What's wrong with having a giant ego?

Answer 1

Its not really real. Its something you tell yourself you are.
The first thing to be understood is what ego is. A child is born. A child is born without any knowledge, any consciousness of his own self. The first thing he becomes aware of is not himself; the first thing he becomes aware of is the other. It is natural, because the eyes open outwards, the hands touch others, the ears listen to others, the tongue tastes food and the nose smells the outside. All these senses open outwards.
He becomes aware of the mother first. Then he becomes aware of his own body. That too is the other, that too belongs to the world. He is hungry and he feels the body; his need is satisfied, he forgets the body.
This is how a child grows. First he becomes aware of you, then he becomes aware of himself.
He is not aware of who he is. He is simply aware of the mother and what she thinks about him. If she smiles, if she appreciates the child, if she says, "You are beautiful," if she hugs and kisses him, the child feels good about himself. Now an ego is born.
Through appreciation, love, care, he feels he is good, he feels he is valuable, he feels he has some significance.

A center is born.

But this center is a reflected center. It is not his real being. He does not know who he is; he simply knows what others think about him. And this is the ego: the reflection, what others think. If nobody thinks that he is of any use, nobody appreciates him, nobody smiles, then too an ego is born: an ill ego; sad, rejected, like a wound; feeling inferior, worthless. This too is the ego. This too is a reflection.
As the child grows, the more complex the ego becomes, because many others' opinions are reflected.
The ego is an accumulated phenomenon, a by-product of living with others. If a child lives totally alone, he will never come to grow an ego. But that is not going to help. He will remain like an animal. That doesn't mean that he will come to know the real self, no.

You will go to school and the teacher will reflect who you are. You will be in friendship with other children and they will reflect who you are. By and by, everybody is adding to your ego, and everybody is trying to modify it in such a way that you don't become a problem to the society.

They are not concerned with you.

They are concerned with the society.

Society is concerned with itself, and that's how it should be.
One man kills somebody - he is a murderer.

And the same man in wartime kills thousands - he becomes a great hero. The society is not bothered by a murder, but the murder should be commited for the society - then it is okay. The society doesn't bother about morality.

Morality means only that you should fit with the society.


You get the idea of who you are from others.

It is not a direct experience.

You live through others and their opinions of you become the only things that matter to you. This is not living. Its a very tiring existance..

Whoever stops thinking 'I am' and starts thinking 'I feel', will live a much happier life.

People who see themselves as 'better' than others, will find it very hard to comunicate and build true friendships. People dislike people who are contantly building themselves up or talking about themselves. No-one is really interested and they find it big headed and very boring to be around! Whilst they might apear to 'love themselves' the oposite is actually true, and they are loved by no-one.

Saying that a person who is always saying 'I suck' has just as bigger ego as someone that always says 'I rule!' They're still focusing on all of that, they just express it differantly, and may do it so other people give them compliments, thus giving them the opinons of others again.

sorry........ that was long!xx

Answer 2

First, one with a giant ego will wind up with no friends; no one on his/her side. One with a giant ego acts superior to others, and tends to put others down. That type of person ends up being disliked by others--only to be loved by him/herself.

While one must love him/herself in order to function and socialize, one with a huge ego overdoes it on him or herself. This type of person thinks the entire world revolves around him (her), and that no one else is of any importance. This person will not make it in the real world--not even at a job.

Answer 3

Well it is not good for the people around...cuz they have to pay attention to you, you need aproval for everything, you need to be admired..and trust me people around have more smarter things to do than feeding your ego, if you know what I mean.
So try to be humble, and people will like you and treat you well., not because of your giant ego, but of your kindess.

Answer 4

Generally giant egos really mean severely low senses of self -esteem. They have to appear bigger and badder and superior to make themselves actually feel better about themselves.

Answer 5

Feminism is the assertion that girls folk could have the comparable rights and opportunities as adult men. i won't be able to think of any male who has a daughter who isn't a feminist. could the reality my daughter became born with a undeniable configuration of plumbing have much less rights and much less opportunities than yet another baby born with different plumbing? it fairly is stupid and ridiculous. those, such as you, who seem to have faith a penis imparts some extra proper rights and potential are people who're smug and ignorant.

Answer 6

If you have to point out that you are great, it usually means that you are not.

Answer 7

u can never admit u r wrong...

Answer 8

it's ignorant