and we are ready 2 settle down, but over the last few day he is really getting me mad (un that is put nicley) we have lived together for 3 years in a flat un have had our ups un downs, but the way i am feeling at the mo i just wont to end it, I do love him un i know relationships are hard but this is doing my head in help xxxxxxx
2007-03-02 08:04:08 · 11 answers · asked by marshy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is tricky! buying a house together is pretty much being married together! i guess all you really can do is figure out what is bothering you-- you need to talk it out because he might be doing something unintentionally with out realising it!! good luck
2007-03-02 08:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by sprite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you feel trapped. Boy, do I know that feeling.
Four years ago, I bought a house with my partner. up to then, he had lived in My house, but somehow persuaded me that buying a house together was a sign of committment.
The day we moved in, he started going around roaring at me and the kids to keep the place tidy, "things were going to change".
I left him after 48 hours. It took a week of pleading for him to get me back. I had to lay some ground rules;
Do not ever, ever, tell me what to do.
The sale of my house made it possible for us to buy this house.
I am the boss, I made this life possible.
Shut up.
Well, you get the picture.
I thought my easy-going fella had turned into a control freak; it's a guy thing, wanting to be in charge.
We sorted it to some extent; but as for you,; is this what you really want? You have just bought into a legal partnership in buying a house together...are you running scared?
Tell him how you feel, he may not know. Why not give it a few months in the house together, just to see if it's just temporary cold feet? I hate to say this, but often your gut feeling about something is right.
2007-03-02 08:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying a house is stressful - so give it a few weeks for the dust to settle. Buying a house is like getting married - its a big financial committment that you shouldn't go rushing into. You have lived together three years so you know you can do it - and to be honest we all have our ups and downs - no couple is perfect! Hang on in there your fella is probably just realising the great committment he has made!
2007-03-02 08:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he has been making you mad over the last few days. You sound like you need a good night out either together or with your mates. Try talking to him differently and see if he changes. I know if Im fed up then my boyfriend feels fed up too and when Im happy hes happy. Its just a phase. Give him a chance and ask him if he wants to talk about something - you never know he might feel the same as you.
2007-03-02 10:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by missBambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not very descriptive! If you can't pinpoint why he is doing your head in, then maybe the realisation that you've just bought a house and are stuck there with him has hit you and you're scared? Are you looking for things to annoy you? Is he actually doing anything different to what he did before?
2007-03-02 08:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to give us a clue why he isdoing your head in. Buying a house is a big commitment both emotionally and financially particulry when you find things wrong with it. It is a stressfull time so give him a chance and talk to him to find out what is going on.
2007-03-02 09:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to give you a break for a few days then see how you feel,its hard living with a fella cause they do wreck your head but i suppose they say the same about us women,but hey as they say,you can,t live with them and you cant live without them.good luck in the new house and i hope everything works out fine for you,s.
2007-03-02 08:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving house can be most stressful...chill out and rethink....you'll regret it if you finish the relationship.....also look at all that legal stuff you have to go through if you split....you cant saw the house in half hun....your just stressed out....calm down a bit....ignore him, and plan things
2007-03-02 09:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'understand Sur Alan.................. If James ought to easily study to maintain his gob close................... He'd be a super Apprentice.................... in simple terms a pity he suffers from that Foot In Mouth affliction!
2016-10-02 06:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of there
2007-03-02 08:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋