My parents try to controll my life, they tell me where to go when and even tell me who I can and can't date. They don't trust my jugment and want to meet all my friends before I hang out with them. They make plans for me to be some where or do something with out even telling me first,i don't find out till like the last min that they did that. I'm tierd of that. I've been looking for a paying job the past month. What should I do?
2007-03-02 12:40:54 · 4 answers · asked by Tweetybird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know this is going to sound so cliche' but they are doing that to keep you safe and to show you how much they love you. I know it doesn't feel that way but to be honest with you allow me to share my story. First off, I never answer a question that doesn't have some meaning to me and one that I cannot answer honestly.
here goes, life is tough. People are mean. Bad things happen. Life can be hard and your parents are here to protect you from all that. However, (and I make the same mistakes with my son) we try to protect too much and we should allow our children to experience some bad things because that is the only way they will learn, but "we" cannot bare to see you, (our children) in pain, so we over protect them. Just the other day my son asked, no he begged, if he could go to the mall after school with his friends and I said yes, because I remembered when I was his age, and after a few hours he came home, safe and sound thank God and he was so happy and I realized that I did the right thing. But it was hard for me. So please, I am not asking you to completely understand but I am asking you to try. I do not know how old you are but if you are over 18 they should let up a little anything under that, please understand that they love you and want to keep you safe. But here is something you can do, which is what my son did, just be honest and talk openly with them. Tell them how you feel and above all, (to get them to listen) tell them you understand they care but express how you need some freedom. Tell them that you need to make some mistakes to learn and ask them to show you some respect in your judgement. It may not happen right away but with an open conversation they will eventually give in a bit. So try that but remember they love you more then life and only want you to see the world through rose colored glasses which we as parents have to realize is not possible.
Good Luck.
2007-03-02 12:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are looking out for your best interests. I, too, insisted on meeting my daughter's friends. We, as parents, love our children, and we are more mature and have been where you haven't been yet. My girls accused me of the same things you are accusing your parents of but they turned out to be pretty great kids. Give your parents a break. Talk to them and explain you would like more notice than they are giving you when they make plans and let them meet your friends . If the friends are good kids then you should have nothing to hide from them.
2007-03-02 12:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you? It appears to me that your parents have your best interests in mind. Go along with them until you are out of their house and on your own. Remember the way they are doing things now. It will serve you well in the future.
2007-03-02 12:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by expatmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because they are worried about you, and they don't want you to get hurt, or worse.
2007-03-02 12:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋