I am with a woman. She means everything to me, and I love her so much, but lately I have been having thoughts about having sex with a guy. Is that normal? I used to be straight, and went out with guys, before I discovered I was a lesbian. But lately, I have just been wanting to find a guy just to do him, nothing more, is that wrong?
2007-03-02 07:24:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No. Why would you think it was? You may be like many people whom are hetero- as well as homo-sexual who have an overwhelming urge to have sex the other way around if you will. The first thing you should really do is have a very blunt and straight-forward(no pun intended at all I assure you) talk with her. Explain to her your need and ask her what and how she would feel about this if you do this. Yes the possibility that you are bi-sexual is quite likely, yet I'm not a sex counselor so I'm in no position to tell you if you are or not. Although, from your description of things, you very well may be. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this!! You may very well be surprised at your g.f.'s understanding ans approval of things as they are. Talk to her first though before doing anything on impulse!!!!!
2007-03-02 08:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sexuality, some people find that they enjoy both men and women's company.
If you love your lady friend and respect her, share this with her as a "fanasty." Tell her what you want, but more importantly... Know that bringing in ANYONE can cause problems. Whether you are faithful with each other or not, it really doesn't matter. Drama is always caused by threesomes.
Take care of each other.
2007-03-02 15:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by _Lara_Bell_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...nothing wrong with that situation. Just make sure you like the guy fist and try not to hurt his feelings. Enjoy your life....before you know it....you will be 40 and thinking about your time running out. Go ahead and do what you want, but be careful girlfriend.
2007-03-02 16:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by BMF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's quite common for many bisexuals to crave sex with one gender and crave romance/love with the other gender..
is it wrong? well, cheating would be wrong. at least i think it is..
casual sex or one night stands in general, wrong? well, that's something you need to decide for yourself..
overall, chances are you've always been bi, but are just realizing this now. you can't really "change" from straight to lesbian back and forth..
2007-03-02 15:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a straight woman, but i'd say consider your relationship first. otherwise i'd say perhaps you're bi. if nothing else try a one night stand w/ a guy. or if she's game the 2 of you have sex w/ a guy. she may like a 3-some.
2007-03-02 15:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by i hate undies! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're bisexual and going back and forth between the teams a little. If it starts to look like it could cause you to step outsides the boundaries of the relationship then talk to her and see if she's ok with you occasionally seeking male companionship.
2007-03-03 01:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay, Lesbian, Straight, Bi, they all are based on who you are attracted to, not who you sleep with.
If you are attracted to men and women, then you are Bi - simple as that.
It sounds like you were Bi the whole time, you just hadn't considered or accepted your attractions. Society doesn't accept Gay/Lesbian/Bi folk, so it's likely you suppressed the feelings you had for women prior to falling in love with one. Lesbian society really looks down on Bi women, so it's likely you dismissed all your previous feelings about me, to be accepted. Sounds like you're now considering what you really feel, for both men and women.
2007-03-02 15:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is not wrong, it's how you feel. Discuss it with your loved one, and who knows, maybe she would understand the occassional want for something a little different.
Are you over 20?
2007-03-02 15:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is that wrong???
Where did we ever get so off track?
Thats nature dear...
welcome to the birds and the bees
2007-03-02 15:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that would be wrong. Are you in a committed relationship, or not? How would your woman lover feel about that?
2007-03-02 15:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋