i live with my bf. he's had half a dozen or so jobs in the past year, all of which he has hated. recently, he got a job that he loves.
the problem: 12-hour workdays practically everyday and sometimes saturdays. give 2 hours for commute, 8 hours for sleep, that leaves 2 hours a day of free time (not even including eating, showering, shaving, etc.) not only that, but he goes in at different hours everyday. the past 2 days alone, he'd get out after midnight and go back in at 6am. that cant be healthy? and thats a weekly occurence (if not more). we hardly ever have time together anymore. i've tried talking to him, but he just gives me a guilt trip like "i'm doing it for you!" or "i finally have a job i like, why cant you be happy for me?"
sorry for the long description but i dont know what else to do. leave him be? what about his health? or my happiness? am i being too needy? i dont want either of us to be unhappy (obviously) but i dont know what else to do.
2007-03-02 12:58:15 · 3 answers · asked by fear of the dark 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
*sigh* he's never claimed to like his job before so this one's serious. secondly, im not insecure, i just think it sux that i LIVE with him and i see him so little that i miss him.
2007-03-02 13:11:29 · update #1
Well, first off, if he's had 1/2 dozen jobs in a year, it won't be much longer before he figures that he hates this job too. So stop nagging him and wait to see what happens.
2007-03-02 13:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now I would sit back and see what is actually going on with you and with him. There is no right answer and certainly a whole lot of wrong answers. Your happiness is important. But you also need to see what is really bothering you about all of his hours on this new job. Is it insecurity, a lack of trust or what? Only you can honestly answer that. RIght now he is able to handle the long hours. Nagging at him is not going to make him see reason on that score. Of course all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. But as I said before find out if its his health or your insecurity that is eating at you.
2007-03-02 21:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by totallymine2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I UNDERSTAND YOUR BF NEEDS TO WORK BUT HE SHOULD MAKE TIME FOR YOU ..GOSH , IF I WAS A MAN WORKING ..I WOULD DEFINITELY , MAKE TIME FOR A GF.. DOES MEN REALIZE HOW PRECIOUS FEMALES ARE ..AND DO THEY REALIZE AND /OR EVEN CARE ? HERE I AM , I WISHING I HAD A WOMAN ..SORRY BUT YOUR MAN IS DANG LUCKY AND NEEDS TO KNOW THAT! GOD BLESS AND BEST WISHES!
2007-03-02 21:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋