Why do people think teenagers have a good life? I'm 13, and my parents make my life awful.?

Question

I'm 13 years old now, and my parents seem to expect me to be perfect . It's "their way or the highway", as the saying goes . -Steve

Answer 1

Well you just started your teen years so you have a lot to experience. I think in the long run they will understand that you are getting older.

Answer 2

And your problem with that is what? You are 13, you haven't had a life yet, and the sad thing is your parent's are protecting you from the other things, but at 13, you know everything and they know nothing. You better grow up and be 13 because before you know it you are going to be looking at 30, hell, 20, hell 18, responsibilities are going to kick you real hard where the sun don't shine and then you will wish to be 13 and wish to be back in your parent's house and wish to be off the highway. Just a little scenario.

Answer 3

Well I know for a fact that teenagers do not have the good life. Teenagers deal with day to day obstacles as Adults do, but it is a different challenge. Parents who tell there child that "it is my way or the highway" usually have heard it from there parents and that is they way they were shaped, and do not know any but that. I can understand where they are coming from, my dad said the samething. But I am better then that. You should be too. Also think about this too as well...If they didn't say anything, they wouldn't care about you. They probably just expect you to be better then what they have been seeing as of late. Try to sit and talk to them. You never know what could come out on the table. Do not be confrontational, be open minded and understanding. You might learn something from them and they might learn something from you! Good luck.

Answer 4

No they don't expect you to be perfect. They just expect you to act like you have some common sense. You are at an age where you think you know everything and you really don't know jack. Your question even verifies it. Where exactly would you be without your parents? On the streets? Doing "your" thing? You'd be someone's property selling yourself for their benefit, if not dead. My advice sit yourself down, shut your mouth, and do what you're told as a thank you for the free room and board you're getting. Your folks have paid the cost to be the boss and it is their way or the highway.

Answer 5

Because you parents love you and only want what's best for you. They want to see you grow with out getting hurt. Or make the mistakes you can't take back. Right now all your worries are about do they like me, or am I wearing the right clothes. But you will see when you get older they did what ever they did for you was because they love you very much and they just want you to be happy and safe. When you become a parent you will understand everything your parents did was for the right reason. Grow up and be happy but think before you do.

Answer 6

Just think what your life would be like if you had to take care of yourself. feed yourself, dress yourself, buying everything you own. Having to go to work so you can make the money to support everything you do and breath. Think about how much your parents have to constantly pay for everything. When you get sick and have to go see the doctor...how would you get there without your parents, how would you pay for your medicine, do you know that you have to make an appointment first? think about how YOU make your parents lives a living hell. Now start appreciating the fact that you are still a kid. relax because it'll be over before you know it. the free ride will be gone.

Answer 7

I'm 52 & have an 8th grader. She has a good life and knows it. She's loved. She's respected. She's trusted. But she also knows she has to live up to her responsibilities. Do you?

Then again, some parents are absolute morans and don't have the faintest idea that their job is to help you grow into an adult. They model. You learn. As you learn, they model more by trusting you more and you reciprocate by evidencing your growth.

And in that vast middle, your hormones may well be raging, they don't know how to communicate with them and you don't communicate with them. Chill, take a few deep breaths and force yourself to hang out with them. help them around the house. You might be surprised how many brownie points you'll earn.

I was where you are. My favorite person was my aunt. Find someone their age you can relate to & talk to them/get their advise. Follow it!

Answer 8

Hi Steve:
It is hard being 13. On one hand teenagers have it hard because you are trying to figure out who you are and your parents might be in your face all the time or never there. It just depends on what kind of hand you were dealt. Do they make your life awful because they want what is best for you? ...and they are just trying to prepare you for the future or are their expecations unrealistc? Maybe you can tell them what you think.

Answer 9

I'm 15, and my parents treat me the exact same way. Teens have the ups and downs and it will always be that way. We just have to learn to cope with everything. It's good we all have problems or our lives would be sooo boring.

Your parents make your life awful because they love you. Hard to believe but it's the truth. I don't understand it either but I've learned to accept the idea.

Answer 10

I watched it, become extremely sickening to observe to be honest, the position i come from there is a great number of knife crime, and guns are slowley taking up, I easily might want to assert i'm 25 years previous and that i do get scared to stroll the streets, i could not shield myself if a collection of youths got here as a lot as me with knives, i'm getting scared for all my youthful family individuals and in the journey that they might grow to be a similar because they're being extra up interior a similar ecosystem, my cousin become murdered (no longer via knife/gun) yet nevertheless is all a similar and that i'd not in any respect opt for to bypass via what the family individuals went via back, it become the worst element all of us has to bypass via, i imagine the pathetic authorities might want to placed their foot down, and substances those people what they deserve, also carry decrease back the punishing in colleges coz 0.5 of that is brought about via, colleges & dad and mom no longer with the ability to punish their youthful ones x x

Answer 11

I'm a parent of 2 teens, so I feel pretty qualified to say -- your parents probably don't want you to be perfect.
They may want you to : Clean your room, do your chores, do your homework, finish what you started, and take a shower.... but what they really (really) want is for you to grow into a happy, successful young man. What they are trying to do is get you to think for yourself, yet still realize you have to answer to a something bigger (them, school, and employer, etc etc) They are trying to prep you for the life you will have in 5 years -- where no one tells you what to do, or pays for your food/clothes/housing/transportation.