she 20. ive known her for two years on msn, she was even plannin on movin to uk to see me, to be with me. but weve had alot of fall outs because ive formed an attachment to her, and i admit ive been jealous, possessive and clingy with her...this time she told me shes gonna stop trying to win me over and get me to trust her, i wrote her an email recently to explain how sorry i was and that ive just recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and that i await therapy, but ive heard nothing of her for two days..im terribly upset and feel an emptiness in me, i so desperatly want her to come back. i have sulked alot with her, accused her of not really loving me. and now i truly regret it. on her last email she said she still loves me, but is gonna stop trying to convince me, that she loves me and is being faithfull..i love her but i dont no what to do from here on in..im scared of begging her not to leave me incase she rejects me..im 29 and in the midst of battling this
2007-03-02 11:54:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
disorder right now...im trapped in a small flat in the north of england trying to overcome all this, i dont like this existance, i wanna be somewhere else. like somewhere in canada in a nice house with this girl. dont no how i can work through this dibilitating disorder though..what can i do?
2007-03-02 11:58:15 · update #1
Dude, this is weird, I am in pretty much the same position. I've "been with" my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now in a Long Distance Relationship. I'm 19 and she's 18. I'm from England, she's American, currently in Florida. Like you I found myself being jealous and possesive and for some reason I always imagined she was cheating on me.
Before I met her I had depression, and I'm sure from the way I am I have other things wrong with me, but I have never seen anyone about it like Doctors or whatever, because I can hide all the things I feel from everyone, except her. Her situation is strange, where her family barely let her on the computer anymore, maybe for 10 minutes with me a week, and since November we have broken up and got back together about 5 times.
I don't know if you and your girl have met each other face to face, but my girlfriend and I have, and since then I vowed to try and get back with her permanently. However I didn't figure on it being so bloody difficult, what with American Immigration Laws or whatever. Anyway, on Monday after a couple of bad days at work, I snapped over something stupid and broke up with her, again, saying how I couldn't take the waiting anymore and that she didn't seem as enthusiastic as I was. Anyway, I have been regretting it ever since and have been in talks with her friend about possibly moving over there as soon as July, however after the 5 minute conversation I had with my girlfriend last night, it seems I used up my last chance and she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, and it's tearing me up inside.
2007-03-02 12:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Andy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you guys become a couple, like a true couple and get super serious, you need to get some help. I'm not trying to be a *****, but sometimes that will help. I'm in love with someone in Florida, who is never coming back to Minnesota. So I know how long distance sucks. But for your case I would suggest to figure out your disorder first, then try to make it work. If you are truely meant to be, it will work out. Everything will be ok in the end, and if it's not, then it's not the end.
2007-03-02 12:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by b_ridge_it122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough on you and I sympathise so much!! I have had a similar experience with a girl in europe. Only time can heal your pain and you must tell your self that there are plenty more people out there!! Its going to be hard but You cannot let yourself be hurt anymore!If you dont hear from her,Try to occupy your self over the next few weeks and things will get better Good Luck!!
2007-03-02 12:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by bornagainandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby, try and take it easy..and slowly.
Your message came through as frantic and desperate..you're in the north..WHERE? I'm in the North/. Get back to me Honey.PLEASE.........
2007-03-02 13:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mini-Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to canada and get this girl
2007-03-02 23:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋