I have a huge problem.?

Question

Here's the problem.I'm bi but growing up in Catholic/Christian family.I've always prayed to god and done the right thing.My mom and dad found out i was bi and k there thinking of sending me to a pshycologists.My mom cries a lot more and I feel so depressed and emo.I'm starting to think i'm more of a monster then a son to my parents.I'm constantly alone and i alienate myself from my parents always rushing up to my room.Idk wat to do.I think im starting to even feel alienated from school and my freinds.I hate my this drama.I need advice before i do something stupid.

Just a side note.I'm bi not gay.

Thanks alot you guys.This helps me alot and its going to be hard to make a definite answer.If i could i would pick most of u but i can't but thanks 4 answering.

Answer 1

Well you are not alone thousands of teens go through this type of thing every year.

I could care less what your religion, your parents or any counselor says, there is nothing wrong with living your life to make yourself happy. There is nothing wrong with being homosexual and there is nothing wrong with being bisexual, it is not a choice it is how God intended you to be.

You need to shift your focus from your sexuality to other things. Your sexuality will delevop all on it's own. Focus on beign a good person, doing well in school, volunteer to help others, be a good person. Show your parents that this fact doesn't change who you are or what good you can do in the world.

Be the person that shows them the light by your actions and deeds. You said before I do something stupid. Hurting yourself in any way would be terribly stupid and willnot resolve anything and would only bring more hurt into the situtation.

Right now life is hard for you but it does get better. People mistakenly say "these are the best years of your life" I say BULL HOCKEY. These are no where near the best years of your life!! Your body is doing weird things, your mind is racing in opposite directions, youare physically changing, there is so much going on it can be terrible.

BUT in a few years when you have more freedoms you are going to find a world that is painted with all the colors of the rainbow. You are going to see new opportunites and possiblites some of which youhaven't yet dreamt existed.

Respect your parents, treat them well - but tell them you want to drop the focus fromyour sexual identity right now and focus on just being YOU.

Take the first step have a meeting with your parents and tell them you want to focus on life -- not your sex life. WHen you get a little older readdress the issue

Answer 2

OK, first of all, don't be ashamed of who you are, your parents are just trying to cope with what they found out. Parents, you will find out, can be very resilient creatures, so eventually they will get over it, or bug you for the rest of your life. Just know that whatever the outcome it is not your fault and it does not make you a monster in any way, shape, or form. Second, the reason your mom cries more often is probably because she feels you slipping away, as you have said that you have alianated yourself from your parents, so try talking to her and conforting her. Remember that this isn't only hard on you, but hard on them too. Third, don't alianate yourself from your friends, good friends are hard to come by and they can be a life saver. As far as talking to a psychologist, maybe it would make you feel better to talk about your feelings in this whole thing, might not make you feel so alone. The psychologist isn't going to tell you that there is something wrong with you or that you are crazy, they would simply help you get whatever you need to get off your chest out there. Also, you might want to find out if there are any GLBT support groups in your community ( I am sure there are) and seek some help from them, many of these groups provide family counseling and counseling for just you. Last, but not least, don't do anything stupid, like try to hurt yourself. You would be depriving the world of getting to know YOU! Remember, when you talk about things, they suddenly don't seem so big.

Answer 3

Let them send you to the psychologist. First, they don't treat being gay as a mental disorder anymore, they usually help you to adjust to it. Second, you're really depressed (and for good reason, with your family's rejection), and you need to talk it out and learn how to be confident in yourself without relying on outside (parental) support. And third, a good psychologist will help your family understand that there's nothing wrong with you, only with their reaction.

You are as God made you, with a purpose, you know that and God knows that, and in time hopefully your family will come to see that.

Meanwhile, don't do anything stupid. The world needs you and your faith. You do need help, just not the kind your parents think you do. Talk with the therapist. You'll be fine, and everyone will be happy.

Answer 4

I know it might be hard to face the reality on who you really are. And I know I might be 13 years old but I know right from wrong and so do you. Im sure you are aware that this might be wrong. But guess what. You are who you are and nobody can change that. You need to be the best you can. Do what truly makes you happy and don't ever let anybody stand in the way of that. Mommy and daddy might have raised you and gave you life and stood over you with everything but there comes a point in life where they need to just rest back and let you take control of your own life. If being bi is what you wanna be and it makes you truly happy, THEN BE IT. Nobody is gonna stand in your way. Don't let them. =]
I hope I helped you!!

Answer 5

First of all, forget about the monster bit. You are who you are, and that's all. Sit down and talk with your parents. Explain that deep inside, this is how you really feel.

Tell them you are willing to go to a psychologist, and you would like them to be present also. Be truthful to the psychologist, as they will try to help you and your family cope with the situation. Don't be ashamed of have to go to a psychologist. There is no shame in it.

Above all, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, don't do anything stupid. I recently lost an acquaintance because he did something stupid, and committed suicide. All because of a problem between him and his parents. His brother, sister, and both parents were devastated. This is NEVER the answer for anyone !

If you feel like doing something stupid, talk to a friend, a doctor, ANYONE. I will guarantee that they will all be concerned enough to take the time and do whatever they can do for you. If you still feel like doing something stupid, email me. Life is too precious to just throw away.

Answer 6

There are alot of people in your situation. You are not a monster, just confused. People aren't perfect, we can't always control what we feel. But we can control our actions. Yes I believe that God is against homosexuality. (I'm sorry, but we are all entitled to voice our opinion... Anyways.) There are alot of Christian who struggle with the same feelings. But who do you love more? God our your own desires? The Bible says that "in the last days men will be lovers of pleasures rather then lovers of God". You just have to ask yourself who and what is more important to you. Do some research, seek out the truth about God and his will for the Earth and those who live in it. I am young, I'm not some old fashion prude. I am not perfect, but I do try to put God's will above my own imperfection. It's not always easy, but I sleep better at night, and I know He is happier with me. If you don't want to live that kind of lifestyle, just remember, God does not put anymore on us than we can bear. Seek him out for yourself and cultivate a true relationship with Him and He will help you through anything!

Answer 7

Hi I can feel your pain, so take your parents up on the physcologists--tell them though you want to shop around a bit until you find one that you can work with.

Then use that person to help you gain prespective on the situation. Perhaps he/she will/can suggest a family therapy to help them get over their issues with it.

In the end, remember there were ppl who did this before you--at presnet a guy I went to school with, his parents are ministers & he is gay & now married. They support him although they aren't outwardly supporting him. Overall though--the family makes it work as best as they can currently.

Not perfect--but time will pass, and your parents will get better--meanwhile YOU need SOMEONE to TALK TO!!

Answer 8

OK first of all. NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE! god made you who you. you don't have the choice of who you are attracted to. You may be able to hide it but you can't control it. even when you do try to hide it, you will be completly miserable. then you will need seriuos help. I know how it is to be raised in a catholic religion and it is hard but once your family realizes that you are happy being who you are, then they should be happy for you. every parents want thier child to be happy. just give them time. Oh. one more thing... YOU CAN GET IN TO HEAVEN . God is the one who created us!
stay strong and be patient

Answer 9

It's not your fault. Your parents should not send you to a psychiatrist, as there is nothing wrong with you. You did not choose this. You are definitely not a monster. You are your parents' son and they still love you. Tell your parents this and they will realize that you did not choose it. Feeling like this is normal. Don't be hard on yourself. God loves you--that's why he made you like you are.

Answer 10

Do you have anyone you could talk to? A Doctor, counsellor, a teacher or friend? If you do.....go talk to them.

Almost everyone goes thru similar things when they start to deal with their sexuality. Some of use are lucky enough to have families that love and accept us for whom we are. I'm sure your parents love you....they are just as confused as you are. Give them time.

You could look at contacting a GLBT youth group. Here's one that I have had dealing's with:
http://www.youthline.ca/

Give them a call and see if they can't talk to you....see if there aren't resources in your area.

Good luck & remember....you aren't alone & your family does love you.