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Has anyone been in a relationship with a depressed person.
What is it like? I am wondering because my fiance used to be thoughtful, loving, caring and energetic. Then, one day, he turned into someone I don't even recognize - he sleeps alot, it irritable, grouchy, can barley hold a conversation, and is not interested in doing anything. Either he is showing his true colors or he is depressed. He has been on anti-depressents before, and I am wondering if depression could be the problem. Also, if he is depressed, how do I get him to seek help? He won't because he said he hates the drugs.

2007-03-02 15:08:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

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He very well could be depressed. I've suffered from depression for most of my life. I found out that it has a tendancy to run in families. Fortunately, with counseling and the proper medications, I'm not only much better, but am also off the meds.

Your fiance could very well have been given the wrong medications. It can take quite a while to find the right one/ones. (I was on three!) He needs help.

Let him know that you love him and you want him to get help so your relationship can move forward. Without help, he'll only get worse.

2007-03-02 15:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Barry 6 · 0 0

It sounds like he is depressed and holding in a lot of things. I would try to get him to talk to you about what is bothering him. It might be his job, financial stuff, who knows? He may also have a vitamin deficiency or something else causing this. Tell him that you love him and want him to be himself again so please go to the Dr. At least for some bloodwork. That could tell a lot about what's causing his weakness and irritability. I have lived with depressed people my whole life. My Mom and brother are both bipolar. There is no need to continue suffering when there is help available to make him feel better. Good luck to you.

2007-03-03 11:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0 0

It could be Hypothyroidism, where the thyroid gland is no longer putting out the same amount of thyroxine. It happened to me starting in Sept. of 2003.

Thyroxine in the blood stream regulates metabolism (I take a suppliment, Levothyroxine). I was sleeping all the time, was constantly drinking caffiene and still I was a grump. I put on 30 pounds in two months without really eating anything (I was too tired to eat). Yeah, the V.A. Doctor sent me to Mental Health clinic, but they turned me away, saying that "my problem was medical, not mental".

I'd suggest a check-up at the doctor's, and fast.
Fluxuation of thyroid levels can lead to blindness from "Dysthymic Thyroidal Opthamopathy", which causes the retinal cones on the back of the eye to die faster than normal (again, Thank you Uncle Sam/V.A. for yet another disabilty in my crippled butt... as if Agent Orange & Lead Poisoning wasn't enough)

Initial thyroid level tests are to be done every 2-4 weeks, if positive for Hypothyroidism and a thyroidal suppliment is prescribed. "Stay tough and serious" with the doctor: it's one thing taking a pill everyday, it's another becoming blind

My prayers to you & your fiancè...

2007-03-03 06:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by doktor.vonster 2 · 0 0

Well, I personally have not lived with someone like that, however, I do know a woman who is living with someone like that and when she talks about it with me I find it quite alien since, logically, once I found out something like that about a potential spouse, I would be long gone.
As for her, she is a wonderful out going person who ended up in a bad situation because of the depression. But, I am pretty sure she is going to resolve that problem although she will have to endure a lot of pain and the destruction of the family unit because of it.

Finally, and to be blunt.. If you are under any sort of delusional idea that he/men with change, you are seriously mistaken. Men, like the seasons, do not change.

2007-03-02 23:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It definitely sounds like depression.
Maybe you should call his doctor and see what he/she recommends. Or, maybe you should try talking to your husband about it. Many people who suffer from depression don't realize it's a problem. It's not fun living with someone suffering from depression, but it's no fun for the person suffering either. Talk to him about it, let him know you're concerned.

(Been there)

2007-03-02 23:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ ☆ StarLiteGrl~98☼1 ☆ ♥ 7 · 0 0

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