I don't really want to smack him, but I would like him to be civil. He's a co-worker who is brusque and rude to nearly everyone at work. Today when I said "Hi" and he just grunted at me again, I asked him why he was behaving like that and he said, "I'm just brusque - that's my way of being" in a snotty tone. I told him that people were afraid to talk to him and he said that if they were afraid that maybe that was because there was something to be afraid of. He also made a nasty remark about older women (I'm in my 50's). He thinks he's going to be a Christian pastor and I can't understand how he's going to accomplish that with this attitude. I wonder if I should mention this to his boss? People practically hugged and kissed me after my discussion with this guy, which was in the middle of the office, because he'd insulted them. Would you let his boss know or would you let it alone?
2007-03-02 14:53:09 · 12 answers · asked by Holly R 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
when ever he is impolite to you, confront him, apparently no one else will, i think he needs to be told what a jerk he is. bottom line, if he isnt nice to you, you dont have to be nice to him. option b, avoid him
2007-03-02 15:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cherie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know hostile people are hard to deal with, but you can't make a grievance when he hasn't truly done anything but be "brusque". My only advice for you is to not allow him the satisfaction of your conversation or displeasure. He obviously enjoys the fact that he has that kind of power over people, and you showing him that you dislike it so is just feeding his pathetic little high of the day. Just ignore him and make a point not to think or talk to anyone about him and eventually you won't care any longer.
2007-03-02 23:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by marielpantera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him aside and tell him that you'll get more bees with honey than vinegar. His brusqe-ness and lack of common courtesy isn't making him any friends.
In today's world, it's not about what you know or even who you know- it's how you relate to those you meet, and he's screwing himself. He needs to be aware that as he continues to be an @ss, he eliminates opportunities- and nobody's going to want to come to a church led by a jerk.
One idea I don't know if it's an option or not, but... Let him know that as long as he's a jerk, you and everyone else will refuse to work with him.
2007-03-02 23:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being rude or unsocial is not an offense that I would take to the boss. You will seem more like someone who is wanting to start trouble. Save your reports for legitimate work related complaints.
2007-03-02 23:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Brian G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not put the guy on IGNORE?? He's obviously insecure and has some serious social issues. As long as he is not going out of his way to insult or demean people, leave him be.
Some people can't or don't want to be fixed. Focus your energies
on socially well adjusted types.
2007-03-02 23:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by stgreenie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take his behavior to heart, and it's not your job to fix it. If he causes you problems at work make a formal complaint. If he is simply an ill mannered fool, have pity on him. Whatever makes him so grumpy must really be causing him pain he is not willing to face. I don't think it is OK to take it out on others, but I am sure he knows not what he does.
2007-03-02 23:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't smack him. You will end up looking like the bad guy and getting in trouble.
If his lack of cooperation is interfering with your work, or if he is harrassing or threatening you, take it up with your boss. Otherwise, just let him be a jerk.
2007-03-02 23:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by chimpus_incompetus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like 3 different questions all rolled into one and it seems more like you just want validation for complaining about him.
If he is a jerk it will take care of itself, he will be crushed under the weight of his own a-holeish behavior. You complaining about his attitude will make you look like a tattle-tale... and no one respects a tattle-tale.
2007-03-02 23:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Chris M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every office has a prankster. Find yours and play a dirty trick to show this ****** how to be humble.
2007-03-02 23:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Drag_The_Waters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS..
MATTHEW VERSE: IN DIFFERENT CONTEXT ABOUT BEING CIVIL ECT.
BE NICE IF THEY DON'T LEAVE THEM BE...
Matthew 10:14
Context
NET © And if anyone will not welcome you or listen to your message, shake the dust off 1 your feet as you leave that house or that town.
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If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town.
NASB ©
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"Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet.
NLT ©
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If a village doesn?t welcome you or listen to you, shake off the dust of that place from your feet as you leave.
MSG ©
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If they don't welcome you, quietly withdraw. Don't make a scene. Shrug your shoulders and be on your way.
BBE ©
SABDAweb Mat 10:14
And whoever will not take you in, or give ear to your words, when you go out from that house or that town, put off its dust from your feet.
NRSV ©
bibleoremusMat 10:14
If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, shake off the dust from your feet as you leave that house or town.
NKJV ©
biblegateway Mat 10:14
"And whoever will not receive you nor hear your words, when you depart from that house or city, shake off the dust from your feet.
IF THAT PERSON EXPECTS TO CARRY GOD'S WORD--THEY WILL FAIL...
JAMES 1:8 AND JAMES 4:8
REFERS TO A DOUBLE MINDED PERSON AS BEING A HYPOCRITE...THE WORST OF ALL PEOPLE...
ONE WHO SAYS THEY SERVE GOD BUT SERVE SATAN..
2007-03-02 23:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋