2007-03-02 11:35:43 · 24 answers · asked by Saint777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Marriage 1st
2007-03-02 11:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For religious reasons some people wait to live with each other after marriage.
There is no right way. Sometimes just living together prevents two people from ever commiting and walking away is easier.
Really it is about the level of commitment.
I don't think living together before loving each other is good. There has to be love & commitment. Marriage and living together is a serious decision and should be gone into with wisdom and resolve to make it work.
I think casual living together has deminished the sucess of relationships.
Society tends to swing from one extreem to another. Long ago marriage was a death sentence of forever. Now, more marriages break up than stay together. We need to get things back in balance.
2007-03-02 19:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good idea to live with someone before you are married. Statistics show that people who live together before they are married have a higher divorce rate than people who wait until they are married to live together. The reason simply being that everyone has conflicts when they are living together, but when two people are married they work on the conflict in order to save their marriage. People who are not married are living together based on the fact that they know that if there was a huge conflict then they could get out of the situation. So the issue here is how the two people deal with their conflicts in a living-together situation. A married couple is working on a common goal, which is to stay married, so they resolve their issues in a different way than a couple that isnt married. A couple that is just "testing each other out" is more likely to split up because each person knows that they could get out of the living situation if they wanted to.
2007-03-02 19:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think it was best to live with someone before you marry them and in fact, I've done it myself a few times, but now that I'm older and more experienced, I am not sure it's a good idea. Based on my own experiences and those of people I know, it seems like it almost always turns out to be a bad deal for the woman, especially financially, and then, because you weren't married, you have no legal protection like you would in a divorce. I guess it would depend on the two people involved, what financial arrangements you make in the beginning, how long you've been together and how committed you are to your relationship.
2007-03-02 19:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would live with someone first for at least a year if possible. You really get to know someone when you live with them.
Marriage: Be certain you both are on the same page before commiting to anything.
2007-03-02 19:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enter into marriage at once. Before marriage is like playing house. Its not the real thing until its official.
2007-03-02 19:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two sides to this question. First of all knowing someone and living with them are two different experiences. On the other hand if marriage is important to you, it is better to get married first. You never know if by moving in first your other half will be thinking why buy the cow if the milk is free. So, just get your priceless piece of paper first.
2007-03-02 19:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by sexy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be married before you live together. People may think they need to "try things out" but if you are really committed to a person, the marriage will work out.
2007-03-02 19:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by tinktink20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with someone, is nothing like it was when you were
dating. Beleive me. Everything changes because you
become domesticated. You have more responsibility and even
though it will be sort of adventurous in the begining, I have to
say that it is better to test the water before you jump in.
You'll learn more about him after you have lived together for
awhile, around a year, and it's better to live together before
thinking about getting married, cause you might change your mind after. Some people tend to change once they feel like
your furniture. Like you will always be there.
2007-03-02 22:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be ideal to live with them first. However, there are legal issues that should be covered first. Such as if a breakup occurs, who gets what. In some cases, you could be considered common law married, and then she could have a right to some of your money and belongings. Especially if you have kids.
2007-03-02 19:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋