Ok so I am an adopted kid. So my parents are not my biological parents. And there is this girl in my school who knows I am adopted and stuff and she is just getting to me. In French class she lied and got me detention. And in Tech-ed she goes hey Hetty are your brothers and sisters ( they are not adopted) have the same last name as you or she says Hey Hetty Did your mom leave you for adoption because she didn't like you or did you meet your real mom. And when my parents came for my student of the month breakfast she saw them and went up to them and said Do you love Hetty like your own child. I don't like her at all. I don't care if I'm adopted I'm happy to have a family but she is the only one who is making me just sad. I want her to stop making fun of me. What do I do?
2007-03-02 09:56:13 · 35 answers · asked by ... 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You and me will jump her, when she gets off the bus on monday! I got yo back G!!!!
2007-03-02 10:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by none 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Your "friend" is being completely out of line and I have no idea why people would find her funny or amusing when she is joking about a serious subject like this. If I were you I would not tattle on her, but expose her for what she is - desperate for attention.
If you want to make her feel somewhere along the same caliber of teasing you are experiencing, ask her if she's deprived of love at home or if her mother hugs her. It can be quite cruel depending on the person's situation at home, but if she doesn't get it - she's just an irritating bully, if she does - maybe she's feeling the same sort of pain you do when you are bullied like this.
If she goes too far, it is probably time to consult a principal, or try to get some more understanding friends of hers to ask her why she is so cold (make her feel uncomfortable).
2007-03-02 10:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by sebwitha3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I actually would go to the school administrators and talk to them- this is harrassment and it would hurt my feelings too. She has no right to bother you and say such things and should be called on it-You sound like a smart,well loved girl-your family is your family-adoption is not the factor-love is. Tell her politely to please "hit the road"-or ask her right to her face what her problem is-not to fight- just to understand. I'm sure the problem is her- not you. She sounds insecure. Kids like that tease to make themselves feel better- If I was your Mom and a child said that to me, I would have had an answer for her-or her parent. Did her parents come? Does she even have that kind of parent? Maybe thats the problem....
2007-03-02 10:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're proud of who you are and who your family is, then it shouldn't matter. It sounds like this girl is just really interested in the fact that you're adopted and doesn't know how to ask you questions about it. Many people don't know what it's like to be adopted and are just curious. Maybe talk to your teacher and see if he/she can discuss adoption or if you can discuss it with the class during one of your classes. One solution might be to discuss the problem with your guidance counselor. Chances are, the counselor will call in this girl and explain adoption to her and let her ask you the questions she wants to ask. If you don't want to go to this extreme, suck it up and tell her that you'd be more than happy to answer any questions she has but that if she continues to harass you that you'll discuss the problem with the counselor or principal.
2007-03-02 10:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your adoptive parents didn't have to take you, they had a choice, but her parents got stuck w/her! Naw, that would be ugly. I would have a talk w/your parents & w/the counselor. She's just bullying you & bullies usually have very low self-worth, so you should be feeling sorry for her, not for yourself. Sounds like you have a great fam. My sister was put up for adoption when she was a baby. She found my siblings & I two & 1/2 yrs ago when she was 18. We get along great!
2007-03-02 14:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by mom-of-4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is picking on you because you are happy with your family and she is jealous. Ignore her or tell her that she only has time to pick on you because no one is caring about her and she is jealous. that should stop her.
What do you care what she says anyway? Honey grow a thicker skin and let her remarks just roll off you. She has problems and is trying to make herself feel better by putting you down. yu could take it as a sort of compliment but yu are the one better off in the long run so take pity on her, she is a sour and unhappy person.
2007-03-02 10:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. She keeps making those comments because it's pretty obvious to her that she is having an impact on you with what she's saying. I know it's hard to ignore people like that, but she's ignorant and not worth the time you spend thinking about her. People like that are generally jealous or insecure about themselves. Good Luck to you. By the way, I'm adopted too!
2007-03-02 10:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Know What sweetie The reason why she is picking on you is because she is NOT happy with her own pathetic Life. If you are happy with your Family That Is all that Matters. Just Like My step-dad isn't my real dad but I consider Him to Be. Its what you feel in your heart that matters. The best way to piss your enemies off is be nice to them all the time, Ever heard the phrase Kill Them With Kindness ? well try it she will eventually stop. Whatever you do don't let her see it bothers you Good Luck....
2007-03-02 10:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Fishy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the principal for harassment.. also, just tell her so what if I'm adopted. Atleast I have good family that loves me no matter what. Also by a tape recorder so when she goes near you, tape all the things that she says so you have proof to the principal. She could deny everything that's why.
2007-03-02 10:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is called harrassment, you need to report her to the principal and tell your parents too.
It's interesting though, I've never heard of someone being made fun of because they were adopted. I wonder why adoption is an issue for this girl, maybe she was adopted and is hiding it?
2007-03-02 10:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being adopted isnt easy, that if you were a boy, I would tell you to punch his *** and kick his face until he can't feel anything.
For girls its harder, because it all depends on how girls are, girls are all different, men have testosterone so we are aggressive and that's it.
Just start rumors about her, she'll shut up, prove her you're better than that and don't give yourself a lowering to her level ****, that only happens in hollywood, sweetie.
2007-03-02 10:52:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋