to clear things up. i dont want to make myself belive that im not or are bi/les. But i dont know who i like. Its been like this for a while, and i cant clear things up, like i like this girl, shes a lesbian like 3 grades level higher than me, and shes a player. and i know that, but i still really like her, i have soccer with her. and [because of our grade leve] we like dont ever talk. But i always want to get her attention, im too shy tho. so a couple of days ago, she made a statement [i was wearing some guys pants, and i guess it made me look like a lesbian] that what kind of statement does that make. and likei totally... i dunno, its like i got butterflies in my tummy. and i didnt know what to do. what should i do? (im 14 freshman)
2007-03-02 14:09:29 · 24 answers · asked by dark_silence_69 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Guess what?
Sit down.
I have something to tell you.
You're NORMAL.
This is the age to ask all these Q's.
I think your frustration is that u do like her and that u wish it could be easy for u to explore this without all the prejudice, hate and oppression in the world. With each generation it gets better.
What should u do? Be u. If u want to hang out with a guy... do so... hang out with a girl... do so. You have lots of time to make decisions. U are NOT missing out on anything yet.
It gets easier!
2007-03-10 08:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by front door 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you "don't know," that's normal at your age. Best thing is to just "play it cool." Don't get too intense with anybody of any description while your body and soul are still developing. This is a time to be free! Enjoy it. It's O.K. to just be an observer of your own emotions at this point. You don't have to act on them, and actually, there's no way you'll ever be able to act on All of them, is there? I mean, if all the cute people in the world actually consented to play with your body, You Wouldn't Have Time for Them All, would you? The worst thing that could happen is if people push you into things. You don't have to let them. You can grin and say, "I'm just a kid, and I like it that way!" That in itself is very sexy. People who attempt to intimidate you in any way are not! By not limiting yourself to a certain choice right now, you leave yourself open to all the best possibilities. Think about it. Once you go down a certain path, you're stuck with that path!
2007-03-02 22:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm 14 too and I don't know for sure that I'm gay or bi. I just assume cuz I get the hots for boys and have a crush on a boy. Little to no interest in girls. I think it's normal for us not to be sure right now. don't stress over it, you'll figure it out when you're supposed to.
And omg how annoying is it that just cuz we're teenagers, whenever we ask a question, someone always has to say "Concentrate on your education instead!" why can't we concentrate on school AND finding out who we are? Jeez.
2007-03-02 22:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Syck 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I really wouldn't worry about labels. I would say you are either bi or lesbian but it doesn't really matter. See how you feel spend time with all kinds of people. Go with the flow and don't worry about it. You are ahead of the curve. I didn't even know I was attracted to girls till I was 17!
2007-03-03 00:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, don't be in such a rush to get on with life. Make friends and have fun. I spent too much of my youth wondering things I didn't need to stress over. I got ulcers as a teenager! I am Bi. I didn't understand it then but I am happy now and choose to be with a cross dresser man.
2007-03-02 22:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are only 14. Most people are still looking for Themselves when they are 25. You are just going through a stage in Your life. Don't worry. Would You prefer to talk to Your 'friend' whilst Yoy were wearing a dress, or wearing whatever makes You comfortable?
2007-03-02 22:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't rush things. It's not uncommon for people your age to have conflicts about sexual identity. Relax and it will become apparent, although it might take a bit more time.
But also, don't rush getting to adulthood. 14 is very young both to get deeply into sexual activity and to get involved with someone 3 years older.
Good luck and be confident.
2007-03-02 22:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
liking someone is natural-you know this girl is a player means she isnt true-so its a total problem-I suggest what I did-I prayed-Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me do better, be my friend, amen My whole life changed wonderfull in every area and I had peace in my soul-just because I believed Jesus words that he loved me and kocked on my heart door to come in and save me and be my friend=Revelation 3:19&20 Praying for you too to know your heart and the one that made it, David then go to a good youth group which they have at these churches with honor in relationships first with Jesus---Bible fellowship, Baptist or Assembly of God church they will teach you the bible and to know all you need in Jesus.
2007-03-10 17:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol, you like her because you want to be her. You are way too young to be thinking about sexual orientation, but everyone is entitled to crushes. At 14, you should focus on what you will do when you're 21, like how will you support yourself.
2007-03-02 22:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rothwyn 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say you don't know who you like, and yet, you're attracted to this girl. But being that you're only 14, I'd relax a bit. It will come to you, in due time.
2007-03-02 22:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by whatnext 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋