im only 19 and i want to start having babies my partner is not ready, we have plans to marry and have children but i want them now and he doesnt. what should i do?
2007-03-02 11:42:24 · 13 answers · asked by sammmm 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Talk to him and explain your feelings. Come to a compromise of some sort. Don't make him feel guilty about wanting to wait.
2007-03-02 11:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give your partner time! Being married is an big enough adjustment in and of itself without adding babies to the mix. You are young and there is no reason to rush...you have plenty of time. You should realize that being a parent is a lot of responsibilities and you need to make sure you are ready for all the responsibilities that come with raising a child. You will now have a little life that requires a lot of attention and care. You can no longer have the freedom you have now b/c you have to find babysitters to go anywhere(or always take the baby with you). You can no longer be selfish b/c you have a little life to think about now. Just some things to think about. Baby are such a blessing, but only when you are really ready to have one.
2007-03-02 20:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you are both ready. This doesn't mean that all discussions are off the table, but if you get pregnant on purpose he may end up resenting you and it could be a bad situation. Just talk to him and reassure him of all the wonderful things that a family can bring and if he has money or situational concerns you will have to tell you side. Tell him why you think you two are ready. If he still isn't ready then set a time frame so at least it isnt out there hanging in the air. Good Luck!
2007-03-02 20:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Adams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your partner is ready or leave your current partner and find one that wants babies right now. If you deceive your partner and get pregnant, it will cause nothing but problems.
I would also suggest that you wait to get pregnant until after you are married. Doing it the old fashioned way is always best.
You are also very young and have lots of time to have those babies, so just relax.
2007-03-02 19:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are raging. It's natural for a woman to be baby hungry, but you're very young for it, and your partner is not ready, so it would be an extremely bad idea to try now. Think about it: You have a good twenty years to have a baby or two, and wouldn't you rather bring your children up in a stable home with two parents that wanted them?
2007-03-02 20:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait.
You arn't even married to this person and you are already talking about having children. Slow down a little, get married and talk about you plans. If they are not ready to become a parent yet, then you should respect that, don't force him into anything he is not ready for. Talk about a timeline on when you both would like to have kids
Good luck
2007-03-02 19:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by leahhy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on a couple of vacations before you have a baby. Oh yeah and the movies too! If you feel it in your heart, sit with your partner and both come to agreement. If not, it wont be fun for him. He may even resent you. Its much more fun when both of you are ready. Don't worry he will come to terms with it. Take your time. I have a 7 month old and cant go out much. If my husband and I do, I'm constantly thinking about her. Have fun!!!
2007-03-02 19:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that your bf is smart for you are only 19 an the world is not going any where and i am sure that he is not either. you need to get your golds in play like school job and may be a place to live with you have a husband have you think about all of that having a baby is a huge responsibility and a life time commitment so honey think before you have sex unprotected . make sure that you want to spent your life with this man and want to share your life with this man . well enough of me hope that you take my advise
2007-03-02 20:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by ginger b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
should wait til you are married, how would you like to explain to your daughter that because you did not wait it isn't ok for her.. you will have to be the role model.. good luck but trust me you really want to wait get out enjoy the world go places without having to worry about the kids are have to take them with you enjoy life a little first, you have a long time to have babies.
2007-03-02 19:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by NANCY T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a really bad idea to get pregnant before both of you are ready. it will cause many more problems than you can imagine.. just relax and wait until you are both ready. if you aren't willing to wait for him to be ready, maybe you shouldn't be with him. if you are planning to get married, it sounds like you love him? if you love him, you should be willing to give him some time
2007-03-02 19:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by MnKLmT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋