my 13yr old son has been a handful at school an at home over the years,now my 10yrold so is copying him,how do

Question

how do i put a stop to this behaviour without losing it!!

i have 2 other children that are very well behaved.

there dad and i are seperated but i have had another partner for 3 years whom they both get on well with

Answer 1

Dont allow the children to act in that manner. You wouldnt let your dog bite you or other people would you?

I know kids arent dogs, but its the same idea. If you wont want a certain behavior, dont allow it.

You're the parent, so parent them.

teach them how to behave, expect it of them, and punish them when they dont behave in the way they should.

Answer 2

Are you the Mom or the Dad? If this is a two parent household, both parents should be dealing with this. Find out who these boys are hanging out with, keep them under a watchful eye. Don't let them go off to the Mall without adult supervision. Take away some of the "toys". Enlist the help of a school counselor or seek one out yourself. I'm wondering how both of them evolved to the point where they think they can get away with bad behavior.

Answer 3

My girlfriends boy is 15 now and was always being sent to the office and started doing drugs. His behavior was the first clue to his recklessness. You have every right to get him tested. I would say to him in a calm way that you are concerned with his behavior. Ask him is he is being bullied at school? Are you doing drugs. and remember they are good liers. and very convincing. If he say hell no! then tell him ....then you won't mind if I take you to the doctors to have you tested. Tell him cause you heard that some older children are putting drugs into younger kids drinks and stuff to get them hooked to they can sell to them. I think it's drugs. My older brothers boy is 13 and he is doing cocain. So don't be surprised. Good luck
Joce

Answer 4

ok first each and every baby has heard of the human centipede lots of say that they have got watched it whilst they have been given freaked by potential of the trailer. it fairly is not proper for a baby of 10 it fairly is an 18 for a reason. And it could influence your youngster's psychological well being state and progression extra desirable than you are going to be able to think of. i does not propose all of us watch it not to indicate a ten 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous

Answer 5

There's not much you can do these days thanks to the political correctness brigade, other than just stand-up to them when they act up.... basically tell them in a firm voice to pack it in at the first sign of trouble, so they know you aren't prepared to take any cr*p off them.

If that fails, I've found with my cousin's oldest son (turned 14yrs old on christmas day) the best way to deal with them is to grab hold of their hand using the "hand grip of death" (where you get hold of their hand between your thumb and forefinger round their knuckles, but not their thumb)........ and squeeze down just hard enough to get them to pay attention (but not enough to cause injury), then just tell it to them straight..... throwing in threats of being grounded + cancellation of any pocket money until further notice if appropriate.

Getting them interested in fishing (if they aren't already) is also a well know way of improving the behaviour of kids their age (certainly had an impact on my cousin's son)
http://www.gethookedonfishing.org.uk/

Answer 6

You need to set some boundaries for both children. Every poor choice has a consequence and the consequence has to be carried out NO MATTER WHAT. Don't try to be the childrens friend - be the parent and put some behaviorial requirements on them and stick to it.

Answer 7

See with my I didn't set out to piss people off that day. Stuff happens. Granted stuff seems to happen to me and others more but hay. Granted I made stupid decisions as does your son but you need to just sit down and talk to him. Not when he is mad, or is in trouble but after the fact. Also, you should not make him talk to you. That would not only anger him but damage you relationship.You should always offer to talk to your son knowing that he will 99.99% of the time say no. Like I said before, I doubt you son sets out to make trouble, and you should remember that. With that, I kinda just phased out. I'm sure your son will do the same. With your younger son. Just spend time with him and try to stop him from taking that path. Wep, good luck and I hope all goes well with you and your family. Good Luck!

Answer 8

In my research (currently writing my master's thesis on adolescent sexual behavior, but I'm sure can be valid for other forms of deviant adolescent behavior) the main thing that I've found that deters adolscents from problem is behavior is relationship with parent and if the teen is satisified with the way that they and their parent communicate. I know it sounds simple, but open communication is so important in a teen's life. Adolescence is often a time of chaos for many teens. It's difficult for them to know where they fit in as they no longer sit at the kids' table but aren't welcome at the adult table yet. As a result they may try to gain agency (autonomy, independence) by acting out. What is most important to teens is not the actual parenting style that you project, but how they *perceive* that parenting style. So...ask your son. Ask him if he thinks you're doing a good job as a parent and don't be defensive. Find out what he expects of you as his parent.

Another thing I've found in my research - it is vastly important to allow teens to make their own decisions, but it is equally important for you to set rules and guidelines. Teens thrive most in this kind of environment. Think of independence giving on a 7 point scale. You want to shoot for a 3-5. Too much and too little independence often causes problem behaviors.

So...give a little independence, but make sure to set and enforce rules. And talk talk talk!

Answer 9

you should have gave them the belt years ago, but its too late now. He's 13 so he's going to want to do a lot with friends, tell him he can't b/c he isn't doing what he is suppose to do at school and home. Don't give him your hard earned money because he wants a game or skateboard, teach him his actions has consequences and when he acts right he can get those things. don't let him rule over you, he lives in your house and eats your food, he don't got shyt.

Answer 10

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