Okay, so my friend is having a party, and she invited this girl because she can't be mean like at all. But no one wants her to go. Not even the host! She's gonna follow my friend all night because she's the only one that talks to her, but she doesn't want her to go. I just wrote her an email saying
"******,
We're not trying to be mean but a lot of people are complaining that you're coming to ******'s party and we don't think it would be fun for you if no one but ****** talks to you.
From,
People"
What should I do?
2007-03-02 13:26:18 · 21 answers · asked by Janelle C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How about you be nice to her and see what she's good at? It might be a chance to realize that she's not that bad after all.
It really hurts when you're excluded from a group, and I bet that E-mail seriously hurt her feelings. It might not seem like much now, but in five years, or when you see her again when she's rich and famous, you'll regret not getting to know her now.
Remember, all the weird kids in school that no one likes end up being really powerful and famous. This could be your chance.
2007-03-02 13:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That probably was not the best thing to do.
If there is anyway to unsend the e-mail I would. About 9 years ago when I was 16. I would write emails right away and then regret them about an hour later. Now I write an e-mail and I dont send it out until I really thought hard and long about it.
Your friend (the host) probably invited this girl because she wanted her there, or she would not have invited her at all. But maybe she was influenced to say she does not want her there anymore because the rest of her friends dont want her there.
At the end of the day, it is the Birthday Girls choice. It is her birthday. One night is not going to hurt anyone, but one e-mail could hurt someone.
You want to try and live a "drama" free life, the events that have already taken place might give you more stress then just having a great time at the party with or without the girl your "hate". Just have a great time! Be the life of the party.
2007-03-02 21:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Peachy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like you make the world a miserable place to live in for people like xxxxx. You should delete that email if you haven't sent it. You think you are so wonderful because people accept you? Remember, many were yelling "Hosanna!" and throwing palm fronds at Christ's feet on Sunday. By Thursday the same people were yelling, "Crucify Him!"
Being cruel to someone who is not popular doesn't make you anything but a follower. Don't be surprised when you fall out of favor with this carnivorous bunch you call friends. Once they start chewing on you, perhaps you'll learn some compassion.
2007-03-02 21:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if that girl (that no one likes) knows what's good for her, she wouldn't go
if she's pathetic enough to come, don't even make her an issue
don't bother being aware about where she is or what she's doing or who she's trying to talk to while she's at the party
seriously like dont have her in your mind at all
she'll see that no one actually cares about her being there
if she talks to you, don't encourage conversation
if she compliments you, say thanks and walk on, don't start something
if she asks you something, answer her with the least amount of words you can use and go on with the conversation with your friends
just go on with your business
hopefully, she'll be smart enough to leave
normally i would tell you to be nice to this girl
whatever she does that makes her unpopular with your friends, just forgive her and move on
you dont know what's going on with her life that makes her the way she is
(u know, maybe she's going through a really hard time or something)
in the case that she does insult you from time to time or whatever, stand up for yourself but whatever u do, do not insult her back
give her absolutely no reason for her to get mad at you
keep yourlself innocent
that way, if she keeps insulting you or your friends, you can actually say that you've "never done anything to her"
good luck at the party!
and give your nice friend my compliments for such generosity
2007-03-02 21:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Corpse Bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have that problem daily at my school. to your situation i would be the host. for me i just put up with it and avoid the person as much as i can. i'm like you friend i can't be mean, its just not me.
your friend didn't have to invite her in the first place. she could have said that her parent said only a certain amount of people and thats it.
if shes going to ruin the part for everyone then your friend should just call the whole thing off. i mean if its going to be that bad. and i know everyone else shouldn't have to not have a party just because of 1 girl, but with her there it sounds like you won't enjoy yourselves anyway.
you could all just suck it up and try to have a good time.
its a sticky situation. and i can't think of much to help you out.
good luck.
2007-03-02 21:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by apolloK♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very rude. what right do you have to tell someone not to come to a party that is not being hosted by you. It sounds like you are jealous and don't want your friend to be with anyone but you. If your friend did not want her there she would not have invited her in the first place.
2007-03-02 21:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by mama bear 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What else can you do, I mean you sent an e-mail saying (nicely) things that most people wouldn't have the cajones to, plus the e-mail is a polite way to deliver such a message. I think most people wouldn't have said anything and just would've dealt with it. So, if she shows up, just do the adult, responsible thing and spike her punch! Maybe she's actually cooler drunk, and if things get out of hand, well at least she's drunk so whoopin her @$$ will be easy!!! Hope things work out.
2007-03-02 21:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by L T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GROW UP. How would you like if someone treated you like that??
I wish someone would tell all your mothers how childish you were all acting and then cancel the whole party and give you a good lecture on the Golden Rule.
2007-03-02 21:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by kristen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at things from her perspective - how MEAN! I'm sorry but I have to be honest. What purpose is there saying this to another human being? That is so low of you to even consider doing! OMG - I'm so glad your not my daughter, I'd disown you! To hurt someone else's feelings b/c they aren't cool! I hope someday you find out how it feels - to be on the outside! Shame on YOU!
2007-03-02 21:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should try to be the better person. meaning you should try to talk to her even though everyone else dosent want her there.
and you should send her a different email that says you want her to come.
unless no one likes her because she is mean.
2007-03-02 21:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Migisi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋