Ok me and my girlfriend just broke up because of long distance and it was hard to love each other like we wanted. Im in the military and she just got in, so shes real busy. Im in Arizona and she is going to Alasaka. I guess we broke up for the right reason not for the lose of love. She says she loves me, treated her better then anybody and would be happy if im with her everyday and she misses me too. I know I have to give her time. Im getting out of the military partly to be with her in alaska so we can actually be together. I know she is the love of my life but is it worth fighting for? should I just move on? Would you want to get back together if you knew that your ex-boyfriend was getting out of the military in less then a year to be with you? Im not typical guy im a great guy that got his stuff together, faifthful, funny and just got it all, would you want to work it out??
2007-03-02 14:26:45 · 7 answers · asked by Young South 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she loved you that much she could have waited for you to get out of the military and then joined the military so you could relocate to be with her. She sounds young and fickle and looking for a new adventure. You should finish what you started, the military. It's the right and mature thing to do. Getting out early will mar your record forever. If you follow her, she still may not want to continue your relationship. You are young, and there will be someone else that will love you and stand by you.
2007-03-02 14:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by debk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"OK" Listen up. First of all you cant change people. If this girl says that she will wait for you then she will. I'm not sure if you guys talked this over with one another on what you guys want? If not you need too. This is the most important advice I can tell YOU. If you are putting in your head that there is still a chance of you two being together after she said that you two should not be? Then you better just walk away now with your "chin up and let it go. Cuz if not in the long run its going to hurt more. These are the hard things that happen in life that Make U and change U. And whats good about TRUE LOVE is that nothing cant stand in the way. ask yourself if this is true love?
2007-03-02 14:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by jamessamaripa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chief, you've got a tough one on your hands, don't blame you for asking.
I got out of the Navy because I did not recognize my children every time I came home, and I wanted them to know their daddy.
However, if I didn't have children, I would have stayed in the military. Career wise it was a big blow to me. The civilian world is not the same as the military.
If you are a father type guy, your decision could lead to many problems in your possible future with this fine woman.
If I had the chance again, I would have not married my fine wife, as bad as that sounds I know, but I am not happy after all, and I cannot give what I always dreamed of giving in the situation I am in now.
Make sure your needs and dreams will be met with the situation as it is, if not, there are many other fine woman in the world just waiting for you buddy. Not that you disrespect her in any way, you have to be happy and productive in your world so that your future family will be happy too.
Take care and the best of luck to you!!
2007-03-02 14:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by ringolarry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you met at the wrong times in your lives. You should call it quits for a year. If you still feel something after that then start moving forward. You move out there to "be with her" and she continues her life of trying to make it in the military you will become restless and upset. Thinking "look what I did for her and she doesn't appreciate me". She will start to think you are suffocating her. Nope move on for and year or so. If it's meant to be you will find each other again
2007-03-02 14:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ohio Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone enough to make a huge change in your life the risks are worth it but you just have to know and have faith..no what if's if you know what i mean..love is a risk..the only way to know if its worth it is to jump. youll be ready when you quit saying..but?ive known people that did what your doing and it worked and i know some whom it didnt work for. it takes a lot of work and a lot of commitment. only you can make this choice and know whats right for you. I dont know the whole story..things like what does she think about you leaving the military for her..would she give you another chance? did you leave the relationship on good terms but you do. thats why i say only you can make this choice ..good luck and i hope it works out for you either way. everyone deserves to love and be loved.
2007-03-02 14:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by chasemeto2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r sure she is the love of ur life u will never move on u alwaysa have t fight 4 what u want if u r sure she is the love of ur live and that u really wanna be with her u should do everything in ur hands to be with her
Good luck:)!!!!
2007-03-02 14:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she loves you she will want to work it out but are you sure she is still going to be there when you get out?
If she wants you back then go for it talk to her and tell her what your plans are and you will work things out.
2007-03-02 14:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋