2007-03-02 13:41:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
"Is it ok?" With who? Are you asking yourself? Who is validating this fantasy? Are you worried about how God will feel when he hears your thoughts? Are you married...worried about your husband? Is your lover married?
In MY personal opinion...it's not ok. It's not healthy. If he or youself are married, it's a sin to lust after someone else. Remember it's my personal opinion. Plus you're wasting your time on this man...when you could be overlooking someone obvious. Don't waste your time, love and energy. Move on.
2007-03-02 13:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by 30 year old 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid it if u can. But, people say love is blind, so it's still okay but u gonna have to suffer with ur own feelings. Or else pray very very very hard so that the impossible could be possible.
2007-03-02 18:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a woman want to set herself up for rejection? She should find someone with whom she can establish a relationship. Someone who's going to love her back. Stop wasting time with what can never be yours.
2007-03-04 20:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this? Do you love yourself enough to be happy with a man that will love you back? If so then dump the selfish man, because he does not respect you enough to be with you. Take time out and really look at the time lost trying to be with someone that will not be willing to be with you.
Get on with your life and LOVE yourself and RESPECT yourself.
The rule is if a person does not treat me dignity and respect, I have no room in my life for them.
Good luck.........
2007-03-02 19:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by cowboylizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a choice in who you fall in love with, but It is torture to love someone who is not available to you. The best thing you can do is stay away from that person.
2007-03-02 15:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both women and men sometimes fall in love with people who won't be theirs. Why? Because it's safe. I know I've done it. If I love someone who isn't available, I don't risk rejection.
2007-03-02 18:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by honest_funny_charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay because you love whom you love. Acting on it may not be okay depending on why it's "impossible." Sometimes "impossible" doesn't last forever, sometimes it does.
2007-03-02 13:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by scarletvanden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe we all have our fantasies about people we care deeply about.The thing to remember is be realistic.Being
compatible is important.Looks change over the years and
can't be the grounds of a true match.You would want to be able to communicate.Love one sided hurts but there is always someone better for you.
2007-03-02 13:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not ok, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen or isn't common. The part about it that's not ok is the fact that it isn't ok for her well being or self esteem, It will only hurt her on a deeper level than hurt on a physical level and usually last longer than any physical hurt. Sry
2007-03-02 13:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not okay...you deserve to love someone...to be theirs and for them to be yours. Life is too short for you to short-change yourself. Why be stuck in a dead-end relationship when you could be in one that has a great future.
You can love someone with all your heart and it doens't mean you belong together. Look at Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, they died loving each other but they could make their marriage work. Sometimes...love isn't enough.
2007-03-02 13:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Pam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋