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im 17 and pregnant...only 2 problems...i dont know how to tell my mom and i dont know who the father is...what do i do!!!! and on top of that prom is around the corner

2007-03-02 10:46:10 · 27 answers · asked by LoK4 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

27 answers

I think the real problem is that you don't know who the father is! They do make condoms. Never mind being pregnant, what about STD's? You need to tell your mom, get an aids test and forget about Prom. You have bigger problems than that!

2007-03-02 10:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa T (Stop BSL) 6 · 0 0

There are reliable adoption agencies in every community. Check the internet or the phone book and call soon. They will NOT require that you place your baby for adoption, but their counselors can help with every part of the decision, how to tell your mom, the legal stuff regarding the possible father, how to make plans. Probably not who to go to the prom with, but the important stuff. Making an adoption plan is often the best all around. You will be able to finish high school and go through your teenage years without having to be a parent first; the baby will have a home with a family that can take care of a child; the adopting family will have a child they really want. You can choose the adopting family and arrange any degree of contact with the child that you want. Look into it.

2007-03-02 10:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0 0

People will try and tell you you're immoral or wrong but i don't think that helps you at all. I'm 17 as well and fearing pregnancy so i've been thinking about this a lot.
The first thing to do is decide if you're going to keep the baby, give it up for adoption, or get an abortion if it's not against your morals. It can really mess up your life to have the baby at the wrong time....For me, i'm afraid because that would mean going into college 7 months pregnant. So figure out what you want to do there.
As for your mother...if she knows you're sexually active then it shouldn't be as hard. It really depends on your relationship with your mother and your plans for the pregnancy. I hope that it works out for you.
If you are close enough to any of the potential fathers, talk to them. tell them what's going on. They may be able to offer support.
About prom...I know how big of a deal that can be. if you feel okay going (if you're showing, or if you've been getting sick, that could be problematic) then i'd say you should go, if you can. I know that it's a big deal, but so is pregnancy.

2007-03-02 11:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Prom is the least of your worries. How are you going to go to prom when you too busy throwing up and getting ready for baby?

You need not have a problem in making a grown up decision when you had sex without being on birth control so now look what you have to do for the next 18 years of your life. Be an adult like you have chosen and tell your mom.
How many people did you sleep with? Go to http://www.mybirthcare.com and put in either your due date or the first day of your last period and it will calculate when you would have conceived and if you keep up when you have sex then maybe that will help you to know who got you pregnant.

You have options such as abortion, adoption and raising the kid. Congrats!!!!

2007-03-02 10:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0 0

Prom is the least of your worries though I think you should attend. You have some tough decisions to make. First you are going to have to tell your parents if you intend to have this baby. Carefully examine ALL of your options. Do not let anyone including your parents influence you to do something you don't want to do. This is a grown up situation and you and only you are going to have to make a very grown up choice. Think hard and decide first what you are going to do then go to your parents. Seek professional help, call a teen pregancy hot line or talk to the nice folks at Planned Parenthood. Information is key, the more you know and understand will help you in your decision making process. I wish you the best of luck. In the future take care of your self first and seek birth control, because it is ultimately you who decides if you become pregnant or not. It is not anyone else's responsibility, its your body, you will be the one to suffer pregnancy and birth and most likely all the child care. So you need to make sure if you don't want those things to happen you must take responsibility for your actions. You have acted very carelessly, please learn from your mistakes before something even worse happens than missing your prom. Sex can kill, so welcome to adulthood.

2007-03-02 11:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 0 0

The sooner you tell your mom,the better.Don't worry she's your mom and she'll do all she can to help you and she will eventually forgive you. And as for the "who's the father?" part you can wait for the baby to be born and the DNA will probally tell you.When I was 17 and pregnant too I had to miss a prom and I also didn't know how to tell my step mom and who was the father.IF you tell your friends I'm warning you ONLY tell your real friends(the ones who WON"T spread).Good Luck!

2007-03-02 10:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy_of_4 2 · 0 0

just tell her the truth that is all you can do, you will feel better when you tell her, trust me, i had my daughter 2 months after my 18th birthday, i went to prom 7 months pregnant, you can still enjoy it, it was hard on my mom at first but she never got mad at me, she was mad that i did not wait, as for the father thing i dont know to help you there, till them that you are and when the baby is born you can get tested to see who is the father, i hope that helps, good luck

2007-03-02 11:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by carprincess527 2 · 0 0

oh honey i am sorry but you know what it is not the end of the world. you need to tell you parents an i am also sorry that you do not know who the dad could be . now i am going to lecture you for i am a mom my daughter is 11 and i talk to her like she is my best friend and i feel that she is comfortable to talk and tell me anything . your mom should be your best friend apart from your mom for your mom would always keep your secert and give you the best advice more than your friends so please trust your mom. i do not be lived in abortions and this baby did not ask to come in this world so now you have to step up and be an adult now . but do not let this bady stop you from your dreams OK may you be OK and i wish you can stay in touch with me for i will like to know how things go with your parents . may God bless you .and at the same time enjoy begin pregnant .

2007-03-02 12:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by ginger b 2 · 0 0

Well, honey, you have more to worry about than prom now. Things are going to be different for you from now on. I just hope you have the support system in your parents that you need to get through this. So, if you want their support...you're going to just have to come right out and tell them. If they are anything like mine...they'll cry..they'll get mad...they'll say things like "Didn't we raise you right?"...but here's the deal..in the end (if they are good parents) they'll be there for you. Help you and this baby out. So come straight out with it....and start preparing for this change in your life. You're going to be an adult sooner than you think.

Good Luck and God Bless!

2007-03-02 10:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by fromthecabbagepatch 4 · 0 0

you dont know who the father is seriously come on your seventten and have slep with difernt guys ove rhte course of a month, im osrry but thats just wrong. about your mom write her a letter syaing how it was a horible mistacke and you ddont know what to do and you dont know who the father is. leve this some where where shell see it after you've left for shcool so shell have time to think about what she wants to say.

2007-03-02 10:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 0 0

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