mine is off to a good start ...I want it to last unlike the first ...true that i married a girl of differant race this time which presents its own challenges...{asian girl } ...but I think it is a cool thing ...just want to avoid any mistakes if possible ya know.
2007-03-02 13:30:11 · 12 answers · asked by ronald b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have only been married since October, but we have been together for almost 4 years now. Just an understanding that you are two different people is a great key in a great relationship. Don't expect the person to change for you because you want them to, accept them for who they are. Listen to your partner, if she tells you something is wrong try to correct it the next time and if she tells you something is good repeat that again but try to add a little flair in it. Tell your partner that you love her everyday. Just be yourself because you are the person that she fell in love with and married.
2007-03-02 13:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I to have been married before and I'm getting married this
summer again. I think honesty is the best answer.
But not just to your wife, you always have to be honest with
yourself also to, cause you have feelings and desires and even
though you are married you are still a separate person. Always
agree to disagree, cause there will be times when you disagree
on things, but listen and remember that the way you treat her
is hopefully the way she will treat you in return.
I don't keep anything from my partner, I tell him everything, some
times the truth may hurt but we'd all rather the truth over a lie
anyday. Also as a woman, I know we like and probably need
to feel loved more than most men, telling your wife how
beautiful she is often and always tell her that you love her.
It will make her feel secure and happy in your marriage.
2007-03-02 14:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 14 yrs in may. My marriage isnt perfect but im very happy and as far as i know he is too..lol..you have to work as a team, back each other up,help each other,learn from one another,communicate..he is my best friend and i know i can go to him with anything i have on my mind no matter how big or small. Also my biggest thing is i wont lie to him..im not good at lying and he isnt either..we have 3 handsome boys and i wouldnt change things for all the money in the world.we both share chores..not on a scedule thing but just when one falters the other helps out..congrats on your marriage and it says a lot already that your thinking ahead and want it stay as good as it is. im sure no matter what the obsticles you all will find a way. good luck and god bless!
2007-03-02 14:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by chasemeto2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, no abuse...verbal or physical, flowers or gifts for no special reason, romance, caring, touching, respect...you know, the honeymoon that doesn't end. I know of a couple that never married and their rule was "If you are nice to me, I'll be here tomorrow"...and that was 20 years ago and they are still very much in love...that about sums it up. Hey, have a wonderful marriage and when you do fight, think of it as growth and not the end of the marriage.
2007-03-02 13:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good choice. I married twice and they both ended in divorce to English girls in UK. I married again last year to a Filipina woman and it is a really wonderful marriage. They marry for life and are quite happy with a simple life and are not pushy and demanding. They are from a different culture and have different priorities but they are brought up to want to make their man happy. Just go along as you are and things will be fine.
2007-03-02 13:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my marriage is a happy one thus far but there have been days i could smack him silly but i love him..you got to communicate with each other always if just for a few minutes everyday take the time to sit down together and just talk .there has to be trust , and lots of laughter, lots of holding the tongue, unselfishness, really no one can tell you how to make a happy marriage, the two of you have to work on what makes you click as a team there is no me or i there is only we and us.
2007-03-02 13:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say how long you have been married to her but there is no room in any relationship for jealousy and never bring up the past let the past lay never throw anything up in her face.I have been married for 21 years in April and when we started trusting each other completely and stopped bringing up the past its all great now.
2007-03-02 13:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loyalty, trust, patience, love, understanding, COMMUNICATION!!!!
The 6 pillars of a relationship i think....if you have those you cant go wrong...
you are bound to argue...thats life...if you cant find the answer just agree to disagree...remember that you are both individuals, you both have different upbringings and life experiences....share these with each other....be patient...say i love you every day without fail....treat her like a princess and she will treat you like a King!
try to understand her culture, whats importantto her....do romantic things like learn how to say i love you in her language and see how she giggles :)
dont let a third person come between your relationship....im not only talking about loyalty im talking about family members who arent necessarily well wishers putting their words in your mind...poisoning you against each other, fuelling misunderstandings etc....if you are ever unsure about something someone has said then you go ask your wife....never believe anyone else....NO ONE!...Always believe your wife if you know in your heart she truly loves you then u know she will tell the truth!
just be gentle and the more wonderful you are to her the more she will want to be with you and do things for you and love you....
oh ya...if you have to argue then make sure you dont swear at each other...no foul language...u use it once and the respect is gone forever...even if u dont swear at each other swearing in general never helps an arguement so keepin it out of the 'heated discussion' is better.
another things...when you think your arguement is getting froom constructive to distructive then just say 'timeout' and stop talking to each other....but never walk out on each other....its okay to go to another room to calm down but never walk out of the house or drive away etc etc....never fight in public....never put your partner down to your friends and family...not only will they lose respect for your partner but 4 u also......never go to sleep angry, always make up before you head hits the pillow....cuddle and go to sleep together.....make time to sit and talk to each other about your day, eat at least one meal a day together.....keep your physicall relationship spicey with different romantic trix!
ummmm...i think thats it lol!
i wish you the best of luck with your wife....have a gr8 life together!
2007-03-02 13:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should asian culture and her language. When you can undertands her and distance you and her nearly. Eveything always begin difficult but a long time you undertands it when you will see it's good. I hope you will happy.
2007-03-02 13:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by heineken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust and communication. That's what it takes.
2007-03-02 13:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋