My boyfriend that I do everything for yelled at me today for taking weed out of this coat,that was my coat that I gave him. I was taking my kids to school and I could not find my new coat so I just put on his coat--you would think no big deal -right well I found weed in the coat. I took it out because of driving in the car-right. Well he is selling weed at his job and the guy who is buying it showed up to get-no weed in pocket right, so my boyfriend calls me on the phone and asks where is the weed? I said I took it out and put it on the computer desk--I told him I didn't know-sorry, He was very mean to me and said -DO NOT TOUCH MY STUFF ANY MORE AND I MEAN IT! I always wash his clothes-pick up after him and etc. He made me cry over weed. I do not understand we have been to together for 6 years. Why he talked to me that way.
2007-03-02 09:05:21 · 20 answers · asked by church k 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Sweetie... that is nothing less than verbal abuse. I GUARANTEE you that it WILL get worse, perhaps escalating into physical abuse. Get out of that situation as quickly as possible and make sure you report him to the Police. Sooner or later, one of his deals will go wrong and could very well put you in harms way when the retaliation/payback happens.
And what Billie said is a good point... "accessory before the fact" IS a serious charge to have to face, not to mention conspiracy to traffick in a controlled substance... which of course will mean foster care for your kids.
Good Luck
2007-03-02 09:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Audio God™ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There are a lot of things one can chose to tolerate in a relationship, but I'm not so sure criminal behavior is one of them, although I understand it is this behaviour which you might find attractive.
The first time he gets caught, if he has more than a small amount of marijuana, he'll be booked for possession with intent to distribute, and he'll be looking at doing some time.
The second time around, he'll likely spend a few years in a state prison, that's assuming he didn't get caught with a lot the first time. And it doesn't take garbage bags full to make it a lot, just a fraction of an ounce can be enough.
You can try and explain this to him, but it's probably all in the same effort to pack up your stuff and leave without the explanation.
2007-03-02 09:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He yelled at you because he does not respect and cherish you - and is more worried about his illegal activities than building a strong relationship with you. Also, if he has been the "boyfriend" for 6 years, and is not making an effort to make a commitment, you need to dump him immediately! You are being treated like a doormat.
2007-03-02 09:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by OlMacDude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before. My now husband, used to do that until he was caught. He lost his job and we broke up for a while. I also did everything for him, and his family for 10 years. When he realized that I wasn't there anymore to be his becon-call-girl. He came running back, and promised that he wouldn't ever do it again. And now 6 years later he hasn't. This doesn't mean it will turn out the same for you. But you should tell him that it bothers you, Exepecially sence you have Kids.
2007-03-02 09:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have kids around and your worry should be for their safety not him. What if he got busted and CPS took your kids away because there was weed in the house? Tell him that you want him to quit or get out. If he loves you and the kids enough, he will.
2007-03-02 09:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kiria 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious situation. According to the law you could be charged with conspiracy to sell because of your association with your boyfriend. You need to break off this situation before you end up in trouble.
There are many young ladies in jail because of their boyfriends selling drugs. Move on there is a better man for you out there.
2007-03-02 09:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave the drug dealing wanker quickly. Justr because he wants his life down the toilet why should he drasg you as well. Give him a good solid smack in the head as you leave just to knock some sense in to the scum bag.
Drug Dealers - next in line from the bototm dwellers after paedophiles
2007-03-02 09:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the issue of him yelling at you is minor. However the issue of him selling drugs, the fact that he could get caught, he has been your boy friend for 6 years and your not married, and you allow him to be around your kids is the bigger issue. Maybe it is just me.
2007-03-02 09:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by redflite 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait until eventually he receives busted and also you're round and flow to penitentiary... you're truly going to be aggravated then. in case you've been smart you are able to 'take a damage' from one yet another and also you are able to concentration on your self.
2016-12-05 04:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a winner. I could care less about the weed, but it doesn't seem like he respects you enough. If he did, he would understand why you did what you did.....it should never have been a big deal.
2007-03-02 09:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by V 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋