What is up with me?

Question

I'm 21. I'm a busy guy. I go to university, study, help my dad with his business, workout...this pretty much takes up all of my day..until about 9:30.
At the end of the day when I'm alone in front of the computer, I love abusing people online. I love trashing them and have no compassion for them whatsoever.
Why's that? Partly it is because I feel lonely and sometimes feel worthless because the only woman I loved never reciprocated the same feelings towards me, which is why I drink. Which is also why I've stopped communicating with women.

Answer 1

....dude!...one chick shuts you down and you go into a freefall?
Get over it man!
There are so many babes out there and you can't find another?
Dude! Go find another chick and don't ever post such a lame comment here again!
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PS: Alcohol sucks. Stay away from that bad boy!

Answer 2

OK you are having an attitude and you already tried booze and that didn't fix anything. You end the day being rude to other people who are lonely and hiding behind their computers and wishing they had a friend who was softer and warmer than their plastic keyboards. Feel safe there don't you. Nobody is coming through your monitor to knock your block off and no woman is going to get a strangle hold on YOUR heart. I guess we now know that safe isn't really living. Somebody out there is wishing they knew you, has the same hobbies, likes the same movies and is soft and cuddly. Get out there. Where your hobbies are. Where others share your interests. A home show, boat show, car show or a something. Smile a little or a lot. See a lovely lady, smile a little bigger. Let her know she caught your eye with a little nod and maybe half a wink. OK OK so I get carried away. Put your poor old beat up ragged ripped up crashed and shattered butt out there so she can find you. Don't forget: head up, look sharp and be happy. You are in the game.

Answer 3

You put down others - because you have been put down by someone you loved. Because you did not get back up, you do not wish for others to get back up. Misery loves company as they say, and by making other people miserable, you'll feel better because there will be more people in the "same boat" as you. If you were not aided - why should you aid others? If you were denied love, then others should be also.

Let the woman go - with peace, and not with pain. If she didn't love you, it is not because you were unworthy, but because people are often selfish, and love only that which they desire, and nothing more. So don't be too hard on your Self, lest you become too hard on others. Stop the drinking. Have compassion. Help those in need of your presence (volunteering, not online). Do this for your Self, as well as your future love - it will make you become Loveable.

Answer 4

Not all women are the same Mr . I dont say becoz am of that side . U see somebody is going to come in to ur life whose going to change u .u r to wait .Dont get irritated .Practice sum meditation skills and yoga .That most of the stressed people do .As u said ur free after 9:30 start doing from 2day and then i bet u wil see a drastic change in ur self .And one more if ur doin the same thing daily think of ur mother wen ever ur doin so . I said this becoz i think u love ur mother .don't u?
try all these things and then if u had not changed then i think u ve to consult a psychiatrist thats the last thing u can do

have a gr8 life
bye

Answer 5

It's easy to take out your frustrations on people you don't know. People that can't see your face or your insecurities. I think you need to get some anger management. Just remember that there are living breathing people on the other end of the computer and they might be hurting just as bad as you. Why don't you try writing your feelings down in a notebook. And consider counselling. I don't say that to be mean, but maybe you just really need someone to talk about all this pent up anger with. Good luck.

Answer 6

i think you already know why you do the things you do... putting anger on others and making others mad does not change anything...you are hurting yourself even more and others... you have to stop abusing yourself! if you don't respect yourself, you won't respect others, and you won't get it in return either...

is it even worth hurting people? everyone hurts each other, intentionly or not, its part of human nature... learn from your experience, do not let the experience bring out the worst of you..you can't let the situation you went through bring you down... instead of becoming a bitter person, be someone who can learn to forgive and understand others... you will find someone who loves u back in return

Answer 7

let me give you a little bit of what you evidently give to others.
quit your whining, crying and bellyaching.
you sit in front of the computer and abuse those that can not defend themselves. that makes you not only a whining, crying bellyacher you are also an abuser.
you should be ashamed of your nasty behavior.
go out and be nice to others maybe that way you wont feel lonely and worthless and drink.
no one likes a nasty, whiney, drunken pain in the ***!!

Answer 8

That was my ex husband's story. A girl hurt him so bad in school it effected him his whole life. You wanna feel like that when you're 30? Better nip this martyr act in the bud. Not all girls are the same. Seek therapy if necessary, its good stuff.

Answer 9

I would say that you don't feel good about yourself so you want other people to suffer.....when I hate something about myself or I feel lonely, not good enough I seem to make fun of people more often. I know its hard but don't let one woman's actions ruin your love life or your life for that matter

Answer 10

You need to consult with a psychiatrist and get out those angry feelings you carry around. You have the power to change.