I'm the lucky one who gets pregnant her first time having sex... I'm eighteen years old and in college and finally decided that I was ready to lose my virginity to my boyfriend who I love two weeks ago today, and now I am pregnant. We only had sex once so I know the exact day I conceived. (We used a condom... but I don't know what happened...) Anyway, I'm not close with my parents and did not live with them much throughout my life because they had problems and what not. I want more than anything to talk to my mother about this, but I don't know if she would want to know since we haven't spoken in a few months. Any mothers out there, what are your opinions on this? What would you want your daughter to do?
2007-03-02 10:28:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would talk to your mother. Amazingly, mother's understand a lot more than we think they do sometimes! I think your mom will respect you more if you tell her about it, and she doesn't have to hear about it through someone else.
I'm 21 and having my first baby, and I couldn't imagine not having my mother around. Although it's different for me because my mother and I have always been really close, this may be a way for you and your mother to bond a little bit better and share a closer relationship.
Your mother would want to know. She would want to know that she will have a grandchild and that her baby is now having a baby. Eventhough you are young, I'm sure that she will support whatever you do, if not right away, she will someday!
Good luck! You should really at least try to talk to her about it!
Congratulations too!
2007-03-02 10:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! Give her time to get mad, then adapt, then get glad that she's going to be a grandmother! In the long run she'll be very happy...grandchildren are a blessing. I am a nurse and I have seen too many times young women without their mother's support. It's one of the best times to have your mother around you...you can really bond and maybe make up for lost time since you said that you weren't really close.
I would want my daughter to tell me...I would want to help, and make sure she didn't make the same mistakes that I made. Be a responsible adult, take care of your baby, and your mother will be very proud of you.
Please at least try...you won't regret it. My mother died when I was 21 and I never got the chance to tell her I was pregnant and learn about how her pregnancy was....I missed that...make sure you don't miss it either!
And be excited!
No matter what your situation...a baby is a beautiful wonderful thing. You're truly blessed! Good luck! If you live in the Chicago are I work for an obgyn doctor...and I can give you a great referral!
2007-03-02 10:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by claireandmouse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to know that condoms are not, in any way, a 100% effective measure in preventing pregnancy. In other words, even if your boyfriend uses a condom while you two have sex, there is the possibility you can still get pregnant.
Decide if you want to finish college, or drop out, and take care of the baby. Make your boyfriend assume some sort of responsibility; if he works, he is obligated by law to pay child support.
In the future, try to avoid having sex before you are married.
2007-03-02 11:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to throw everything away to become a mother? Youre in college now! and Now thats all going to change because you got pregnant/.... I was 17 when i had my first baby and it changed my life... I didnt get to go party on my 21st birthday and i dont get the freedom as i would have if i didnt have any kids... me and my hubby have been together for 5 1/2 years but it wasnt fair to me nor him to have kids at an early age... Just think about this life changing decision... do you want your mom in your life or not? if not then dont tell her... if so then explain to her that she is going to be a grandma, you can leave out that you got pregnant on your first time, she doesnt need to know that.... another thing is that you are 18 you are old enough to encounter your own decisions!! No need for mommy to take care of you... unless you cant take care of yourself along with a baby, then i guess you would need her help... good luck with everything!
2007-03-02 10:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by csmutz2001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wasn't talking to my mother when I got pregnant the last time, and it ended up bothering me so much that I went over and told her when I was 17 weeks. It helped bring us together a bit. I realized that even though we didn't get along shes still my mom and I do love her. Her problems and all I needed her in my life, even if it was just a phone call once in a while. If I were you I'd tell her that she has a grandchild on the way and leave the rest up to her.
2007-03-02 10:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by santobugito 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If me and my daughter ever stopped speaking i would still like to know that she was pregnant. You only have 1 mum and maybe this baby might bring you closer together. I found out i was pregnant at 16, was a college and had a stable relationship with my partner (still with him now) and me and my mum weren't that close, one day i just blurted it out, she was a bit mad because of my age, but she stood by me and helped me throughout the whole of my pregnancy and until i moved out, now i am expecting my second she is even more helpful then before. It brought us a lot closer, hopefully that will happen to you. Good luck with the pregnancy sweetie it will all work out.
2007-03-02 10:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom of course! She might be mad at first but she will have a granddaughter on the way that will make her happy!If your mom is out there and you haven"t spoken maybe this will bring you together, a baby is a miracle and a good thing to happen in your life! Remember you have options and you don"t have to do anything you don"t feel comfortable with!
2007-03-02 10:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, congratulations. Every child is truly a miracle. I got pregnant when using a condom also, when I was just 21. It happens. A lot.
I think you should turn to your mother for support. It may be that this is what will bring you closer together. Good luck.
2007-03-03 08:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by hugsandsmilesplease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where your comming from on this subject.. i would tell her with like a mothers day card, that way if she is upset about it she won't be for long. just let her know that no matter what you decide you will need her help and advice as well as support... i didn't speak to my mother for 3 years untill i bluntly told her when i found out, but now she talks me and my daughter at least every 2 weeks.
2007-03-02 10:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart, you have to think about this yourself. But if you want my opinion here it is: you shouldn't be having sex anyway. It is a commandment or law of God to not have sex untill you're married. Every time you have sex you sin.
Here's my advice: If you would like to tell your mother, Go 4 it! if you want to a little bit just mail her or email her and tell her all that you want to say.
P.S. I am only 12 but give very good advice so take it!
2007-03-02 10:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by caligal30821 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋