2007-03-02 08:06:06 · 15 answers · asked by KaN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Our country has romanticized the idea of what a relationship needs, called love. It's sad to me that America has decided that if a relationship isn't all that we see in the movies then it's no good and hence the high divorce rate.
People in other countries typically are put into arranged marriages. They don't know each other to begin with...imagine dealing with that. But, divorce is not usually an option for them, so they learn to love each other. Love is a very objective thing. If you're married to that person, I say work for that marriage and don't give up just because you don't think that you "love" them. Love is something that can be learned. Discover more about your spouse and learn to love.
Marriages tend to go up and down in the feelings of love. Just like your own emotions go up and down. Give it some time and work at and for you marriage.
2007-03-02 08:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Go Bruins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word NOPE!!! Got an uncle who fell for this floozy and tried to make a 'h o' into a housewife boy did he set himself up for a let down. Love is not something that be forced it has to originate in the heart of those involved and when one is uncertain about it that is a sign that it is time for some serious soul searching.
Getting married in the hopes that marriage in and of itself will make love bloom is naive at best because the old adage goes; first comes love then comes marriage... Hokey as it may sound it is true so best be certain before you say I do or you'll wind up another embittered divorce statistic obligated to pay alimony and perhaps child-support to someone you never really cared about, or you may wind up like my uncle's case, never really cared about in the first place.
2007-03-02 08:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by rashawn4u2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throughout history, when the divorce rate was low compared with "modern" times, most marriages were arranged. The 2 parties learned to 'love' each other over time.
We have it backwards in modern times, we think we have to love someone to marry them, when just the opposite was true for 1000's of years.
Maybe they 'knew' something "back then"?
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2007-03-02 08:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by tlbs101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work at it.
Marriage does not work just because you are married. It is a commitment that you work at ever day. You need love, patience, acceptance, consistency, respect, forgiveness, honesty and communication.
You have to realize what is making you feel you do not truly love this person. If it is fixable, then fix it. It will not fix itself.
2007-03-02 08:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not!..if u dont truly love someone why would u get married?...no wait for the girl that will be worth it and that ur head over heels about..
2007-03-02 08:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. unless you accept the fact that you will be in an unhappy and loveless marriage. even the best of us can only stay so long...i stayed 10 years (way too long) and leaving was the best thing i ever did for myself. i found happiness and love -- and a man that I will love growing old with.
2007-03-02 08:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and if you don't truly love someone you should NOT get married, sorry thats just wrong.
2007-03-02 08:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a no brainer. The marriage won't last if there isn't love. Why get married without it?
2007-03-02 08:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably not...its hard to stay with someone that long if you truly don't love them
2007-03-02 08:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sammyjo007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is a complicated concept. If you respect that person and they respect you 'love' grows. respect will hold you together on the days that love is in short supply.
2007-03-02 08:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋