My "friend" has totally changed this year. She's now going out with my ex-boyfriend, who was really awful to me during the relationship and even worse afterwards, and she tells me all these stories about him and his friends, who dislike me, as well. She doesn't listen to me when I try to tell her something. She gets mad at me whenever I do something she doesn't like. And anytime I say anything about her ridiculous flirting...seriously, even the creepy kids...she says that if I were her real friend, I would know that it's just her personality and that she's not actually flirting.
I've tried to shut my mouth about everything so that I don't cause an upset, but I'm really sick of it. I've walked through fire for her, but I feel like I'm getting screwed.
What do I do? (How) should I tell her? Should I shut up about it again? Should I end it?
2007-03-02 12:51:59 · 15 answers · asked by Lain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is not anyone I would call a "friend". She might have been a friend last year, but she is one "mean girl". now. There isn't anything you wrote that would tell me that she cares about you as her friend. It's time to put some serious distance between you and her, and you need to find some new friends. Don't be her doormat, her behavior is abusive to you. And if she approaches you to tell you things that hurt - don't show any emotion - just cut her short and tell her you aren't interested in what she has to say anymore and walk away from her.
2007-03-02 13:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you described between the two of you doesn't really sound like a friendship. If it was me and I had a BF that treated me badly then one of my friends took up with him, I'd be very offended. As far as what you say to her, I believe that friends should be able to say what is on their minds to each other. She doesn't sound as if she values you much at all. It doesn't seem like you really need to think about this one. Do what works for you. Personally, I'd kick her to the curb so fast that she wouldn't know what hit her.
2007-03-10 18:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make this 'friend' not a close one and find another friend to hang out with. This friendship was probably over when she started dating your ex boyfriend. If she will do that she doesn't think of you as a true friend and doesn't mind your feelings being hurt, even though he is a 'ex'
2007-03-08 14:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why are even still callin her your friend. no friend treats the other friend like crap(strike one), went with your ex(strike 2) and doesnt want to listen to you and gets mad when u tell her the truth(strike 3) she's out.. u can either choose to comfort her exactly the way you said it and face the result or you can continue to take it and be quiet and it'll be eating u up inside.
2007-03-10 15:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god,Your looking out for a friend & she treets you like this.If he's totaly meen then that doesn't sound like a good type of person to be hanging around.Be yourself if she's flirting then that's up to her but just look and say to yourself isn't she making a fool of herself.You warned her about him so just stick by her and hope.
Hope every thing works out
yours sincerely k_short714
2007-03-10 20:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by k_short714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was she always like this? from what i read ...she sounds like well.. self centered..irratited.. but something else as well..has something bothering her lately.. family problems maybe.. any issues? sexual problems? if not well..your better of laying low for a while cuz that sounds like well.. in your friendship.. only her side matters..and if she is your real friend..she should consider your feelings more often..lay low.. its not good when your bottling everything inside..think about it this way.. your like a volcano..for years you stayed patient and calm so everyone is happy.. they keep giving you **** but you just take it and smile but deep inside those magma are forming.. then one day.. boomm!! you'll have an emotional breakdown.. try talking to your friend.. sit her down.. dont let her talk.. and just say everything you feel starting from.. your x boyfriend.
2007-03-10 08:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by 2 wierd 2 live but 2 rare 2 die 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my god, I have a cousin just like that. I have found out the less time I speak with her ther better I feel. First off, the law of friends is that we dont date friends'
X boyfriends....thats a no-no. I would distance myself from her and just be nice if you have to talk to her. Good Luck!
2007-03-02 21:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be nice to her but go on and find new friends. She is only hurting herself and just maybe she will realize how ridiculous she is acting and looking to others. Give it time but be nice to her and don't play into her hands by telling her she is getting "to you." Good Luck
2007-03-09 21:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by andyt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she not your real friend because why would she go out with some one you went out with that is nasty. I think you should let be with him. this might sound mean but when he brake her heart she will see that you was telling her the truth
Let her learn the hard way. she not you friend girl friends don't do that to each other.
stop being her friend
she is gross dating that guy you dated
2007-03-10 20:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by love1011392 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a new friend. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to you.
Real friends care about us, are interested in what we have to say and if they are
concerned about our conduct will tell us the truth. Kick her to the curb.
2007-03-10 19:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋