Was the first time awkward, hot, embarrasing? I need to know what to expect. I'm seriously thinking about trying it out but I don't want any crazy suprises. Anything I should know? Oh, and were you intoxicated or not? Does that help with the first time or is it better to be sober?
2007-03-02 06:55:12 · 6 answers · asked by danielle s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have 'played' with women on and off for the last few years, and although I cannot tell you how it will be for you or what to expect (as everyone is different), I can tell you about my experience.
We had joked around for some time and I knew she was into other women. She often flirted, and I flirted back telling her one day we would end up in the bathtub together. Well, the next time she was at my house, we had a couple wine coolers and we were talking about our previous bathtub conversation and decided to go ahead and start the water. We climbed in and just started to talk about silly stuff, where was craziest place you ever, what was your first gay experience, etc. I climbed out to get a 'toy' and she took it from me. I asked her how she liked it (inside or outside) and if she needed help. My goodness if she were going to masturbate in front of me, I wanted to help. We played and talked throughout, what do you like, can I kiss you. When you ask ?'s the other person generally will ask as well and this will help guide what your preferences and dislikes are. I liked the tub because I had not been oral with a woman and being in the water just made it seem OK to me. It was a fantastic time and the more I enjoyed it, I realized I was no longer flirting with the idea I may be bi, but more so confirming my attraction to women. We were in the tub for over 3 hours!!
2007-03-02 07:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should try anything without a relationship first! it is very important to have a good relationship that you are comfortable in first. once you are comfortable in your feelings for someone, then the rest will come. Teehee. Seriously, talk to this protential person. Really talk to them. And NO dont "try this out" while drunk! You want to make sure that what you are doing and feeling is true to you and not some other influence!
2007-03-02 15:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by outofmymind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was completely sober and it was the first time for both of us and it was very HOT not embarrassing at all. We talked and learned what each one of us liked. We were up all night I'll never forget it.
I say stay sober so you can remember everything. Just try talking through it...it does help as corny as it sounds.
2007-03-02 16:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's HOT! And make sure you have privacy. Light some candles and relax. A good backrub is a great beginning to sex. For me, I wasn't drunk. Don't talk about exes. Just have a great time with the woman - You'll love it.
2007-03-02 15:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it will be awkward the first time.. what you need to decide, do you want casual sex with a stranger or fling, or do you want it with someone you are in a trusting, loving, relationship with.. if it's love and trust, you will feel more relaxed and comfortable..
2007-03-02 15:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun dont think about it
2007-03-02 15:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by JASUFER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋