drive. They live in the here and now...when you talk to them about future, they think of next week, not ten years from now. They have to have things their way....there is no middle ground. Add to that, the words "Thank you" are almost obsolete, as well as the words "I'm sorry", and it's over before it has begun.

I think they should teach a course on co-habitation in highschool and prepare these youngsters for what is really going to come their way. Then again, they probably wouldn't show up....takes too much time and energy.

Answer 2

I'm inclined to agree with you. Marriage has been turning into a revolving door where magic words are spoken and very significant legal consequences follow. How to change? My thought is this; draw up a contract, an agreement as to how you (the young couple) want to arrange your life. Who will manage finances, who will pay the bills, who will take out the trash, etc. Agree in advance that if there is a split, who gets the cat, the TV, the car and whatever, Make these decisions as you go along, certainly on any big ticket items. Then, if the parties stay together, they have the ground rules that both agree upon. If they decide to split, they have already agreed on the terms of the split. Makes more sense that way. Of course, there are still those fancy wedding parties that sort of catch the eye (and hit the pocketbook).

Answer 3

You mean that because young people are so different and unique that they are above or beyond the best way to live, which is what marriage has been proven to be, based on thousands of years of human experience. Pal, people are what people have always been, and the answers worked out over human history are just a valid today, as they were a thousand years ago. Just because "everybody" says marriage is silly, doesn't change the fact that it still is a person's best shot at achieving a longer, happier, more financially successful life. It's amusing how immature people fault the institution of marriage, rather than themselves, for not being adult enough to make a relationship work.

Answer 4

Is it realistic in this day and age to be Married, you asked? In my opinion, I do not think that youth of today, if they get Married do not take their vows to Heart, because some of them take their vows for granted and they think that if their wife or Husband start to make problems and they argue a lot is when they want to move out. Couples, that are together after coping with whatever problems they encountered and really Love each other will be able to survive their marriage but they need to remember that it takes 50/50 to make a Marriage work, but I am sure that most of the women that survived it all have put more than their 50. My husband and I have been Married for almost 49 yrs. and we still Love each other a lot and I can honestly say that I put more than my 50 to survive whatever came our way.

Answer 5

Yes. Because with outrageous costs/debt these days its nearly impossible for someone single to buy a house in southern cali! lol. But seriously, commitment is a personal issue, those that are against commitment are those afraid to risk getting hurt. You will never find your 'other half', true love, and what not if you don't take the risk and put yourself out there. I've been married for only 4 years (i'm 21 and he's 22) and i don't feel any loss of being in a commitment. I like having someone that knows you like no other and ride each other's roller coaster lives with. Yes, there are still people out there that want to 'grow old together.' And its not so bad being only 'with' someone the rest of your lives together as long as you learn to keep things spicy. ;) If people continue to live lifes feeling unsatisfied with their situations and not seeing the joy of having someone to go through your struggles with and then coming out of it together, you'll never be happy. And studies have shown that married people are happier and live longer. :) Americans are so self-centered these days and only care about their personal success which leads into bad relationships, thus lack of commitment and self sacrifices for happiness. Sometimes you need to give a little to gain a little or lot

Answer 6

Yes and for many reasons.

Firstly when you fall deeply in love with someone you'll start thinking marriage is a great thing, the commitment is so deep you have to be careful who you make it with, but one of my friends is marred (he's 21) and he's having the time of his life with the girl of his dreams.

Marriage is wonderful, however the youth of today are doing it for the wrong reasons in some cases. Some do it to escape parents, some do it because their afraid of losing the other and want a strong commitment to keep them, some deeply devouted religious youth get married so they can have sex and not break a commandment. These reasons are just some of many why youth of today are having trouble with marriage.

Fall in love and do what your heart tells you not your mind, and not for pleasure. It'll happen, epically when your not looking for it.

Answer 7

No not really true. I have been partnered with my boyfriend for seven years. We have talked about marriage, but come to the conclusion that we don't need to be married to prove our love and commitment to each other. We are happy and I'm sure we always will be, if we break up in the future, it will be less painful for the both of us to have to deal with a "DIVORCE" along side the pain of a broken heart.

Answer 8

I am getting married in April. I feel that we are both ready to make such a commitment. I think it takes great maturity and commitment to make that kind of decision. I think that alot of people do it thinking they are in for a world of white picket fences and dancing in the moonlight. But in reality its true friendship, its a lifelong commitment to a bestfriend that your ready to take on lifes struggles, joys, heartache, and so on. Its devotion in the biggest way.

Answer 9

Laws make it so easy to get a divorce I see no need in getting married in this day and time most marriages don't work out anyway,people live together longer than people getting married do.

Answer 10

Absolutely! If they are mature enough to realize you get out of it what you put into it. There is no better feeling than finding your perfect mate in life. The only ones that are apprehensive about marriage are those that have never experienced true love and have been burned numerous times. Finding that special person is worth every rejection, every mistake, and every first date that doesn't work. When you do find that person it fills that space in your heart that is necessary to make you feel completely whole. There is truly one person out there for each and every one of us and when you find that person you marry them!!!!!