A girl I work with is very pushy, cocky, and arrogant. She has decided we are pals. She constantly asks me to hang out with her. I eventually gave in and have hung out with her outside of work several times (my big mistake). Most of the time I find her despicable. She never ever stops talking. She has sounded off on things such as the fact that she "hates retarded people" and "hates fatties". I usually say nothing. Even if I wanted to join in on the one-sided conversations, she'd never let me get a word in edgewise. I often find myself thinking she's a bad person, but then she will make me second guess myself by acting very sweet. I think she is very manipulative and probably insecure underneath. I don't want to be friends with her outside of work. But I have set a precedent with that. And I also have to work with her every day so I don't want an awkward situation. Plus, I am intimidated by her as she is an aggressive type. Is there any graceful way out of this?
2007-03-02 14:10:49 · 8 answers · asked by brindlegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think there is any way around it. Either stop being her "friend" and stop hanging out with her outside of work or keep doing things you have been doing them. Can you keep doing the same thing for the next 6 months? How about a year? Or longer? Your relationship with her sounds very onesided. From time to time we all have to make decisions we are not comfortable with but we have to do what is in our best interest.
2007-03-02 14:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by velmicro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake you made was being gracious enough to spend any amount of time with her, even if it was against your better judgement. You just need to be straightforward with her, and tell her that you're just not interested in her in any fashion, and you don't want to hang out with her, under any circumstance. Tell her it's nothing person, (you can still be polite about it) ... you just feel that the two of you have nothing in common. Continue to decline her invitations out, and eventually she'll get the message.
2007-03-02 14:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As in many things, the truth is probably the best policy... If that doesn't work, you could become retarded or fat, since she doesn't like those kind of poeple. The last option is to start dating someone else and take yourself of the market, or start acting strange outside of work.
2007-03-02 14:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by B H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No graceful way out of it is pretty much right, maybe you could say that you are allergic to her. Wow I really don't know except all of a sudden become unavailable to her after work hours. And maybe invite other coworkers to go to lunch and breaks with you. Good luck.
2007-03-02 14:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by mo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all stop hanging out with her, second find other friends to hang out with and keep yourself busy. Then when she ask whats going on just tell her that you have been busy with "stuff". If she doesn't back off then you have to just tell her, look you are a kool person but I don't think we should hang out anymore.
2007-03-02 14:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by beautifulniloo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw I wouldn't talk to her about it lol from the way you describe her I am afraid of her now. Aw just try your best to isolate your self from her man she sounds annoying and obnoxious, Aw hang in there that's all I can tell you lol. Good Luck.
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2007-03-02 14:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you only want to work with her and not be her friend after work. Give it to her really harsh so she can understand you. Then give her your piece of mind about all the stuff she said.
2007-03-02 14:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋