I am 15 and my girlfriend got pregnant about 4 months ago and she had a miscarrige we have tried birth control and everything else and she is pregnant again. The first time we didn't say anything to the parents and she doesn't want to this time either but everytime we have sex she get pregnant more less.
2007-03-02 11:56:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My question is that I really need some advice I have tried using a condom and nothing works. Is it just that one of us are really bad luck???
2007-03-02 12:09:41 · update #1
It seems that the two of you are not ready for the heavy responsibility of having sex. Birth control when USED CORRECTLY works. You two are obviously not equipped to handle this responsibility. I would say that first and foremost, stop having sex. Then you have to trust both your parents and just bite the bullet and tell them what has happened so they can get you the proper help you need. I know it'll suck, but they are your parents and they will protect you both.
Good luck!!
2007-03-02 12:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... like most said.. the obvious reason is that your too young. My dad was fifteen when I was born and I was raised by my mom and her alone. Don't do that to your kids.. Either way... because she had a miscarriage... she needs to go to the dr. You've already made the decision to have sex so now you have to act like an adult and take the advice of the ones who aren't criticizing you.
She needs to see a dr asap. There are so many reasons. If she's miscarried once the likely hood of it happening again is twice as high. She could have damage from the first time too.
If she is pregnant and stays that way you obviously don't have to worry about safe sex for the next few months! However, you guys need to sit down with your parents and talk the situation out. It's going to be really hard but sit down and talk with her first and figure it out. Let your parents know what's happening so that she can get on birth control and both of you can be taken care of. Remember that 3 out of 4 people in the US are infected with HPV which is invisible to guys and can cause girls cancer.
If your going to have this baby, now is the time that you are going to have to get yourself into a routine. Make sure that you finish school and work nights and weekends to make some extra cash. Put it in the bank and do what you can while you are still in your parents house. Fact is that most of the time when you become a parent you won't want to be in your parents house. After you reach a certain age you can get on state assistance to help pay for day care for the baby so that both of you can finish school and go to work.
I don't know where you live but some highschools have day care in them. Don't know if thats an option for you but if it is, I'd consider it.
Welcome to adulthood weither you like it or not. I won't suggest abortion, but if your and her family is unhealthy and abusive then adoption may also be a good suggestion. It's time to sit down and talk to your g/f and get a game plan going.
Good luck,
Dani
2007-03-02 13:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by breathofvitality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a problem with the birth control, like you are not using it properly perhaps or a medical issue. I know birth control can slip up sometimes but in this case you should refrain from having sex. She needs to see a gyne doctor and get checked out. You are both very young and too young to be facing these problems. So best answer is....stop having sex dude. If you love each other, you should both feel fine to wait a bit until she is better and your birth control is 100% ok. I would tell her parents in case she is poorly and needs looking after or there is an underlying medical issue that needs attention why the miscarriages and struggles with birth control.
2007-03-02 12:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by alexa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn from these mistakes. Stop having all this unprotected sex. Tell her to try gettin the Depo shot for birth control because you only have to get one every 3 months. Fortunatle most states dont require you to be 18 to get an abortion, so if you not ready to be a daddy i think you guys nees to go that route and fast. You 2 need to call around to different clinics and come up with the money
2007-03-02 12:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well at 15 you do not need to be a dad you need to be studying your school work to become a good man with a good job when you become an adult. have you ever think that she is not taking the pill ? you should be smarter than that and use a condom if you want to have sex and protect your self .for it is strange that she is getting pregnant every time something is wrong
2007-03-02 12:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by ginger b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her parents are going to find out sooner or later. She is miscarrying for a reason: Her body isn't mature enough to be pregnant. You need to stop having sex with this girl or use a condom so you know yourself that you are taking precautions.
2007-03-02 12:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP HAVING SEX!!!! This is not rocket science! But since she is pregnant again, TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! Your baby and your girlfriend NEED prenatal care and I am sure they will be mad at first but THEY WILL GET OVER IT BELIEVE ME!! GO to the Doctor ASAP! IF she miscarries again, QUIT COMPLETELY having sex until your old enough to even get a job!! Take care of her and be there for her, by being there for her you need to tell an adult ASAP! Good luck and stop having sex!
2007-03-02 12:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by livindead_zombie13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it possible that she is having sex with someone else or lying that she's on birth control..or poking holes in condoms..hey girls do crazy things to have a baby if they're obsessed with a guy...and arent you a little too young to have a baby..im 19 i have a 2 month old and i still think im young but my husband and i were ready..i dont think you are
2007-03-02 16:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by BoOBoO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either stop having sex.. are use other thing like condom and yes you should tell parents so they can help. they also help find a birth control that will work.
2007-03-02 12:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by NANCY T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I particularly have heard of subject matters of girls having difficulty getting prego after having an abortion, yet do no longer understand of any in my opinion. So i'm no longer totally particular on that. in case you both didn't wish a toddler the first time why did you no longer study this time? there is an chance ANY TIME that she will manage to get pregnant. i wish the perfect for the both one among you.
2016-12-05 04:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by mrotek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋