I know he's cheating on her (she doesn't know yet), i don't know what to do. I hate him so much for doing this but i know i shouldn't because he;s a good dad overall...but i just can't look at him the same way...
please..i'm seeking the answers of people with similar experiences
people who haven;t gone through this wouldn't have the same insights..
2007-03-02 17:19:28 · 10 answers · asked by miss_dutti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't fault you for having those feelings toward your Dad. Assuming you are correct, and he is cheating, then yes, you should judge him, and his behavior. I know that today, we are supposed to "understand" cheating, or any other wrongful actions, because "nobody is perfect", and "everybody" makes mistakes. But, not everybody cheats, just butt heads. And being imperfect doesn't constitute an excuse for wrongful acts, it merely explains those actions. I personally don't have any use for cheaters, and never trust the word of a person who can't keep solemn vows.
2007-03-02 18:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad cheats your mum. Nothing to do with the kids, that is you. But this truth did affect you alot, my dear. He maybe a great father, definitely not a great husband. And if both of your parents don't do anything about their relationship, that will be very bad affecting you and the rest of the family members. Because, you doesn't has a loving parents, your family is not perfect and lovely anymore. Telling you from the experience I have. Your parents have to solve this problem. You are their children. They will listen to your opinions. Tell them honestly that you are affected by their inloving relationship. Request them to try to resolve it rather than drag for months to years and worsen. 2 ways to resolve. 1) Make marriage works. or 2) file separation. Well, of course, you would want them to be together. However, 'staying' together in a flat doesn't mean 'staying' together as a family, a loving family. Ask them both to go for marriage counselling. If it doesn't work out, just let your parents go separate ways. They are still your parents but doesn't mean they have to be together to care and love you. You get what I meant? Make things easier for them. Let them kn your feelings and let them kn, no matter what decision they make, they are still your parents, you will care for them. It is their relationship that has broken down. You have to let them kn that they shouldn't let this broken relationship affecting the kids and affecting your emotions and studies. To the stage of posting this question to us. Good luck!
2007-03-05 19:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by ouch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how u feel i went through the same thing with my dad. you will forgive him as i did coz after all he is your dad. i no u hate him soooooooooooo much right now and cant see your dad in this strange man but eventually as time goes by u will see the man who has always protected you and u will remember all the good times n u will be able to forgive him.trust me on this.
P.S: i no people say that he's cheating on your mom its got nothing to do with you u shouldn't be affected by it but they don't no what its like and don't waste your time trying to make them understand. its pointless.
good luck. god bless.
2007-03-02 18:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by eve j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That hasn't happend to me but I know a couple of men who knew their fathers cheated and they swore they would never be like their father-only to be just LIKE their father. It must be hard for you to be able to trust men when you see the most important male role model in your life behaving that way. Don't let this make you afraid of trusting a good man.
2007-03-02 17:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it's between your parents, not between you and your dad. However, for it to be between your parents, your mother has the right to know what's going on. Tell your father that you know all about his "outside activities", then give him 24 hours to come clean to your mother, otherwise you will tell her yourself.
2007-03-02 17:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. I have stopped talking or communicating with him in any way. Haven't seen him in 4 yrs. I will probably see him when he's in his coffin.
2007-03-03 03:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad decided after five kids that he was gay! Forgive him? Nothing to forgive... To each his own, I guess.
2007-03-02 17:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by codiane99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can and you should just tell him the truth and ask him to stop. If he doesn't tell your mother and ask her to break with your father
2007-03-03 14:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by robopon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not for me to forgive...that is their relationship.
Its between the mom and the dad. Not between you and your parent.
Its their burdeon..not yours.
2007-03-02 17:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2007-03-03 12:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋