She's a friend who has a reputation (if you know what i mean).
The thing is, she's a really kind person, thinks of others before her own needs and is always there for a shoulder to off load trouble's....BUT....she also has a reputation as man eater of the married.
She sometimes get's a bit TO friendly and even though i'm not interested in her in that respect cos i would never do anything like that to my wife (who happens to be the most wonderfull woman alive). She's done evrything to try and temp me.
Calling me to her house to help fix stuff and wearing nothing but a small towel and sitting on my lap....you name it, she's tryed it.
I'm just not interedted though and it's been going on for weeks.
I dont want to loose her friendship though, as she's also one of my wife's best friends.
I've tried telling her straight, but she still does it.
2007-03-02 10:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by trickyrick32 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She might be one of your best friends, but what if your wife caught her doing something with you (even if you had no part in it), is this worth loosing your wife's trust over? Or even worse..your wife!!? She doesn't sound like a very good friend to your wife, does she? Flirting with her best friends husband.
She is probably a lovely person...perhaps she herself needs help...this excessive need for male attention could be due to a physchological problem...difficulties with her own father, abuse anything...do you think that's possible. I think if you have been open and honest enough to be straight with her and ask her to stop...she should have and tell her that if it doesn't, you won't be able to see her anymore..it's a tough choice...but think of your beautiful wife and what her supposidly "best friend" is doing!
2007-03-02 10:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by SH2007 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't put others needs before her own or she wouldn't be trying to steal someone elses husband just to stroke her own ego. By the sounds of it she is totally lacking in confidence, apart from her sexuality, and will latch onto any man that gives her attention. This is why she has a reputation. It is the sign of a very sad and lonely woman, who desperately seeks a mans love, but she thinks because you love your wife, you are a man who is capable of love, and you might possibly love her instead. You know yourself that the qualities you choose in a wife go much deeper than sex, and this woman doesn't have any of those qualities, which is why she is still on her own. Just tell her straight that you are not interested, and if she continues to make advances you will tell your wife
2007-03-02 22:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do want to lose her friendship. She has no thought of the consequences of her actions. Don't be available to fix things for her. It is treating your wife with contempt going round there knowing what she is like.
2007-03-03 04:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell your wife of her behaviour before she tells her that it's you thats been doing all the stalking!.....believe me if she can't get you that way she will screw things up with you and your wife...some friend eh?.......scared of losing her friendship?...sounds to me that like all the attention shes giving you, tell her she's a skanky whore and that you love your wife, and that she should repect her friend more, YOUR WIFE!
goodluck
2007-03-03 09:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to let her know that you DON"T like her. Try avoiding her and show your affection towards your wife. If this doesn't help then you are going to have to tell her straight up that you don't it what she is doing.Hope this helps!****
2007-03-02 12:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by lynette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife what her so called friend is up to! She sounds very insecure to me, and dangerous.
2007-03-02 10:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
does your wife know? try telling her what is going on and how you feel about it and ask her if she can take care of it for you and I bet it stops immediately
be cool...
2007-03-02 10:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she aint much of a friend to ur wife if shes trying to get you into bed. stay well away!
2007-03-02 10:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been in this situation before i managed to upset this woman avoided her as best as i could she eventually gave up on me.
2007-03-02 11:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by stacyroach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy you still go round to see her ? and you will carry on going round to see her - it is obvious that you will give in, the only question is - when.
2007-03-02 10:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by jardon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋