okay, so i've sat down && thought about it, and feel that i honestly am ready to have sex...but i dont want to feel like an incompetent loser with my significant other if i turn out to be "bad"...do u have any tips on how to make it more pleasureable, like how-tos?? thanx so much!! <3
2007-03-02 12:27:09 · 12 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My 1st experience didn't hurt and he lasted about 60 seconds. He got up and I was laying there thinking " that's it! That's what the big fuss is all about" . It may or may not hurt but more than likely you won't have an orgasm. I didn't have one for a long time. The best advice I've got is watch porn. I think it's really the best way. It might freak you out a little bit but it's better than use trying to explain positions to you. I'm not condoning you having sex, but if your going to do it you need to be prepared. I'm sure you've heard this 1000 times put use protection. I thought back then that people my age didn't get pregnant and didn't think much about it. I thought I was cool because I was 14 and my boyfriend was 21. I figured out though that the 1st thing he did when he picked me up was get me alcohol to drink. We had sex twice. I started my freshman year pregnant and gave birth to my son 18 days after my 15th birthday. Just please give it some more thought.
2007-03-02 17:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by DeAnna B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well something u left out is if your significant other is a virgin too? if thats the case, you really will just have to jump into and figure things out. if hes done it before he may be able to guide you. you'll need lube and condoms. if u want to just do it the easy way the first time have him lay on top of you and enter that way. it will be hard to get int and may hurt a little but you'll get into the swings of thinigs right after that. and if u dont have lube just make sure he gets u feeling really nice and into it before trying to penetrate, otherwise you'll be tense down there making it a lot harder. its really the simplest most human thing! other tricks and more fun stuff will come later ;)
2007-03-02 21:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by SweetDarlin' 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why you wait until you are married and only have sex with one person in your lifetime. You don't have to even worry about this kind of thing because neither of you will have anyone else to compare the other person to, so you can relax and enjoy it without worrying about whether you're "good at it" or not. Wait until your wedding night, then go for it with the "practice makes perfect" philosophy!
2007-03-03 00:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it always hurts the first time, but i guess the best thing to do is to not plan out having sex for the first time.. id say go with the flow, and just let it happen.. nobodys first time is gonna be full of whips and handcuffs and different positions( if theyre doing it willingly) if youre afraid youll be bad in bed, then tell your partner to help lead you, kinda direct you to what he wants to do and what pleasures him.. just take it slow and remember that you have an opinion too when having intercourse.(dont do something he likes if it makes you uncomfortable) if he likes you, he'll understand.
2007-03-02 20:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.contreras 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him do the work the first few times so you get the hang of what to do and its not gonna feel to great maybe for 2 or 3 times don't worry about being "bad" its your first time you'll get better.
2007-03-02 20:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Noell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is don't unless there is love and a sizable amount of trust between you two. Many wish they could do their first time over again because it lacked feeling and warmth. Only go through with this if you're sure.
2007-03-03 07:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are your first time and even your first couple times will not be pleasurable and will hurt like a b****. So I suggest lots of foreplay so at least you're getting something out of it!
After that I promise it will be REALLY good!
2007-03-02 20:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are over 18, the only thing you need to have before you become intimate with your partner is love.
and if your partner thinks you are an "incompetent loser" if you are "bad", then you need to get away from them as quickly as possible.
your worth is not in your sexual skills, but in who you are as a person.
have a nice day.
oh yea...take condoms too.
2007-03-02 20:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by sharrron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For chicks the first time is not fun, unless you use lots of LUBE.
If you worry too much you won't be able to enjoy it. Just make sure to use a condom.
2007-03-02 20:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just lay there and do what he says! It sounds like ur more worried about him than yourself, so let him do it his way. But what if he's bad!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 20:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋