Im 17yrs old and already have a LiL boy and thinking about having another child?

Question

Me n my boyfriend just got a 4 betroom, 2 bath house and were thinking about having another baby. I am a stay at home mom and a proud parent of a handsome son who is my life. What do i do?

Answer 1

I think you should wait and get established first. Plus, not to push things, what's wrong with getting married before your next child.

I have been married for almost 3 years and am a mother to a wild 28 month old boy. Some days I wish that we had of waited even 1 more year before having him, but yet we still try for our second. Also 2 weeks before our 3 year anniversary I turn 26, so I have a little time on you.

If you have to come on here and ask a bunch of strangers something like this instead of being comfortable about talking between you and your boyfriend and satisfied with the decisions you both come to together, you have some work ahead of you before you get pregnant again.

I also tend to agree with wdrdogw. The questions and about ir being rape. He is 20 and you are 17, I believe in the eyes of the law, at least in the US that is still rape. Here is Canada it is a little different and I am not sure if you live elsewhere in the world what the laws are, but again, wait for a few years, get married and take your time.

Plus education is so important. Where I live you can't even work for a temp agency unless you have your high school diploma, actually you can't even do garbage collection without that diploma.

Answer 2

Let me tell you something. You already have lost your childhood and had to grow up quickly when you had your first child before 17. Your not married, but your having babies getting a house, and so on. Why has he not married you? If your good enough to live with and have kids with, your good enough to marry. How old is this guy? Why is he having babies with a teenager..scary! What makes you think he won't look at young high school girls? Your SO young, don't you want to experience life? Whats the rush? Seriously. If he was to walk out that door today, are you financially stable to take care of a child and yourself and a home for them and food and clothes and bills and car insurance and the list goes on? Kids are expensive, some parents barely dress them and feed them, but don't you want to give them the better things in life? You are Soooooooooooo young, so young! When I was 17, I was in high school and being a teenager not playing house and having babies..I'm sure you love your son. But having another baby will only take away more time from him right now. Gosh..your So blindly in love..all I can say is good luck..you will really, really , really need it. A house payment and utilities is a lot and then a family and then another baby, do you pamper yourself too? Women need things too! This is just crazy...

Answer 3

Did you buy the house or are you renting? Are you guys financially stable enough to pay for another child. If so, and your bf agrees and wants a child... go for it. But if you are not financially stable or he's not ready for another child, try going back to school or getting a part time job, or just focus on your son. Good luck in whatever you decide. Just make sure that you weigh the pros and cons logically and don't make the decision based entirely on emotions.

Answer 4

First, take an accounting of your finances. Since you are a stay-at-home mom you obviously don't earn an income. If your boyfriend is the sole breadwinner, you might consider getting married. The reason for this is that marriage is a symbol of commitment. If your boyfriend is unwilling to marry it is most likely that he will end up leaving you in the future. Divorce rates in the USA are through the roof and cohabitation split-ups are even more common (for the reason of lack of commitment).

Second, you should contemplate the purpose of baring children. Is it for the pleasure of raising them? Is it for the pleasure of having sex? Is it to strengthen your relationship with your boyfriend? ... All of the possibilities just mentioned are weak reasons for having another child. You MUST consider the life the child is going to have. The best reason for having children is that you are given a chance to raise a child the way you know they should be raised... to be given the needed knowledge to make a real difference in society. There are too many irresponsible people out there raising too many irresponsible children that contribute negatively to society.

If your boyfriend leaves you (which, statistically speaking, is very likely) your child will be fatherless at least for a time. It has been shown in case studies that children without both parents have more problems with drug addiction, violence toward others, depression and other sociological problems.

If you are religious, you should most definitely find out from whatever supreme being you worship what you should do. For example, if you believe in the Bible, you can know that you should "Lean not unto thine own understanding" but "Trust in the Lord, thy God and he will direct thy paths for good." If you are not religious, take some time to explore your morals. Think about what your child's life will be like if born into unfavorable circumstances.

My wife has a four-year degree in Home and Family Living from Brigham Young University and most of what I have just told you comes from things she has told me throughout the course of her studies. Take it to heart. Think about your situation... without rose-colored glasses.

Answer 5

Are you prepared to financially look after the two infants your self (meaning nutrition, outfits, toys, wellbeing care provider, dentist, college components, day care, college, etc, etc, etc) Do you have the time to look after this youngster? Are you (and the daddy) waiting to settle for finished duty for this newborn who will at some point substitute right into a functioning member of society? How plenty are you based on your man or woman mothers and dads/guardians/relatives individuals/acquaintances in taking good care of the present toddler? in case you fairly like toddlers, i could advise toddler sitting or getting a activity at an afternoon care (which will pay properly) the worldwide would not choose extra infants having infants, you nonetheless have a existence past to you and that i think of you should conform with the person worldwide until now bringing in extra teenagers.

Answer 6

Hon...it may seem like it is wonderful to "play house", but someday you will want to do something else with your life. I have seen so many young girls missing the "out of the house" life, end up having affairs or partying too much to be a sucessful mother or wife. Do your child or children a favor and have a degree so you have something for you. You can only give, what you have.

Answer 7

Before thinking about having another child why wouldnt you think about getting married? Are you sure your boyfriend is going to stay with you? What would you do if he didnt. Think about getting married first, i mean you have a child and a house already......

Answer 8

You need to do what you think is best for all of you. I'd really think about it though cause you are still young. Maybe you'd like to spend time with the way things are now or do something education wise. Do whats best for you, don't let anyone pressure you.

Answer 9

it is not good for ur health to have child too early and quick. it has a chances of having cancer in a longer run. so take care of ur 1st child properly and give some time to ur relation. wait for two three years. think of future of ur son. if possible Merrie him.

Answer 10

girl u have your hole life in front of u u just 17 look i am 24 wit no kid/kids i dont think u should have another child so soon i say wait