prevent her from hitting the baby.
2007-03-02 10:37:52 · 11 answers · asked by amin 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Maybe she won't hit the baby.
I would deal with the problems as they arise, instead of expecting the worst in your own child.
2007-03-02 10:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by P. K. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think part of the problem is that a thirteen month old won't understand that hitting or hurting the baby is wrong. Even if you ask her not to or discipline her if she does, it doesn't mean she won't do it again. In my opinion, you're just going to have to keep a really close eye on her. I will tell you that having had 3 children, they get tougher and can take more than you think. My son turned 2 the month my daughter was born. I worried about a lot, but he wasn't jealous and never tried to hurt her.... Of course, there's always the stray ball that would bonk her on the head or him not being totally gentle with her, but he never hurt her. I wonder if you have her a doll to do with as you're doing with the new one if that would distract her from the real baby and make her a "mommy" of her own baby. Try the waterbaby line. You put water in them and they feel like a real baby. You'll just have to watch them, put the baby out of her reach and you'll be just fine. Won't be long until the new one will be up and running and giving your daughter a run for her money!
2007-03-02 14:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by semper411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my children were two years and 8 days apart. I don't know that you can prevent her from hitting the baby. My oldest hit my youngest on occassion just out of jealousy. The best things you can do is have positive one on one time with your oldest so she doesn't feel put aside once the baby comes.
When she hits the baby make sure to repeat over and over again, no hitting, hitting hurts, I can't let you hurt your sister/brother. Then you need to give a serious consequence such as time out, or what ever you method of punishment is. If she hits her with a toy take the toy away and remind her continually why she lost the toy.
2007-03-02 10:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Angela T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she will hit the baby? My daughter has been around other children since she was young and it seems like she has an insinct not to harm the littler ones.
Remember to talk to her about whats happening - she may seem a little young but toddlers are clever little things and if you explain to her that her sibling is not a toy and she has to be careful or ask mummy or daddy if she can touch her I think she will catch on really quickly.
2007-03-02 10:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I hear you on this one.. i'm 37 weeks pregnant and have a 14 month old foster child... I'm also very worried about this.. I have my living room blocked off and is the kids main play area, but I'm really worried about leaving the newborn in her baby swing etc in fear that her older sister will beat her up lol...
I'm assuming it will just be a learning proccess, I'm hoping by showing her how gentle I have to be with her this will help her understand.. I don't really have an answer for you, just thought I"d let you know you're not alone in worrying about this!
2007-03-02 12:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by ames018 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?-Just tell her no-not nice. Just like any disipline-are you worrying before you need to? Don't allow it-do a time out or swat her-mine are 13 and 19 now and straight A good college and middle school kids-a swat once or twice-a long time ago didn't hurt me or them. Hitting, however, for the child or you to do- is wrong.
2007-03-02 10:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can practice teaching her how to behave with the baby by using a doll? Also, you should start early with not giving her as much attention as you usually have because after the baby is born, all of your attention will be geared towards him/her and it's usually this loss of attention that causes first-time siblings to lash out.
2007-03-02 10:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Angelo's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a baby doll and teach her how to hold the baby and "love" the baby. Don't worry about her hitting the baby until it happens, I have 3 girls and none of them hit the baby.
2007-03-02 10:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scold, time out and explain what hands are for and what they are not for. You will have to do it over and over and over. Separate them. If its a toy that's the issue take the toy away from both. Be consistant. I have two and the bigger one I think has finally learned not to hit his sister but it has taken a while. Try to teach about peace and peaceful behavior. Hope this helps you.
2007-03-02 10:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let her around the baby unsupervised. If she does hit the baby tell her to have gentle hands and let her help you get diapers etc... so she feels involved. Good luck, you are going to be very busy with two babies and very blessed.
2007-03-02 10:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋