I'm kinda afraid and scared to give my man oral. I've never done it before and he keeps bugging me that I never give it to him. He says his old gf used to give it to him all the time. How to I do it? How to I tell him I've never done it before? Any other advice?
2007-03-02 07:09:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm kinda afraid and scared to give my man oral. I've never done it before and he keeps bugging me that I never give it to him. He says his old gf used to give it to him all the time. How to I do it? How to I tell him I've never done it before? Any other advice?
I don't really care for when he gives me oral so its not like i have to give it to him in return
2007-03-02 07:12:09 · update #1
For your first time, you can kinda give him a hand job and lick the tip. Believe me, he will love it! :)
Amanda
2007-03-02 07:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
First of all dont do it if you dont feel comfortable, and he shouldnt be pressuring you to do it anyway (but guys do tend to do that). You must watch out for STD's if you havent been together for long and arent in a commited relationship or havent been tested. If you are worried about that you can put a condom on him before you start. As far as the actual oral sex each guy is different and you have to try different things to see what he does or doesnt like. You just pretty much take all of him (or as much as you can) into your mouth and move up and down him. DONT use your teeth or you will scrap him. You can also use your hands while moving your mouth, and also use your tongue to lick and suck. As far as telling him that is up to you. You can ask him what he likes just say that every guy is different and you want to know what he prefers so he can enjoy! Good luck and it just takes practice.
2007-03-02 07:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by brandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you TOLD him your an oral virgin? You need to be upfront about these sorts of things.
Go get a book called the Joy of Sex. Its a basic manual of sex techniques. There are plenty of other books out there as well (Sensational Sex also comes to mind).
The basics are just licking, sucking and rubbing his penis. Its not that hard. Just make sure he's clean (no odor or bad taste). And ask him to help you. Not every guy is going to want oral the same way.
And tell him NO HANDS! The last thing you need is him jamming your head down and ramming it down your throat. THAT would be the end of it for me, that's for sure.
2007-03-02 07:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, you should tell him to maybe not mention that his ex gave him oral...I mean, that wouldn't be much incentive for me to do it, you know? Just tell him you've never done it before, so if you're not as good at first, then he can tell you what he likes and both of you will happy. And maybe you'll get something in return ;p
2007-03-02 07:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley Osborn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell him that you don't care what his ex girlfriend used to do to him, because your not his ex girlfriend.
Tell him that you've never done it,
but that your... "willing to do anything he wants you to do
as long as it gets him off...."
That line always turns men on.
Tell him that you want to do it,
But aren't really sure how to do it on him,
Just let your mouth explore all over him,
And remember to suck, and no biting!!!
Keep your teeth out of the way, DONT let your teeth touch his penis, because it will cause him a great deal of pain.
Sorry to be so vulgar, it's just the truth tho!
Trust me hun, In no time you'll have it down,
It's a lot of fun....
Practice makes perfect!
2007-03-02 07:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by It's Just me.... Kiwi :) 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not do it for the wrong reasons!
First of all, if his old girlfriend used to go down on him all of the time he might have STDs.
Second of all, nobody should be pressuring you to do sexual things that you're not ready for, if your boyfriend can't accept that, then you need to find a new boyfriend.
If you do really feel that you're ready, just be honest, and use protection.
2007-03-02 12:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Abbie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and he'll help you do it.
I remember when I first gave oral to my husband. I had never done it before, but he helped me do it right.
Don't be scared. Everyone has a first time. :)
2007-03-02 07:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldnt do it just cuz hes a jerk by bringing up what he did in past relationships. Its disrespectful. Sex is only pleasurable and healthy when both parties enjoy and want to perform any act on each other. I think the real question is...Are you sure this relationship your in is healthy?
2007-03-02 07:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by x0nix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st he shouldnt be talking about his ex around you.. seriously. Seocond if ur not comfortable doing it then tell him. if he cant accept that then maybe hes the wrong guy. Any guy who will get mad over that doesnt deserve any girl.
2007-03-02 07:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you have never done it..but u would give it a try. and ask him to guide you,so he will surely guide you for his own pleasure.
2007-03-02 10:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by jinie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE FACT THAT HE IS BRINGING UP HIS EX GIRLFRIEND IS JUST RUDE!!! Who cares what she did! He is with you not her. I would tell him to stop bringing her into it. As far as you doing that for him, only do it if you want to. Ask him to help show you how he likes it. that isthe best way.
2007-03-02 07:52:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋