I am in love with two men. One is my best friend (Joe) of 20 years and the other is the father of my child (Ben) whom I have been with for 5 years. I am so confused I don't know what to do. Joe and I had a relationship in the past and it didn't work out. But I am still in love with him. Ben is the father of my child.... Enough said. This is eating me up inside. What should I do?
2007-03-02 09:14:38 · 4 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am in love with two men. One is my best friend (Joe) of 20 years and the other is the father of my child (Ben) whom I have been with for 5 years. Joe has told me many times he made a mistake letting me go. Ben just seems to not care weather I stay or go. I am so confused I don't know what to do. Joe and I had a relationship in the past and it didn't work out. But I am still in love with him. Ben is the father of my child.... Enough said. This is eating me up inside. What should I do?
2007-03-02 10:12:14 · update #1
hmm.....similar situation with mine...I've been so unhappy about loving another guy that i have known longer and love that lately I have been taking it out on my bf which isn't fair to him course he's sweet and all...
Well you have to weigh the pros and cons....leaving Ben, what will you get? Will Joe definitely be there for u? or its a question mark?
Even if you hit it off with Joe, what are the issues that will most likely come up in the new relationship? What will happen to your son then?
Then you think about it, decide on one, and live with the consequences that comes with your decision.
As for me, its easier now as I don't have a kid to think of...but as with my ex-lover...I am unsure if he loves me too....so there you go...
All the best to you...and have peace in your heart..if you choose to stay with Ben, then try seeing the good side of him and appreciate him in his own right and as a special person.
2007-03-02 15:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by mellowsoup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the Daddy of your baby. Your relationship with Joe didn't work out then and it won't now. You are probably just still in love of when you two were together. Seems to me if you do anything with Joe and Ben finds out you are done. Take it from someone who has been there.
2007-03-02 17:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to be true to yourself and then you can be true to the men you have feelings for and profess to love. Love is a two way street and it doesn't sound like Joe is loving you back. Be focused on which man you have the most in common with and which ones treats you the ways you wasn't to be treated, maybe you'll find out it isn't either one of them and that two of them with combined attributes is what you need in a man!
2007-03-02 17:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very confused. I am not saying this to be mean
in anyway. But the truth is you can't love to people at the
same time, because if you understand what true love is, than
you know, it's impossible. If you love someone you don't let
your eye, or anyother part wander. It's really just that simple.
2007-03-02 23:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋