i'm unemployeed, ive been searching for a job for 5 months, i have no girlfriend. some days i think about ending it all but then i come to my senses and realize i'm a coward and am afraid of going to hell. i need motivation please help.
2007-03-02 08:32:44 · 29 answers · asked by Micheal B 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try going on Monster.com. They can help you with getting a job. Also, if you know a few girls, try talking to them and after a awhile ask them out and see how it goes from there. And if you ever feel like ending your life call one of these suicide hot lines:1-800-SUICIDE* 1-800-273-TALK *1-800-784-2433* 1-800-273-8255. I think you may also need some fun in your life. Try thinking about a vacation or just hanging out with some friends. Try new things. Good Luck:)
2007-03-02 08:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Molly P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can feel your pain. I was job searching one year ago when I left school but couldn't find a job..so I went to the library and got myself some job searching books to get some tips on what I should do and what I was doing wrong. But as it turns out I realised I was only applying for like maybe three jobs a week which was nothing. You need to aim for at least 50 jobs a day (hee hee) I know it sounds like a lot but you stil need to aim for it....thats what I did but I always got to around 15 a day cos it really does take time to apply etc.....but anyway interviews starting coming in no time and within some time I was offered a job which was so great. I used to feel so useless but you should never think about ending it because everything will be okay soon esp when you find a job....you wont feel like this and when you start noticing the good things in life you may regret saying this.
Finding a job is easy if you're willing to give it 150%....
as for finding a girl friend....a right chick will come along one day...so try not to worry too much...youre gonna have to make some effort in finding one though ....we dont just come to you out of the blue........and I remember when I didnt have a boy friend......nor a job......i felt like my life was passing me by but its not really....everything will happen in its right time but you just cant give up hope and you have to keep trying........God will take care of the rest.......and you know what they say "be patient ....god hasnt finished with you yet"......
btw....if you do believe in God....you should also know God loves people who try....so dont give up...........that always works for me!
2007-03-02 08:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Joanna - Harry Potter Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking strangers on the Internet how to help you isn't the answer. For what its worth here are the basics to moving your life forward. Apply for 5 jobs a day till you get an interview. Consider moving to another city with more opportunities. Network family and friends for any opportunities. There are plenty, you just haven't heard of them yet. Check Hotjobs, Monster, etc on net. Read the want ads in the paper. Keep trying and GOOD LUCK ! Prayer helps too.
2007-03-02 08:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by razorcut44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do:
Do Not think of ending it all! Your life is not over, it will get better once you find your motivation, however long it takes.
Do Not do cocaine!! Rodie1123 or whatever his handle is is a moron!! That I guarantee will F up your life. I've seen it happen to smart, good people. Not even an option.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself, but make sure you do something. Find a job. If even the thought of this is stressful, don't let it be too demanding of a job, but find something. Good Luck.
2007-03-02 08:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Heywood J Helpaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 9-11 I was out of work for years, not months, years. I had nothing. Lost everything. I had to go on welfare and stand on line in soup kitchens for a hot meal. I stood firm and prayed for better days, life seemed hopeless, however, I prevailed. I used financial aide from the government and went back to school. I completed a degree in computer networking and continued on with a degree in computer science. I now work as a broadcast engineer in Rockefeller center. Just remember that no matter how bad your life is someone Else's is worse. Also remember that you must strive for better days. I hope this helps, good luck.
2007-03-02 08:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for realizing suicide is not the answer! I do not know what you believe in so maybe this is the wrong answer but what about getting involved in a church try going to there singles small groups this will help you meet people it could kill two birds with one stone it could give you some open doors to jobs and you might even be able to meet a nice girl. Good Luck to you!
2007-03-02 08:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by peeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The motivation should be to better yourself and your life. You need strength and encouragement. You need good people in your life and you need the help of God. You shouldn't be afraid of going to hell. You should be encouraged about going to heaven. Don't be so hard on yourself but realize that no great person can make it on their own. They need God's help and his wisdom. He directs your paths. He builds you up. You should be looking to do his will and his alone. If you want my advice, go out and get yourself the NIV Bible. For me it has worked wonders. The Bible says you should meditate on it day and night (not literally, but sort of in the back of your mind). Psalms brings me much comfort because it tells of God's grace and mercy and power in your life. You should read at least once a day and pray afterward and of course, pray when you need additional support. God listens when you pray and although he might not always answer your prayers in the way you desire, he may have a higher purpose for you that you are unaware of. I also think you need to find someone in your life who attends church and believes in God. Let them offer you guidance and support.
2007-03-02 08:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you gotto realize your not as bad off as alot of other people . Then your attitude gets better enough to face the bad .Then you move on from there . You probobly going to have to work two jobs to get out of the rut . Then things will just start getting better cause you will be around more people .People is the key .surround your self with good people .Through a job ,church ,or gym .Its hard to do by yourself so find a good friend .
2007-03-02 08:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take inventory. Say okay, I am here. What do I need to do to get there (where you wanna be). Start from there. Make a list of small goals that you can work toward everyday. Get out there. Drop off more resumes. Sell yourself. Talk to a chick or two along the way. Say "hi, how's it goin?" and maybe that will open up a convo.
2007-03-02 08:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by !!joinCampaignforLiberty!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commit your life to Jesus Christ. He is the ONLY thing that will bring you true happiness. Go find a solid church and start attending. Surround yourself with people who truly love you and care about you. Life is hard, and being a true Christian is even harder. However, the benefits are far worth it. Pick up a Bible and start reading! There's no reason to fear Hell when you know the God that can save your soul from eternal damnation.
2007-03-02 08:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋