I'm bicurious and going crazy! Help!?

Question

I've been trying to ignore these urges for years. Now, it's just uncontrollable. I've been satisfying my urges through porn but I want to experience the real thing.

Problem: My fiance doesn't know how strong these urges have been. I told him one night that I'd been thinking about it more but he just brushed me off. When we first met, he asked me about it and I told him I thought about it but never did and that it was probably a phase.

What do I do? And is this just genetic or was I exposed to something early on that made me feel this way. I try to block it out but can't!

Answer 1

people are born with their sexual orientation.

you are not unlike many bisexuals who feel they can't be totally safisfied with just one partner.. sadly, many bisexuals in your position will cheat with a same sex partner in order to satisfy these cravings.. the other thing you could do is ask permission from fiance to have a same sex friend on the side.. and potentially invite him to take part in sexual activities..

i am bisexual but don't identify with these poly feelings. i personally believe that if you really love someone, then you won't want anyone else.. could be you are not quite ready to settle down.. could be you need to get that same sex experiences out of the way before getting married..

or who knows? maybe you are actually lesbian and just don't realize it yet!

bottom line, i wouldn't ignore these feelings.. they won't go away, and you're marriage will suffer..

Answer 2

If I really feel the way you do, then I'd be thinking about how to tell my fiance I want to go out and experiment. It might not go over so well with him, but then again, sitting there driving yourself nuts isn't helping either. You might want to find a way to maybe take a little break from your relationship OR, you can try to involve him in your experimentation. Whatever you are into.