All i have ever really done with boys is make out with them so you this is a really touchy subject for me
2007-03-02 12:18:08 · 15 answers · asked by dominique g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
After he says I do and puts a ring on your finger, that is the perfect time to take it all the way. Until then you wait.
2007-03-02 12:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you are over 18. I made the mistake of having sex when I was under 18 and it really complicated my life and relationships. It's easy to feel like you are "in love" after having sex. I made a lot of bad choices after that based on "love" that wasn't really even love at all.
Contrast that to my daughter who waited. She has had good relationships. She did well in school. Just be patient.
Concentrate on finishing school with flying colors and worry about sex later in life. You have a very long life ahead of you so what is the hurry? Once you let the genie out of the bottle it can become far too consuming - especially when you are young. I wish I could show you exactly what I mean but all I can do here is type a few words and give you my advice.
My advice is to wait. But I think you are looking for a reason not to wait. I'm sure plenty of other people will give you the excuse you are looking for. But not me.
Take care of yourself. If you do have sex then make 110% sure you don't get pregnant. Don't depend on the guy to make sure. YOU have to have your own protection.
2007-03-02 12:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should know that this guy really loves you and have been with you for a long time. By this point you'll have explored almost everything there is in the book besides "all the way."
Then you should make sure that he gets tested (if he's not a virgin), and that you are protected from being pregnant (condoms or the pill or even both).
After all of this, you have to make sure you have absolutely no doubt that it's what you want. If you have even the smallest of doubts, it's probably not the right time.
Don't ever let a guy pressure you, no matter how much you love him or how much he says he loves you. If he really loves you, he'll wait.
And trust me, you'll know when you're ready.
2007-03-02 12:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by NiKkY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only have sex when you are completely ready (as a mom I would say wait until you are married), you should never feel as though you are being pressured into making the decision, because it is a big decision that can ultimately lead to pregnancy or an STI, even when using protection.
If you aren't sure if you are ready then you aren't, you will know when it's time...I suggest waiting at least until you are out of high school...most girls that have sex before they are 18 regret it later in life.
Best of luck.
2007-03-02 12:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it until he gives you the rings, at least the engagement ring. I know it sounds old fashioned, but the reward will be that you and your special someone will have sacrificed for something that will last a lifetime and beyond.
If you give it up now and he quits you later because he got what he wanted in the end without committment, you cannot get what you gave back. I have seen too many fatherless children.
It's like Judge Judy says, did you get in writing? If not, you stand a big chance to lose.
Good luck, be careful, and be good to yourself because you are worth it.
2007-03-02 12:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by ringolarry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he takes his marriage vows with you! Marriage is a relationship by, through and with God. Remember, that sex is the fruit of a good relationship, not the foundation. In order to fully benefit from any relationship, that relationship has to have the interest of both parties as a primary ingredient. The activity of sexual relations was designed for the fulfillment of the marriage covenant, and not to be practiced outside of marriage. The "two shall become one", not "the two shall become one, and another, and another, and another, etc. Besides, any man really interested in what is best for you, will wait! Aren't you worth it?
Good luck, and God Bless!
2007-03-02 12:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Pastor Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your ready and the guy is ready. Sont let anyone pressure u n2 doing stuff that u dont want. It would be better if u knew that the guy really sincerely cared about u and wouldn't leave u straight afterwards. My advice is 2 be in a good, tight relationship b4 u go 'all the way'.
(basically u need 2 wait til u get married. its worth the wait, i promise.)
2007-03-02 12:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by raven22229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will know when you feel comfortable. If you have any doubts then don't, because you will probably regret it. I know every once in a while you get caught in the moment, and once you feel comfortable with going to the next level, and you take precautions, then you will be ready. Good luck!
2007-03-02 12:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by _hopefull_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you and the guy are at least 18 years old...in a committed relationship and you love and respect each other.....that's the perfect time.
A lot of people just do it when they have an itch that needs scratching....that's not the right time.
2007-03-02 12:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me hell tell you when hes ready and if at that moment if your not then just push him away and say later honey im not quite right for this right now
2007-03-02 12:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋