I need help, seriously?

Question

It seems to be that i have no morals, i asked this questions earlier, and the answers upset me quite a bit. and some scared me, i just want help on how to be a better person, and to straighten my morals out a bit, can anyone help me please?? just give me an idea of what i can do and if theirs any one that can help, please!!

Answer 1

I REALLY WOULD HAVE LIKED TO KNOW HOW OLD YOU WERE, BUT YOU SOUND LIKE A MATURED LADY TO ME....

First of all:

When you say you seem to know that you have no MORALS...
This means you are capable of defining & identifying the word correctly, I would assume....

Second of all:

If you DO WISH to change, no one will ever be able to DIRECTLY assist you in this MORE THAN YOURSELF...
Yet you could listen to suggestions and it is up to you to choose...

Third of all:

I am absolutely positively sure you are a GOOD PERSON INSIDE, and the proof to that is the way you say it....admitting it in such a manner with all it takes of guts to spell it out...
This is unusual and this shows your true you INSIDE..

Fourth of all:

If you were a person with NO MORALS, you wouldm't have sought assistance for becoming otherwise...This proves my above point...YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON..!! YOU REJECT YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE NOW..!! AND YOU SEEK TO CHANGE AND IT IS A VERY HARD THING TO DO..!! YOU ARE A DETERMINED PERSON AND I RESPECT YOU SO MUCH WITH ALL THE TRUTHFULNESS & SINCERITY I FELT WITHIN YOU...

Fifth of all:

All it takes you to be a person with GOOD MORALS in your own eyes is to STOP DOING WHAT YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH DOING AT TE MOMENT....It is that simple...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sixth of all:

You need to take a good & a close look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself:

" THAT'S IT DEAR ME...I AM GOING TO LIKE ME WHETHER I LIKE IT OR NOT, AND TO DO THAT I WILL DIG OUT MY REAL ME MY OWN WAY BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT & HOW A PERSON WITH NO MORALS LOOKS LIKE AND I WILL ENSURE TO AVOID IT ALL; aiming to be my new me and to gain what I have been missing for so long"

Seventh of all:

Try to do what you never done before to enforce some changes on your character; i.e.,

Give some help to the needy ones...
Offer assistance to those who you think need your help...
Grant people your unconditional love...
Treat people the way you wish to be treated...
Urge yourself to quitting some bad habits...
Seek forgiveness of those you were unjust to / with...
Creat your own space & show the other bright side of your own..
Talk to trees & plants around you, and express your appreciation
Feek the ducks around a lake...
Watch birds & ants in how they do it...
Learn to be patient and seek it all the time...
Tell your Mom & Dad how much you appreciate & love them...


Eighth of all:

Learn to like yourself...
Learn to love yourself
Learn to like & love others...
Learn to be LOVED by others...
Learn patience and what it takes to be PATIENT...

Ninth of all:

Don't ask for a credit on what you do...
Seek recognition without asking for it...
Get people into your side....
Ensure people around you call for getting your opinion on issues.
Make people realize your New You...

Tenth of all:

Trust your Own New You...
Never give up with time...
Don't feel otherwise while in the process of change...
REMEMBER IT ALL THE TIME...

IF THERE IS A WILL..THERE IS A WAY....

Hope you find the above to your liking ....

but always talk to yourself INFRONT OF THAT MIRROR, and make friends with yourself honey....

Answer 2

I am sorry that you were upset by the answers that you received about your morals or so called lack of them. I think what you are lacking is the maturity you need to have a meaningful intimate relationship. You are 14. i was too when I first became sexually active, however, now that i am ancient I realize that I made a lot of bad choices that i had to learn to live with. Today there is still that part of me that feels I should have atleast not been so active. The thing is that i liked the attention and the fact that I had this secret part of me. Then when I was about 17 I realized that the guys that i enjoyed all of the attention from were not interested in marrying that kind of girl. I think that you do have morals or you would not ask the question. I think what you really lack is love and you are trying to fill it with one night stands because you feel desired.

Answer 3

If you want to straighten yourself out try going to church and getting closer to God and praying for him to guide you. Also help those in need and try being a nicer person. You'll feel alot better and have a clear conscience. And according to your last question dont give yourself up too easily to a guy especially with those dumb standards, have some self respect and try dating and getting to know a guy before you decide to make the choice of sleeping with him. You seem like a nice girl who just wants to better her life, so why not start by respecting yourself and praying.

Answer 4

Just need to learn to love yourself first, and you know right from wrong, so that's a good thing. Morals are caring about how you do things in a respectful manner along with a righteous conscious. To think before you do things, and be careful how you speak to others, think twice before you speak. Get an R.O.P. book and go through it to take a class that you think will help you out in areas of your life you want to better in yourself. Try counseling, that helps out a lot...GOOD luck! Wish you the best I am dealing with the same stuff myself and I am older, so good luck it's never to late to work on yourself, don't be so hard on yourself! Remember no one is perfect, and work on loving yourself...

Answer 5

The best solution os to find a mentor, Heather. Is there someone in your life whom you would like to emiulate? Someone is assured and natural and a great role model? Or maybe there are several people with individual traits that you admire. Try to spend time with these people. Learn what you can about them. Understand what makes them tick. Try out some of their values and beliefs.

But also be your own person. Don't just copy others. Don't read one book and follow; read several books and make up your own mind.

Answer 6

Read Romans 3:23, 5:8 , 6:23, 10:9, 10:13 This wont upset you I promise

Answer 7

Get a good book on ethics that focuses on moral study, or read your Bible. Everyone has morals you just need to find your moral limits and by studing the reasons and motivations behind peoples actions and moral fiber you may find a better understanding of yourself, your moral beliefs and what drives them for yourself.
-NmD!

Answer 8

Believe it...Church...or bible study...you asked...if you want the right answers to your questionable morals read the bible learn what lessons are to be learned...I am not one to push religion onto anyone but you said seriously, and this really can be the answer if you only believe...good luck.

Answer 9

Would you be willing to pray to God and ask Him to help you? Would you be willing to read the Bible a little bit each day? Try praying and ask God. Tell Him all your problems troubles, hopes and dreams and ask Him for His help. We can't do anything on our own strength and He has promised to help you and guide you. Plus you will gain the best friend you'll ever have.

Answer 10

first of all, don't listen to the stubid or scary things that other people have to say. they only make things worse

you need to find something that you want to do. what is something you like? try new things and get better at them. this will give you something to look forward to.

try finding a religion. I'm a christian... it really helps in my everyday life. it makes me want to work to be a better person.

try new things. all will work out in time

Answer 11

Start out on an online forum, perhaps? You can answer questions and help people, such as on www.gurl.com. You could also try volunteering somewhere locally, helping others makes you feel good about yourself.