me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few months now. About one month ago, her parents saw us kissing and apparently they did not like it. They forced her to send me an email saying that i may never see her, talk to her, email her or even be her friend.
so i replied that email and next thing i know, her dad phones me telling me to stay away from his daughter.
Few days pass, and he phones me again asking me if im with his daughter although i wasnt.
I asked her to contact me using a different method and it was good for awhile till her parents found out again.
This time both her mum and her dad called me (they live in different countries)
Her mum threatened to tell my parents about what was going on (which i dont mind) and her dad threatened to make her life as miserable as possible (he uses a keylogger and checks her emails and goes through her stuff)
is there anything i can do? are the phonecalls considered harrassment?
jawn-
2007-03-02 08:25:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
For age
im 19
shes 17
2007-03-02 09:14:36 · update #1
Her parents say they do not want her to be attached till she is 21... the emails were just like how are you... what i did today... random stuff... nothing bad about her parents... nothing indecent...
i guess they are rich thats y her dad calls from overseas...
also because they are overseas... he calls at like 1am which really doesnt help...
after the second call, i sent him a polite email requesting that he stop calling me. He replied saying that he will if i stop emailing her. So does that make it my fault?
He also blames me because his family and mine go to the same chuch and now because of this, he does not allow them to go to church and he blames me for it.
Oh ya... i live in canada... legal age is 19...
2007-03-02 09:21:46 · update #2
The legal age of consent in Canada is 16.
If your girl friend is 16 or older, she is of legal age.
The question of your phone calls being harassment isn't an issue.
They are not intended for her parents.
I would explain your problem to your parents if they don't already know.
And, the father telling his daughter that he would make her life miserable is a violation of the law even when made to a sibling, but difficult to prove. It probably wouldn't stand on its own, but it would be one of several vioations made by the father if it ever went before a judge.
One of the potential problems the daughter could face is, being of legal age her parents can throw her out.
That's probably the only legal recourse they would have if the two of you continue seeing each other.
You had best consider all of the alternatives and think of the result if you two keep going together.
Can you support her if her parents throw her out?
Getting married could be a disaster for persons as young as you two.
2007-03-09 07:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by ha_mer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 year old girlfriend. Honor what the parents are asking from you. If this is the girl you will know later in life. Both of you are very young for a serious relationships. You should concentrate your energy preparing for the future. She is consider a minor until she turns 18, so staying out is the smart decision to do right now. Time will tell if this is your soul mate, you are too young and should not be creating unnecessary problems for yourself.
2007-03-09 05:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that something is missing in this correspondence, for instance how old are you?, why do her parents not want you to email her?, you did not give enough reasons for me to truly understand what is going here. Also was there anyhing that you said in the emails that made them think that you could be a problem to their daughter. Sounds rather serious to me if they are calling you from out of the country.If she is underage, then you need to leave her alone. You may want to rewrite this with a few more details in order for us to help you.
2007-03-02 08:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to quit calling you and then make a police report if he persists. The only concern I have is, is there a huge age difference between you, like you are 23 and she is 14?
That would be the stumbling block in this problem fo rme.
2007-03-02 08:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might actually be harrassment depending on her age. If she's over the age of consent and so are you, they might not legally be able to call you like this. You could even claim that they are stalking you. They sound a little crazy.
2007-03-02 08:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you answer the phone, then it's your fault. If they are threatening you, it could be harrassment, but you'd have to file reports with the police every time they called to ever take legal action. I'd suggest not answering the phone though.
2007-03-02 08:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dale D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't your parents involved in this? You are a minor are you not? Let the adults handle this. Sneak out at night like most kids do that way they can't catch you on the computer.
2007-03-02 08:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your no longer an fool or a jerk.. you might have been so mad you blacked out and did no longer be responsive to what you have been doing.. it occurs each and all the time.. basically clarify to her mum and dad which you had a difficulty and you dealt with it the mature way and replaced into so indignant you probably did no longer be responsive to what you have been doing.. tell them the variety you experience approximately their daughter and ask them to forgive you.. and did you attempt explaining the full difficulty to her? she could experience alot greater advantageous understanding you have been "retaining her" by skill of attempting to step faraway from the problem.. and ask her could she quite her mum and dad no longer decide for her as much as now you understanding you purchased right into a combat at church? or thinking you yelled at her??
2016-09-30 03:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by fogleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sucks, but it's just not worth it. Break up. You're going to be miserable for who knows how long if you stay with her. I know it's hard to believe, but there ARE other girls out there. Just an honest suggestion from someone who's been there.
2007-03-02 08:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Michael E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's all messed up harassment stupidity i don't think you did any thing "indecent" that's dumb and if they don't want you to see her anymore then you should request to take them all out or just her parents to discuss and explain to them your feelings for thier daughter and your future plans with her if there are any i wouldn't take it personal it's good that her parents worry if they didn't they'd be bad parents
2007-03-09 07:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋