I've been friend of him for 13yrs and her for like 10yrs, they are now getting a divorce and both of them want full custody of the kids now since they know me for a long time he is telling me to go to court with him and say that she hasn't been a responsible mother and at the same time she is telling me that he's been really rude and mean and she's afraid something might happened to the kids. I know this is all a bunch of cra.p since I know them both and I know she is a nice mother and really cares about her kids and same to him I know his kids love him to death, I told them both to forget it that I want to be out of this, and both understood, now I feel like I lost both of them, I've try calling and no return calls, should I keep trying or should I just give up, and loose my bestfriends?
2007-03-02 06:03:03 · 9 answers · asked by Shadow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did the right thing when you told them that you will stay out of it. Both of them are trying to get full custody of the kids and wanted you to lie about the other person on their behalf. Keep in mind that if you lie in court, it is called perjury and you could go to jail for that. I would cut off all contact with them because of them made it very clear that they don't want to be your friend anymore since you chose to stay out of it. The court will decide whom will get full custody. In the meantime, stay focused on what's important in life and continue to make new friends whom will not ask you to lie on their behalf. Good luck to you and I hope my advice will help you.
2007-03-02 06:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving up does not mean you will lose them. They are probably too embarrassed to talk to you. Im sure by now they've realized how dumb they were acting. No friend puts you in a position like that. If they are really your friends, they will call you and appologize, but if they're not, they will ignore your calls for ever for not wanting to do them the favor, and if this is the case then they're not good enough to be your friends.
2007-03-02 14:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing staying out of the custody battle. It's very difficult for everyone when a couple separates. I left my husband 2 yrs ago, and in the process lost many people who were dear to me.
Please, please, continue to call them both, support them both, let them know you love them both. They will need you.
2007-03-02 14:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Don't lie for either of them. I don't think they should put any responsibility on you. They have to work things out by themselves in an honest legal way. You write very long sentences. Try and make them a little shorter.
2007-03-02 14:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get inbetween someone else battle, let them fight among themselves, you don't have no say so to this situation, your just a best friend so do nothing, let them know you love both of them but you can't get inbetween their battle. Trust me when it is over you will be proud of yourself for not coming inbetween your friends. You don't want to loose your best friends.
2007-03-02 14:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything, don't even call them, they need time to sort this out for themselves and if you go visiting or whatever they are going to think you are taking sides. Let them get on with it and when they are ready they will come back to you if they are really your friends.
2007-03-02 14:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by Debi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you can't perjure yourself in court and that for you AND whoever you're lying for if you get caught, you'll both get into trouble with the courts.
2007-03-02 14:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u can't try to join dem then take nobody's side.de will sooon come to u
2007-03-02 14:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by prachi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say im not getting into it .. that is there buisness
2007-03-02 16:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋