My girlfreind and I have three kids, and about 5 months ago we gain a new member in the family, her sister. Who is 14 and is full of bad habits nourished from thier mom, hence having to come live with us. My girlfriend is 19 and very caring. She asked me if it was okay, I said yes, under the terms, she becomes a member of the family, ya know helping out and so forth, and if she follows rules, well, it was going fine at first, then Her sister started to act out, by not listening, to us when we told her to by a winter coat, and I said the sister could borrow a dresser of mine, although her sister had the money to buy her own she still used mine, so i wanted my dresser back and that was a big issue, but if shehadn't been buying drugs she already have a dresser. Her sister mouth off to me and lied, so got in trouble when it should have been her, in trouble, she refused to help out at home, leaving dirty dishes around, so I kicked her gave a fair warning and kicked her out, was I right.
2007-03-02 06:13:26 · 11 answers · asked by Frost bite 1 in Dining Out ➔ Other - Dining Out
You can only help someone so much. The rest is up to that person. Just don't turn your back on her, and still try to help her when you can. You also MUST make sure that SHE knows that SHE is the reason you kicked her out. Dont become another reason why her life sucks, let her know that it was her decisions that caused you to kick her out.
2007-03-02 06:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were right. You two have enough going on with your own 3 kids who must be very young and should be your top priority. You do not say you age, but if your girlfriend is only 19, she should not be raising her 14 year old sister. You also should not have drug use around your kids. I hope you did not just kick her out and found her another place to live. She needs professional help. If there is no one else to help with her call Social Services to make sure she isn't living on the street.
2007-03-02 06:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by dkwkbmn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! This girl is family, and that's the one place you never turn your back to. She obviously has some problems, but you'll never help her find her answers if you don't let her know there are people who care about her.
Let your girlfriend know what's on your mind, and assure her that you didn't throw the baby sister out simply to punish her for her attitude. Give her the help (that is, help her get the help) she needs with detox, counseling, therapy, tough love, or whatever it takes to get her back to herself. Insist that she takes better care of herself.
As far as that dresser -- why not take her to a second-hand or consignment shop and let her purchase her own for a couple of dollars? Hope that she won't have to go all the way to the bottom before she'll get help!!!
2007-03-02 06:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by NJGuy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the correct thing. Even though she is family your girlfriend knew the stipulations before her sister moved in and should have spelled these out to her sister. I would not allow anyone to disrespect me, my family, or my house. So when she wants to get her act together consider giving her a second chance.
2007-03-05 02:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by someadvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i don't like adult males that do drugs both... it truly is why i do not date them what so ever. only save him round as a reliable friends, friends very last more than relationships in any case :) If he makes you chortle and also you're chuffed with him, then friendship is the perfect answer.
2016-12-05 03:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation... it is your house and your rules. You have a right to that ...and to your opinions and feelings. You can only give someone a "second chance" so many times!
2007-03-02 06:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were right. She needed some tough love.
2007-03-03 23:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by not the real me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Thats your home. She knew she had rules to follow when she moved in.
2007-03-02 06:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the wrong thing by having three kids out of wedlock
2007-03-02 06:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by rsb332002 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would have done the same. but your biggest question should be does your spouse think it was the right thing? much luck to you.
2007-03-02 06:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋